This has been a year of huge changes for me. I’ve been trying to figure out where exactly I’m supposed to go, and what exactly I want to do.
And while I might not know 100% of that vision yet, a lot more of it has become clear to me.
I’ve struggled for months to make a particular decision, because I was afraid of how it would impact both myself and others. It’s been months of clarifying and re-clarifying what exactly I’m meant to be doing, and the best way to carry that out.
And today’s post is to finally make that public and put it all out there.
In my typical long-winded fashion I’ll let you know what’s led up to this point.
There’s been a certain discontentment about how exactly I’m carrying out my purpose. I started to lose interest in Co-Creation Coaching, because it wasn’t quite fulfilling what I needed it to fulfill.
I started to narrow my interests a lot more specifically to money. You might not know this but 99% of the requests I get are about how to manifest a relationship. Heck, if you’re reading this, manifesting a relationship is very likely your goal.
But, I find I’m just not very passionate about those sorts of questions. I can’t relate because I’ve had my love life figured out for going on 10 years now.
So first I figured I would specifically teach how to manifest money. In fact I just ran my updated version of Effortless Money Manifestation, which really went wonderfully if I do say so myself.
However the issue became, what on earth do I write about here on Co-Creation Coaching? I found myself wanting to extol the benefits of budgeting and the importance of investing. But what kind of LOA blog would that make? We’re supposed to be about inner work, not outer.
I did talk plenty about those things in the EMM course, but didn’t feel as free to do so publicly. It just seemed like a bit of a clash.
So I kind of drifted for a few months, not sure what I wanted to do, feeling a pull but not sure how to respond.
I’d write a token post here and there, but I’m sure you noticed the frequency went way down. This often happens, by the way, when I’m in a period of great change.
I saw my clients, ran my course, but otherwise had barely anything to do with Co-Creation Coaching.
Finally my vision started to coalesce, very gradually and with a lot of stops and starts.
Introducing Wealth Seed
I decided what worked best for me was having an entirely new business dedicated to how to grow your wealth. Not in any woo-woo LOA way, but through just some simple practical actions and shifts in how we think and relate to money.
I specifically wanted this to be non-spiritual because there are lots of people out there struggling to make sense of their money situation, but who might not want to swallow the pill of spirituality and the law of attraction. I felt like I was limiting my market too much, leaving out some people whom I’d otherwise be able to help.
This was a bit odd to me, because the idea has been ingrained so much that to take action without vibrational alignment is useless. And I believe that’s more or less true.
However, particular actions can lead to natural vibrational alignment. For example, the way I teach budgeting naturally leads to a greater sense of security. It’s almost unconscious. And because you’re feeling more secure, you naturally start to experience greater security.
I guess I’d call it a back-door approach. Through changing one’s mindset around money and encouraging particular practices, one’s vibration naturally attunes to greater security and abundance.
Anyway, this is what truly called to me. I wanted to become a financial coach. Eventually, I may pick up some other certifications to be able to do financial planning and the like, but this is it for now.
I realized that this would help me to express my more practical side, and help more people to do what I’ve been learning to do myself: have a greater sense of security and abundance.
I’ve called this new site Wealth Seed (located at darkascent.org). You probably already know how I like the imagery of planting a seed. It fits for me because I believe that through a few simple adjustments and practices, one can plant a seed that will result in far greater wealth in the future.
This is the official unveiling of Wealth Seed. Only a very limited handful of people have even heard of Wealth Seed yet. But, I’m inviting everyone here to go and check it out!
There will naturally be a bit of cross-over between the two sites. Those on my mailing list will be seeing some emails from Wealth Seed, but can easily opt-out and only receive Co-Creation Coaching emails if you prefer.
However, obviously a lot of my new content will be going over on Wealth Seed, so if you want to keep up with me, that’s the place to do it. 🙂
What About Co-Creation Coaching?
So the natural question is, what do I plan to do about Co-Creation Coaching?
Honestly that’s been the hardest question of all. Quite a few times I nearly made the decision to just shut it down and archive it so my posts are still available. But that didn’t feel quite right to do: it kind of felt like cutting off ties with my child. I’ve been putting untold numbers of hours into this site for the last three years.
But I also knew that things had to change a bit. I just wasn’t resonating with where things were headed. It was becoming a chore—an obligation—not an expression of my passion and purpose.
Some of this is still a little bit nebulous, so forgive me for any lack of clarity.
However I realized that in a very real sense I’m being called to move up to a higher level of the LOA.
What on earth could I possibly mean by that? Hang on for the ride as I explain.
The Problem with Traditional LOA
Almost since the beginning of this blog I have positioned myself against most of the LOA “experts”. Most advice out there is next to useless, and I’ve outlined why on several occasions.
