There is a power that if used, would completely free you from all resistance. Unfortunately this power is so simple, something you’ve probably heard countless times before, that you will reject it off hand as something you already know.
Yet if you aren’t applying this simple idea, then it’s just intellectual knowledge. The true application of this power— the power of acceptance— would truly free you from all suffering, all pain, and even all negative manifestations.
Despite what seems self-evident to our ego, if you were to completely accept what is, your life would change virtually in an instant. You would begin to get all the things you want.
Press play to learn how this power can be used in your own life.
- [01:36] – Acceptance is counterintuitive for the ego
- [05:02] – What you push against, just gets bigger
- [07:17] – Acceptance weakens all problems and moves you towards what you want
- [10:03] – Acceptance is an instant key to the present moment
- [15:06] – It’s OK to feel good about the future or the past, but all power is in the present
- [20:21] – Am I accepting what is?
Elinara: Thou has no right but to do thy will. Do that, and no other shall say nay.
Melektoth: Welcome to the Dark Ascent Podcast, where we help you become the God of your reality. This is episode 24, The Power of Acceptance. To learn more about our work, please visit darkascent.org.
Melektoth: Hi everyone. Welcome to our podcast. This is Melektoth and I am here with my wife Elinara.
Melektoth: And today we are talking about something that I fear on the surface may sound a little boring, but I don't want you to underestimate the power of what we're discussing, because I truly believe that it is one of the most powerful concepts that you could possibly understand, and that if properly grasped and if properly applied to your life, you could truly see outstanding results very quickly. Of course, by the title, that is The Power of Acceptance.
Acceptance is counterintuitive for the ego
Melektoth: Acceptance is something that a lot of law of attraction teachers do talk about, but I think it's something that a lot of people just don't really apply all that often.
Melektoth: I know even for myself, I struggle a lot, at times, with applying acceptance, because I think at the root of the issue, there is this belief that comes from the ego that in order to get what we want, we must try, try, try. We must put in a lot of effort. We must strive, we must suffer, we must struggle, to get this thing to happen. We must force the universe to bring us what we want.
Melektoth: And we have all these stories about people who basically built up from nothing and who struggled and got what they wanted in life, and finally succeeded after years of struggle or whatever. And so we kind of believe egoically that that's how it goes, that we have to struggle and force things into place.
Melektoth: But we know that this is not the case by the law of attraction, by any magickal or spiritual principle out there. This is not the case. Because when you struggle, what do you get? You get more struggle. It's really simple. And again, I don't want you to underestimate this. I don't want you to say, oh yeah, I know that and just move on, because if you don't have the things you want, it's probably because you're not accepting and you're resisting it.
Melektoth: I know from the people I've worked with, from clients I've worked with, from students in my courses that I've responded to, I know that just about everyone is resisting the things they don't want.
Elinara: Well we all do. I feel like it's-
Melektoth: Yeah, it's just something we do.
Elinara: It's like a fight or flight thing.
Elinara: It's a protective mechanism or defense mechanism.
Melektoth: Exactly, and so it's common. But acceptance, even though it's counterintuitive, even though it goes against what the ego is telling us, acceptance is the path to getting what we want.
Melektoth: Now it doesn't seem like it because it seems like what the ego kind of tells us, if we accept what is, then life will stay the same.
Elinara: And that it's passive.
Melektoth: And that it's passive, yeah. We think, well, if I accept my money situation, if I accept my relationship situation or lack thereof, if I accept my job situation, if I accept my health situation, whatever it might be, then why would the universe change it?
Melektoth: We sort of have this idea that the universe will only change it, if it knows how much we really badly want this thing. And it applies to religious people. How often do people say they're praying really hard for this to happen and they're begging God and they're really wanting this to happen, and they're praying so hard?
Melektoth: It doesn't because, or you might hear those stories where it does, but largely it doesn't. And if it does, it's because they got so sick of trying so hard, they just gave up. And that is a form of acceptance.
What you push against, just gets bigger
Melektoth: But largely that just doesn't work. It just doesn't work to struggle and get what you want, because if you struggle, you will get more struggle.
Melektoth: And if you push against, you know, we have that cliche saying what you resist persists. If you push against something, it will grow. That's just the way of things. And so when you push against the financial situation, when you push against a relationship or you push against the health situation or whatever it might be, whatever the thing is that you don't want, you're perpetuating it. You're literally pouring more energy into that thing.
Melektoth: It's like if you had a plant that you didn't like, you wanted to kill off for some reason. And I said, “okay, well, you know, plants need water and sunlight, and just stop watering it. Stop giving it sunlight and it will die. I promise it will wilt and die.”
