In this Creators Circle, we discuss how pressure can actually help you to manifest better, and get faster results in your life, provided you use it properly. There are many areas in my own life where I’ve used pressure to great effect to manifest my desires far quicker than traditional approaches. Learn more in today’s Creators Circle!
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Topics Discussed in This Call
- [02:21] When Should You Quit Your Job?
- [08:29] Working Better Under Pressure
- [13:32] Split Energy
- [19:18] Authenticity and Relying on the Universe
- [22:52] Knowing Logically or Intuitively
- [26:02] Faith
- [30:01] Delayed Advice
Transcript
Brandon: Hey, everyone. This is Brandon Olivares. I’m here with Christine.
Christine: Hi!
Brandon: You always yell that so loudly. [laughs]
Christine: I’m just enthusiastic, I guess.
Brandon: We’re here for another Creators Circle. I believe we’re on Creators Circle #13 now.
Christine: Yes, we are. For the past two weeks. This is the second week.
Brandon: We’re doing the webinar, and we’re streaming this on Facebook. Whether you’re watching this on the webinar or on Facebook, feel free to ask your questions. Basically, if you want to ask a question, if you’re on Facebook, just leave a comment. If you’re on the webinar here on Zoom, just click the hand icon. I don’t know what the hand icon looks like. It’s something to do with raising a hand. You should be able to find it. I will unmute your microphone. Or, if you prefer to stay silent and just write your question, just go into the Q&A box and write your question there. Christine is responsible for telling me if someone raises their hand. I will also monitor the Q&A section. That’s how it works. Don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid to ask a question.
Christine: You can interrupt us anytime.
Brandon: Yes, please do. That’s what these calls are about.
Christine: This is very informal.
Brandon: Yes. I’ll keep an eye, too. I don’t know if Justin is coming.
[02:21] When Should You Quit Your Job?
Brandon: Something exciting happened. You probably already read about it, but I’ll announce it here, too. It’s kind of exciting, and I want to. [laughs] I put in my notice at my part-time job yesterday.
Christine: Yesterday. [laughs]
Brandon: Won’t be yesterday by the time this recording goes up.
Christine: Monday.
Brandon: Monday, thank you. Monday the 16th. That was a lot of fun. It was not as bad as I thought it was going to be. I did a lot of intending to make sure it went well beforehand. [laughs] I’m glad I did that. I’ve been realizing something since I did that. It is a risk. A lot of people say, “When should you quit your job if you’re going out on your own or starting a business?” A lot of them emphasize taking your time, not taking undue risk, and that sort of stuff. For me, that’s why I was almost going to wait until the end of the year or the end of November. That’s what my coach had recommended doing: waiting to the end of November to quit.
As I described in my post (I don’t want to recap that too much, but I wanted to give my own experience a little bit and what I’ve noticed since then), it’s really opened up things for me. Yes, there is fear—a little, not too much yet. As I said in the post, it may not come. There’s naturally going to be a bit of that, but it also feels really, really, really freeing.
I’m reading this book (it has nothing to do with this, but it kind of validates what I did) called Overachievement by Dr. John Eliot. He studies top performing athletes, executives, and people like that. He figures out why they’re successful. A lot of his advice is counter to self-help advice. He talks about taking risks, not being realistic, putting all your eggs in one basket. That’s exactly what I feel like I’m doing, I think, because it is a significant risk, obviously. I didn’t know exactly how it would work out. I’m not guaranteed that it will work out. There’s not the security blanket of a stable income every month. For me, I manifest so much better under pressure.
Christine: Yes.
Brandon: Apparently that’s not unusual. He talks about how people do a lot better under pressure. Apparently that’s not very unusual, which is interesting. That’s what I’ve found. I remember I talked about my first real law of attraction experience in the past in 2015. That was a real sink or swim experience, and I did really well. That was when I was just starting out with this stuff.
I guess it doesn’t work for everyone. I don’t know. But for me, the risk is paying off. It really feels different. I noticed people coming out of the woodwork that haven’t commented before. If you look at my post from Monday where I described all this stuff, there’s a lot of comments from people who haven’t commented before. It just feels like things are moving a lot more, which is really interesting.
I had a strategy session today with a potential client. It looks like they’re going to sign up. This person was saying how she found me. She was referred by someone else. This kind of thing usually doesn’t happen in the way that it has been. So it’s really cool to see how avenues have been opening up. I think part of the point is the tension (I’ve talked about structural tension before) of the need for it to work makes it work. Go ahead.
Christine: Yes. You see that a lot on these Christian shows like The 700 Club, where people will say, “I sent a check with barely anything, and then everything went well.” I’m not saying that it was for the right reason or the wrong reason.
Brandon: [laughs] Nothing. Go ahead.
Christine: They were under pressure when they felt like they had to give to some ministry. I’m not saying that’s a good thing to do because I would never do that, I don’t think. The point is, they did it under pressure.
Brandon: Like I said, it’s a sink or swim kind of experience. Some people, when they have that pressure, really can’t deal with it, unfortunately. For me, when there’s a need for something to work, it will work. By the way, before I go on, seriously, guys, I want your questions. I’m just talking to fill time right now, but this is meant for your questions, so please interrupt me.