I nearly stopped using the term “law of attraction” for a while because my own views, born of my personal experiences, were so contrary to those of popular LOA teachers.
But to this day I really haven’t come up with anything better, so I still use it.
Perhaps my discontent can be best illustrated by describing a usual interaction with a client or prospect:
The client says, “I want X,” where X was usually a relationship with a specific person, but sometimes a job, more money, etc. The client, obviously, wants to know how to manifest this goal.
Well sure, I’m an LOA teacher so this seems rather appropriate to my role.
But step #1, or very close to step #1, was always to convince the client to drop the feeling of need for this goal. If you need it, you can’t have it, common LOA wisdom goes, and it’s correct in this regard.
But actually convincing someone of this fact was always an uphill battle. I could work with someone for 3, 6, or 9 months, and they might get it in the first session, or might never get it.
Once they got it, we started to make serious progress. But as long as they fought me on that point, we weren’t going to move anywhere.
There were of course other issues that could arise, too, such as a lack of trust, wanting to figure out the “how”, and so on. But really feeling a need for the goal was obstacle #1.
If you look at my posting history, I have tons of posts on trusting in the Universe and allowing what you want to come to you, without effort.
In fact the process is so effortless that I very nearly thought about renaming Co-Creation Coaching to, The Tao of Creation. Who knows, perhaps I still will one day, or maybe it’ll be a course. I got the domain name just to be safe. 😀
So there are two problems with traditional LOA as I see it:
1. People Focus Too Much on What to Do
Firstly, people feel like they need to do something to get their goal. They want to know the exact steps to get what they want. They want X, and they want me to tell them steps A, B, and C to get there.
But it doesn’t work like that. The process is effortless. It’s about letting go, dropping that need, and just allowing it to come.
But that’s not very marketable so traditional LOA talks about creating vision boards, repeating affirmations and the like. None of that actually matters though.
It’s not a set of steps I can just give you. Sure there are underlying principles I’ve attempted to outline here on this blog and in my courses, but they will look a bit different in each situation.
But people want me to fix their problems for them, which I cannot do.
2. The LOA Is Just the Surface of What’s Possible
The second problem with traditional LOA goes far deeper.
Basically I can say it this way: people come to me because they want to get something.
Well, yeah, duh. That’s the law of attraction for you.
See, as long as your focus is on getting something, you’re missing 99% of the beauty that will unfold when you follow the natural process of allowing.
As long as you’re saying, “I want a car,” or “I want a relationship,” or “I want a better job,” you’re missing the point by a mile.
People come to me wanting that one thing that they think will finally make them happy.
But they don’t get that happiness doesn’t come from the manifestation. It has to come before the manifestation, and then the manifestation will follow.
So to me the power of the LOA is two-fold:
Firstly, that the Universe is constantly guiding us into greater and greater openness and allowing. The more we allow, the greater things we can create.
But you can’t create from a standpoint of needing this thing to be happy. It just won’t work.
Secondly, being a creator is a lifestyle. It’s not something you do once or twice to get your life to where you want it to be, and then you give it up. Creation is something we do every day. It’s about living on our terms, not being a victim to the world, but choosing where we want to go, and going there.
When you say, “I want this relationship so I can be happy,” you’re still acting as a victim. You’re subjecting your happiness to whether or not you have a relationship (or anything else you might want).
But when you say, “Happiness is a fact of who I am, and as the creative being I am, I choose to create a relationship (or abundance, or health),” now that is true power.
What I’m saying is, you’re not asking enough. You’re not reaching high enough. You’re settling for less than you could be.
In Harry Potter, did Hogwarts ask each student what they wanted, give them one spell to get that specific thing, and send them on their way?
No, they trained them how to be wizards and witches: how to use their magical power for whatever they wanted to do in life. Magic was a part of them, but they had to be trained how to use it.
So when I get someone coming to me just asking for this one thing, and believing that having that one thing would give them all the happiness they want, I know they are selling themselves way short.
And I think that’s why I got demotivated for a while. Most people are asking me how to get this or that goal, but I want to look at the bigger picture. I want to train you to be a creator, with everything that entails.
So What’s Next?
Obviously a lot of my attention will be going into Wealth Seed, as it’s a new site and I want to get everything moving.
However, I think my vision for Co-Creation Coaching is to teach creators how to create (ooo, that could be a tagline). I want to give you the tools you need to be the creator you always have been.
That doesn’t mean you can’t ask me questions about a particular goal, just that I may be pointing back to the bigger picture when possible.
So go check out Wealth Seed, and also let me know in the comments below how you envision yourself becoming the creator of your life.
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