Melektoth: And you come back the next week and it's still really growing out of control ... “Have you watered it?” “Oh yeah. I water once a day” or whatever. “Have you taken it out of the sunlight?” “No, no, no. It's right there in the window.” Well, what do you want? What do you expect?
Elinara: Even just not watering it would have worked. Leaving it in the sunlight to dry.
Melektoth: Yeah. Well, whatever. Just covering all the bases.
Elinara: Yeah, you didn't.
Melektoth: I don't care.
Elinara: Just saying.
Melektoth: But, if you keep watering it and giving it sunlight, you are pouring energy into it. It is growing. And that's what we're doing with the things we don't want is, we say we don't want them. And then we talk about how much we don't want them (that's watering it), and we resist it (and that's watering it), and we push against it (and that's watering it). And we do all this stuff that's just focusing on the resistance. So it's growing bigger.
Melektoth: The thing we don't want is growing bigger because we so don't want it. And we're telling the world how much we don't want it, and we're telling the universe how much we don't want it. And we're constantly thinking about how much we don't want it and how unfair it is. And why can't it change more quickly? And where's my goal? And what do you think is going to happen?
Elinara: More of the same.
Melektoth: More of the same.
Elinara: It's just a victim thinking.
Melektoth: It is, yeah.
Acceptance weakens all problems and moves you towards what you want
Melektoth: And so the only way out of that trap, it is a trap. It will keep you stuck perpetually until you stop doing this. The only way out of that trap is acceptance. Accepting what is, and that's the last thing we want to do.
Melektoth: We don't want to accept it, because to accept it is to admit that it's here. To accept it is, to us, to admit defeat in a sense. It's to allow it to be here and we just don't want that. It's to make room for it and we sort of think that's going to perpetuate it and it's not. It's really not.
Melektoth: When you, accept that which you don't want, that which you don't prefer in your life, it weakens. You are no longer watering it. You are no longer giving it strength. You are no longer giving it your attention. And so when you start to accept it and just be okay with it, it starts to fade away. It dissolves, because you're naturally headed towards the stuff that you want, your desires.
Melektoth: You can't force your way there, but you're naturally moving in that direction as long as you're not resisting. But when you're pushing against the thing you don't want, you're stuck, you're holding yourself in place. So if you just accept, then you will start to dissolve that undesirable aspect. It's not going to stick around.
Melektoth: It'll stick around until it no longer serves you, until it no longer has a reason for being there.
Elinara: It's like quicksand.
Melektoth: Yeah, that's true. They say the more you struggle in quicksand, the faster you go down.
Elinara: Yeah, all you have to do is just relax into it.
Elinara: And even the Chinese finger traps that you always like to talk about.
Melektoth: Yeah, my favorite analogy, the Chinese finger traps, you struggle against it and it holds on tighter.
Elinara: I don't think I've ever played with one of those.
Melektoth: They're really cool. And you just relax into it and it lets go. So that acceptance is really powerful, because it just unravels the knot of the undesirable situation in your life. And you can't do it in order to get out of the situation. You can't say, “Well, if I accept this, then it will go away, so let me just accept this.” That's not real acceptance.
Melektoth: Real acceptance is just saying, this is okay. Maybe it's not what I prefer. Maybe it's not what I want forever, but right now, just for this moment, this is okay. And you just accept it. And when you do that, you're at peace.
Acceptance is an instant key to the present moment
Melektoth: The thing about resistance is that resistance holds you in either the past or the future, and I have discussed this concept a lot before, but it's worth repeating. Acceptance is always in the present and if you are in the present, you can only ever accept because you can't resist the present moment. You can only resist thoughts about what just was the present moment, but is now the past, or you can resist the future.
Elinara: That is so mind boggling.
Elinara: It's simple, but it's really like, Whoa!
Melektoth: Yeah, because if there's something going on that you don't like, first, you have to experience it, and then you have to think about it, and then you have to resist those thoughts. Now by the time you get to the point of thinking about it, it's already the past. It's already done.
Melektoth: You can never resist the present moment. By the time you get there, it's already the past.
Elinara: So interesting.
Melektoth: So you're only ever resisting the past or the future. You can never resist the present moment. And if you're accepting, that is an instant key to bringing you into the present moment. And it is in the present moment that all your power rests. That's where all your power is.
Melektoth: So by resisting you are stripping yourself of your power, because there's no power in the past or the future, because look, the past or the future don't actually exist. They're thoughts just like everything else. They're just thoughts. What happened yesterday is in here, it's a thought. What may happen tomorrow doesn't exist. It's a thought. When it happens, it will be the present moment and all you can do is accept it, but right now it's a thought.
