Yesterday after my last email about finding positive aspects, I received a question that is actually rather common.
In essence, this person asked why it is there are people who focus on good things, and yet get negative manifestations in their lives, or even get good things taken away from them.
Well, this question can be answered in a single sentence: there aren’t such people, because such a thing would violate the law of attraction.
In every single case where it seems like this is happening, invariably something else is going on different from how it appears to be.
You simply cannot feel consistently good, and yet not have good things flow into your life.
I’ve been doing this for three years, and have never seen an exception to this rule.
So now, obviously you’re thinking of examples where exactly this sort of thing seemed to happen. so let’s address a few ways that this can seem to happen, but actually never does.
First, it’s amazing how little we actually pay attention to our own emotions. Whenever I’ve seen someone saying that they feel good and yet don’t have what they want, when we really take a look, they aren’t feeling good nearly as much as they think they are.
Feeling good doesn’t just mean feeling OK, or feeling ordinary. What feels “ordinary” could in fact be quite a bit of resistance, because we’re so used to it.
Feeling good is really, genuinely feeling happy, appreciative, joyful, etc.
Second, people often fake their emotions in order to try to get what they want.
This falls under the category of “fake it until you make it,” which is real advice some LOA teachers give, and really, really doesn’t work.
Sure you can fake some positive emotions, but underneath it all is your true negative vibration. And sooner or later, it will come back with a vengeance. You can never hide how you are really feeling forever.
But so many people who practice the LOA are so focused on just being happy now, that they’ll often fake it. But the aim isn’t to be happy in this very moment, but simply to feel a little bit better right now. It’s to have a real, authentic vibrational shift. You can never fool the Universe.
Third, just because you’re focused on the thing you want doesn’t mean that you have a high vibration. Abraham says that every subject is sort of like a stick that has two ends: the wanted, having end, and the unwanted, lack end.
So let’s say you’re thinking about money. But just because you’re thinking of money doesn’t mean you’ll get it. Quite often when someone is thinking about their desire, they’re actually thinking about the lack of it in their life.
And so if you’re thinking of the lack of money, for example, you’ll get more lack of money.
But people try to fool themselves and think that just because they’re thinking about their desire, so the Universe will now bring it to them. But the Universe is responding to your vibration, not to the subject you’re thinking about.
Again I reiterate, it is literally impossible that you feel good for the majority of the time, and not get what you want. I promise that if you really look at how you are actually feeling, throughout the entirety of your day, you’ll find it’s not nearly as positive as you thought it was, if you aren’t getting the results you want to get.
Self-honesty is extremely important with the law of attraction. You have to be able to determine what your actual vibration is, before you can work to shift it to something better. If you’re pretending, it’s not helping anyone, and could actually harm you a great deal.
The first step of raising your vibration is always to bring acceptance to what is here right now.
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No. I feel good consistently and bad stuff still has happened. There’s nothing left to do. I’ve done all the inner work. If there’s more then basically I have to become perfect which is ridiculous a no one else is perfect.
It’s not faking good emotion because I’ve never felt so emotionally calm in my life. People have commented on it. I don’t have to switch thoughts much because my default mindset is positive and rather calm. I definitely didn’t used to be that way. The internal change is profound….the external circumstances are exactly the same.
I genuinely anticipate the best, which is why I get blindsided by stuff. In fact, a “bridge of events” will begin towards a manifestation, and then it collapses…and I’m either back at square one or I get the opposite of what I desired. This has happened so many times there’s an undeniable pattern. I’ve considered what could cause the pattern, but I legitimately don’t feel “stuff doesn’t work out for me” or anything like that. That’s why I keep thinking it’s working out…. some of it’s little stuff and some of it’s big.
I also handle the bad stuff gracefully and generally don’t even think of much of it as “bad”, but it is at odds with what I felt I was creating. So I let it pass and return to feeling good and then BOOM! – something hits again.
I’ve read every Neville Goddard book and follow his teachings. I meditate everyday, do affirmations, keep a journal where I “thought dump” so I get an honest view of my mindset, I do various emotional management techniques, etc. I feel great, which is what makes this stuff so puzzling. I decided to let go manifesting anything specific and to just keep feeling good and working on my self-concept, but the bridge of events starting and then collapsing thing happens still.
I think it’s a cop out to say people are doing someone wrong when they aren’t. I think maybe things are random after all and people assign meaning and pat themselves on the back for “manifesting” it and then conveniently ignore whatever didn’t manifest or explain it away somehow.
Thanks for your comment. I understand that your experience may be frustrating.
However, your description of events and how you react to them is at odds with your comment here. I don’t know your full situation but it seems that you may have a happy-face sticker somewhere where you’re not really looking at what’s there. Are you willing to look at what’s really bothering you and rip that HFS off?
If you truly are in a calm emotional state, then you simply would not interpret events as “bad” or “unwanted”. You said you often don’t, but apparently it is still happening sometimes, which is OK. But you have to be honest with where you are limited and look at that.
I’d guess there is indeed some belief like “I can’t have what I want,” or “The universe is random.” I’d take a good look at what you’re manifesting, what emotions are behind that, and what that means for you.
I’d be happy to help you through coaching if you’re interested in that. Just go here to apply.
No I really don’t have a happy face sticker. When I say people have noticed I mean they see I’m not temperamental anymore, that I handle things gracefully, etc. Its not contrived but natural and easy. By “bad” or “unwanted” I mean things like a physical and painful injury at the gym, car breaking down despite just having done maintenance and feeling very secure about it. Stuff like that. I would even tell myself there’s probably a silver lining…. nah there wasn’t. But I handled it and moved on. I didn’t pretend it was happy nor did it define my whole life. But my mentality never brought me anything specific, good or bad.
I didn’t believe in randomness, but I’m starting to because there hasn’t been any clear connection between my mental and emotional state and beliefs and life events. I’ve been miserable at times and had very negative beliefs and still have had great stuff happen, sometimes exactly what I wanted. In recent years, I’ve done tons of internal work and feel very peaceful and grateful and still have had sh*t happen. Do I prefer feeling good and taking “bad” stuff in stride to being grumpy and throwing a tantrum? Sure, but nonetheless my mind doesn’t seem to be affecting my external reality much, only how I feel about it.
Sure I understand that. And I know sometimes the resistance can be pretty difficult to hunt down, which is impossible for me to do in a comment unfortunately.
But all I can say is that I guarantee you that your vibration does affect your outer reality. I’ve been doing this for three years, and every single time I’ve changed my vibration, my reality has changed. Every single time something bad has happened, I can trace it back to something in my own vibration.
And I can also tell you that I’ve had plenty of clients who come into coaching swearing that their vibration is positive and there is no resistance, only for me to discover their resistance pretty quickly.
I can only tell you what I know, which has come from my own experience. I’ve done a lot of deliberate manifesting in the last three years. I’m also a very skeptical person, and used to think this was probably all in my own head. But over time and seeing it work reliably again and again, my skepticism has been satisfied and I know for sure that it’s a real phenomenon.
Abraham says there are two ways of knowing your vibration: by looking at your emotions, or by looking at what real-world manifestations you’ve been creating. I’d suggest the latter for you, and really keeping an open mind as to how these came about.
Yes but if this truly is a law of the universe then why do positive things happen when vibing low?
Why in past years did I have times where I was deeply dissatisfied and obsessed and focused on lack did I happen to still get something I wanted that I hardly deemed possible?
That seems incredibly inconsistent for a “law”. No one is able to explain that. LOA “doesn’t work” consistently for negative stuff either.