There is a particular paradox in the law of attraction which has taken me a long time to resolve within myself. At some times, I remained on one end of this paradox, and other times, on the other end. But never until recently have I been able to resolve the paradox itself.
What is that paradox?
Quite simply, it is this: in order to get your desire, you have to stop caring about it. You have to let go.
Some people have interpreted this to mean that you should drop the desire altogether, and not even want it anymore. And at one point on my journey, I tried to do that. It failed, pretty magnificently. ?
This paradox is so difficult because, if you were to really let go of your desire entirely, then why would you want to manifest it in the first place?
So for a while, I was also on the opposite end of this: I held that you didn’t have to let go at all, and as long as you managed resistance well, you could have quite an attachment and still get the desire.
And actually this is true, too. It’s just a particularly difficult path that is hard for most people to manage well.
Oh, and, it ignores the quality of your own life, and the level of your own happiness, because while you’re pursuing those desires, there’s really no guarantee that you are very happy.
And as a matter of fact, this method works, as I said, but only to a certain extent. I’d say, with greater experience now, that this method works for moderate goals: goals which are a bit of a stretch, and yet believable. That believability aspect will keep you from going too far over the edge when using this more intense method.
But, as I’m experimenting with bigger goals now, I find that it really doesn’t work so well for this type.
So, I had to resolve the paradox.
And here’s what I found:
The best, easiest way to manifest, is to totally detach from the desire. That does not mean that you don’t want it anymore. It means that your ego has released any need of the desire, and the remaining desire is purely on a soul level.
At that point, it is less of a desire, and more of a preference, or an inner vision.
The finer details are too complex to outline in a simple email, so I will be covering this at greater length in tomorrow’s LOA Deep Dive post.
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I think this might explain why, when some people “give up”, they get their desire. There are varying definitions of giving up … But I’ve had times where it meant I stopped trying, stopped fighting life, and there was still that gentle feeling of, “But I want this, and I know I can have it …” As long as you don’t smother that feeling, I think you’ll usually get what you want. Something I’ve been trying to do more is see my goals as inevitable. I bet … if I would step back and stop worrying, and just hold on to that radical notion that everything will be okay, it would work out.
I’ll also mention, I’ve found the notion that I don’t have to do anything to feel … really wrong. The ego seems to like being busy. This idea that you put the energy out there and trust the universe or your deities or what have you, to just work it all out for you can seem like a cop out. The idea that you don’t have to be that involved should be a calming notion, but it’s really quite anxiety provoking for whatever reason.
Hey, Chaucer!
That’s right, I’ve noticed how in the past, when I would get so depressed and completely give up on having friends, then the next day or so I would suddenly get into awesome friend-like conversations with some people. And that’s something that would happen only then. And then I would get my hopes up, and looking forward to talking to them again tomorrow, but then either we wouldn’t be able to meet, or their behavior would change. This used to drive me crazy, because I didn’t know why this kept happening. Now I’m glad that I know why. 🙂
How have you been doing? Have you got a cat (or a dog) yet? How was your Halloween?
Hi @Chaucer,
Yes, as I always say, it takes a balance between not needing your goals to happen, but still choosing them. The biggest part of it is just releasing that feeling of need.
I think this might explain why, when some people “give up”, they get their desire. There are varying definitions of giving up … But I’ve had times where it meant I stopped trying, stopped fighting life, and there was still that gentle feeling of, “But I want this, and I know I can have it …” As long as you don’t smother that feeling, I think you’ll usually get what you want. Something I’ve been trying to do more is see my goals as inevitable. I bet … if I would step back and stop worrying, and just hold on to that radical notion that everything will be okay, it would work out.
I’ll also mention, I’ve found the notion that I don’t have to do anything to feel … really wrong. The ego seems to like being busy. This idea that you put the energy out there and trust the universe or your deities or what have you, to just work it all out for you can seem like a cop out. The idea that you don’t have to be that involved should be a calming notion, but it’s really quite anxiety provoking for whatever reason.
Hey, Chaucer!
That’s right, I’ve noticed how in the past, when I would get so depressed and completely give up on having friends, then the next day or so I would suddenly get into awesome friend-like conversations with some people. And that’s something that would happen only then. And then I would get my hopes up, and looking forward to talking to them again tomorrow, but then either we wouldn’t be able to meet, or their behavior would change. This used to drive me crazy, because I didn’t know why this kept happening. Now I’m glad that I know why. 🙂
How have you been doing? Have you got a cat (or a dog) yet? How was your Halloween?
Hi @Chaucer,
Yes, as I always say, it takes a balance between not needing your goals to happen, but still choosing them. The biggest part of it is just releasing that feeling of need.