Melektoth: So you can only resist thoughts. And there is no power in thought. There's only power in the stillness that exists in the present moment. That's where all power rests. So that acceptance will bring you back into the center of your power. It will help you to step back into your power, and from that place you can get to what you want.
Melektoth: Here's another way of looking at it. When you resist, when you want, when you are trying, when you're striving, when you're struggling, like I said earlier, what are you going to get? You're going to get more of that. So when you say, I really want more money, I really want a relationship or whatever it is and I don't have it. Number one, you're resisting what you don't have or your current situation, and number two, you are wanting, trying and striving for something you do want. That condition as lack. And so you will only manifest lack.
Melektoth: In the state of resistance. You can only ever manifest the lack of, the absence of what you want, but the moment you, except now you are no longer in a state of lack, now you're in the place of infinite possibilities. Now you are in that place where you can simply have what it is that you want, very simply. And I mean internally, emotionally because it can only ever exist in this moment, otherwise it's not real.
Melektoth: So when you accept, it brings you into the present moment. And that state of fullness, that state of acceptance, that state of peace, that state of serenity, of being okay, what do you think you'll manifest? The exact same things.
Melektoth: Now do you think what you want is more in alignment with struggle and lack and resistance and effort or more in alignment with acceptance and fullness and peace? Obviously the latter.
Melektoth: So it's obvious just by looking at the very nature of the law of attraction, that when you're in resistance, you're not going to get anything good. When you're not accepting you're not going to get anything good. And the only way to get to that point is by accepting. So only in that state of acceptance can you get the things you want, because that is the place that is in resonance, that is in alignment with all of your desires.
Melektoth: Your desires aren't going to bring you suffering. You wouldn't desire them otherwise, you never desire lack. No one says, “Oh, I really wish I had less money.” No one does that. No one wishes for lack.
Melektoth: So your desires never bring you there. The place where the fulfillment of your desires lives is in acceptance, which is in the present moment. The present moment is the key to the whole thing.
It's OK to feel good about the future or the past, but all power is in the present
Melektoth: And I just think that's so powerful because you know, it's nice to fantasize about the future. That comes-
Elinara: And that's okay to do-
Melektoth: That comes, yeah.
Elinara: ... as long as you don't get anxious about it.
Melektoth: Right. You know, people fantasize about the future, people dream about it, people visualize or whatever, but guess where you're doing that. You're doing it in the present moment. And that's fine to do that, but a lot of times to start, you just want to start with those emotions of fullness.
Melektoth: In fact, I'll mention it right here. We just released a course called Creating From Zero, which I'll link to in the show notes, which talks about this. We talk about something I called planting the seeds of your creations, which is in this present moment, just planting those seeds of what you want, letting them grow, but only being able to do so in this moment, in the present moment.
Melektoth: There's no visualization involved, there's no affirmations, there's nothing like that. It's just all present moment. Just what's right here right now. And in fact we had a guided meditation developed, which came out really awesome.
Elinara: Yeah, the whole course was awesome, though.
Melektoth: Yeah, people have been raving about it. I'm not trying to brag, it's just I've been receiving comments everyday about-
Elinara: Really? You haven't told me that [crosstalk 00:16:38].
Melektoth: Yeah, sorry. People have been commenting left and right, which is really rare actually.
Elinara: Yes, it is, for us.
Melektoth: So people have been commenting a lot on this course and they've been really getting a lot out of it.
Elinara: They just like your sound effects.
Melektoth: Yeah, I did— I put some sound effects. That was Elinara's fault.
Elinara: It was first your idea.
Melektoth: I know. But you convinced me to do it.
Elinara: I did. You always listen to me, well most of the time.
Melektoth: I know. But if you go to darkascent.org/creatingfromzero as all one word, you can get that, and also a link to the show notes.
Elinara: I was going to say do you spelled the word zero out?
Melektoth: Yes. Z-E-R-O. Thank you.
Elinara: That's important.
Melektoth: That is important. So yeah, check that out. It's a really awesome course, and we talk about this and it's a really important concept, but that's where everything is. And like I said, it's okay to visualize the future and it's okay even to enjoy the past.
Melektoth: In fact, a course that I'm taking right now that we're both taking actually, talks about as a kind of remedy of negative thoughts of your mind being out of control, going into past memories that are pleasant.
Elinara: It's amazing.
Melektoth: And that's really nice. I feel like it's sort of a bridge to present moment awareness. This person calls it no mind, but just being in the past in a pleasant memory, there's nothing wrong with that.
Elinara: I was going to say isn't no mind a little different?
Melektoth: Well, no mind is sort of the advanced form of that. It's when you can really control your mind and you're in that positive place so much that you can actually shut down your thoughts, then that's what happens. When you're just radically in the present moment, so much so that you're not even thinking, because any thought that enters is either past or future.
Elinara: Can you do it?
Melektoth: For a time, yes. Not for like 15 minutes or something, but for a time. And it only takes a few seconds to really reboot your mind and get back to a more positive place. You don't have to do it for half an hour or something.
Melektoth: But anyway, my point is that dreaming about the future, feeling good about the past, all of these things are helpful and they are nice for helping you to feel more positive, and they are really good tools. They're really useful tools. But they will only ever be escapes if you don't accept what is, if you say, “I hate what's going on right now, so let me jump into this past memory.” And then that's over, “Well, I'm back here now.”
Elinara: Sometimes I do when I'm in a lot of pain.
Melektoth: Sure. But it can be an escape. Like if I don't except what's here, then I'm going to have to perpetually live either in the future or the past in anticipation of what I want or in positive memories of what has happened in the past. And that's pleasant, but it's not really where our power is.
Elinara: Well, you know, and it's interesting you say that, because you know how you're supposed to do that every day, like go back into the past?
Elinara: And the more I do it, I don't mean duller, but the more- I don't as much feel the emotions from that particular memory.
Melektoth: Yeah, that can happen. Sometimes you have to recycle them a little bit, move on to something else.
Elinara: No, but even any of them, it's like, okay, so it's the past. To me, I'm just like, what am I doing in the past?
Melektoth: Sure. And it can be really helpful, but to me it's a bridge.
Elinara: Yeah, I can see that, is what I'm saying.
Melektoth: Yeah. And so really, what you want to do is to be in the present moment to accept what is, and then you're free. You can no longer be bound if you accept what is.
Am I accepting what is?
Melektoth: So what I've been doing is throughout the day, just checking in with myself and ask myself, am I accepting what is? Is there anything in my current reality in my current state, within myself and my mind, in my emotional state, in my body, anything at all that I'm resisting?
Melektoth: And there is always something. We build up stress throughout the day. So I recommend doing this quite frequently, especially at first just checking in and saying, am I accepting what is?
Melektoth: And it's okay if the answer is no. It's just alerting you to why you feel stress, why you aren't totally okay right now. If you start feeling pulled this way or that, if you start feeling stressed, stress is a form or an indication of non-acceptance. If you're rushing to get to somewhere mentally or physically, so much we're just rushing to get to the future. Any of that is an indication that you're not accepting what is.
Melektoth: Pure acceptance. There's no pushing, there's no pulling. It's just this silence and stillness in the moment. And I talk about this in the course, the Zero State, getting back to the Zero State. So am I accepting what is? And if the answer is no, then can I accept this? Whatever it is, I'm resistant. Can I accept this?
Melektoth: And a lot of times the answer is still no. But you have to kind of sit with that no and be okay with it and then exert your own control, and again, just ask, can I accept this?
Melektoth: Now another alternative question to that that I've used with great effect is, can I allow what is to be? Can I just allow everything that is right now just to be? Am I trying to do something about it? Am I trying to push it this way or that? Am I hoping for a certain outcome? All of that is a subtle form of nonacceptance. All of it. Can I just allow what is to be without pushing, without pulling, without trying, without hoping? Just pure, unadulterated acceptance of what is right now.
Melektoth: If you can reach that place, you will step into your power and things will start to change for you very quickly. So I suggest practicing that, playing around with that because it's so powerful. It really is very powerful when you can just accept everything that is in the moment as it is without any wanting to change it. That's hard, but it's powerful.
Melektoth: So I'd love if you try that out, and let me know what your experience is. You can check out the show notes over at darkascent.org/da024 and you'll see the transcript there and the show notes with a link to Creating From Zero. And you can start a discussion there to let me know what your experience of this is. I'd love to hear about it.
Melektoth: So hopefully that is helpful. We will return in another two weeks for an episode of the Dark Ascent podcast. We hope you've enjoyed this and we will see you in two weeks. Bye.
When you struggle, what do you get? You get more struggle.
When you accept that which you don’t want— that which you don’t prefer in your life— it weakens.
Acceptance is really powerful because it just unravels the knot of the undesirable situation in your life.
It is in the present moment that all your power rests.
By resisting, you are stripping yourself of your power.
Pure acceptance— there’s no pushing, there’s no pulling— it’s just this silence, this stillness, in the moment.
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