[08:29] Working Better Under Pressure
I’ve talked about this before. When I started really making progress with my financial goals (for a long time, I had virtually no success—I’ve discussed that a little before, but I feel it’s a good time to discuss that)….Before about a year ago, my prevalent reality was I have enough. I have enough. That’s a good thing. I would experience the thing that happened just after we got married. This was before I got into the law of attraction. That was the prevalent belief I had. We had no money. Then I thought, “Something has to work,” and then I got a freelance project, and we had just enough to get through the month.
But that was my reality. I have enough, but I have just enough. For a long time, I tried to examine that belief. I have enough, but I want more. I want more than just enough. Why can’t I get more? I realized it wasn’t actually a belief. It was an error in my strategy. If I needed money for a bill or groceries or whatever and I didn’t have enough, there would be that tension. That tension would last until I got the money to pay off whatever I had to pay off. Once that was met, it would quit. It was gone, so no more would come. I realized, “Wait a second. If I manufacture tension (which sounds horrible) [laughs] in that, I’m not going to let it quit when I’ve reached that zero point of just enough when I can pay off everything but I don’t have anything left over.” I would literally have $50 in the bank at the end of the month.
Christine: Oh, yeah.
Brandon: I wasn’t denied anything. If I wanted something, I would more or less get it, but I was always left over with $50 in the bank, no profit, no leftover, no cushion. I said, “Instead of letting that tension stop when I have that level of enough of paying whatever I need to pay, I’m going to let that tension last until a predefined level.” At first it might have been, I want $500 more than enough. Next month, I would say, “I’m not stopping. I’m not going to feel resolved until I’m at $500 more than even.” So it worked. That was literally when everything turned around. Remember that, Christine?
Christine: Yes. That was when that really hard time hit, too, after that. It was after that. It was like the universe was trying to get your attention. “Hello? You have bad beliefs.”
Brandon: Which hard time?
Christine: The time in September.
Brandon: All this I’m talking about is last year, though.
Christine: Yes, I know, but that was the turning point of everything. One of the turning points, anyway. After last year. I remember when you told me about that subconscious—you said it wasn’t a belief, but whatever it was, strategy, I guess—that’s when things started changing. I think that was last October or November, maybe, when you said that. It’s so true. I don’t know how you do it without having a coach. You are very self-aware. A lot of people aren’t. They need the help. You are just very, very observant and self-aware. I don’t think I would have figured it out. No way.
Brandon: Exactly. that was my realization, and it worked. I’ve gotten amazing, amazing results just from doing that one thing: just from saying, “I’m not going to let myself off the hook until I get this. I’m not going to relax until I get this.” We’ll talk about just feeling good and relaxing. For me, it’s no. It’s not happening. I’m not going to relax until I get there.
[13:32] Split Energy
Brandon: As I’ve said, it’s a mix of persistence and trusting. You can’t do this while you’re egoically trying to figure out how you’re going to get there. You have to get out of the way there. You have to have that trust. Actually, this book I’m reading now talks about trust, also, which is fascinating. I remember last year I used verbiage that said, “Make the goal non-negotiable. Make it something that’s not an option to not achieve. This is going to happen one way or another.” So it always, always, always did. That was the one thing that turned everything around for me financially. Just doing that one thing, that I’m not going to relax until I’ve met this goal.
I don’t want to go as far as to say “stress,” but I mean stress in a positive way of energy pushing me forward. This momentum. Like I said, some people get overwhelmed by that. I’ve had some clients where I had to have them decrease their energy momentum because they’re pushing too hard. It would be okay, except that they are really, really clinging to the resistance and they’re not able to let it go. Either it doesn’t work for everyone, or it will but you have to let go of that resistance. You have to deal with it. There is a limit.
So coming back to this current situation with my job, I’ll go back to why I took the job to begin with. I took the job to get off of SSI. I remember the relief of not having to meet a certain income level with Co-Creation Coaching. I was pushing every month to grow, grow, grow. That got a little tiring. I wanted a little break. On the inverse side of that, when you have that stable income coming in every month, every month, every month, what’s the drive to make the business grow besides purely, “Well, I’d like it to”? When you make it, “I have to or I don’t eat,” [laughs] for me, that’s the perfect kind of tension to make it so it has to happen.
When that income was stable and coming in every month, it’s harder to have that motivation. I can take my time with this if I want to. What’s really the motivation to push forward? But when I’m 100% in this, then yes, it’s a risk, but also, everything is on the table. There’s the pressure. It has to happen. Now it has to happen. That’s how it works for me, and part of why I did what I did.
I think the other part was basically how you have to feel the energy. For me, the energy was going towards, “I need to put 100% of my energy into this endeavor, into my coaching business.” It’s split. Split energy works okay if you’re just building stuff up, but I’ve seen some really awesome growth in the past few months. It requires more and more focus. While technically, maybe I could put in enough hours in my afternoons and evenings, #1 I didn’t have any free time left. #2, it still left me with split energy. You only have so much to give. Either I wouldn’t have enough to do a really good job at work at my part-time job, or I wouldn’t have enough to really do a good job at Co-Creation Coaching. They were kind of leeching off of each other.
I found myself more and more putting the energy into Co-Creation Coaching, but then I didn’t have the energy or motivation in the mornings to buckle down and do well at work. Does that make sense to you, Christine?
Christine: Yes, because when you’re trying to do two things at once, it does feel like you’re being pulled in two different directions. Okay, I don’t have motivation to do one thing, but I really want to do this other thing. I know you said in your post on Monday that it was so hard for you to be motivated at all when you don’t like to do things. I think if you really, really like what you do, but then you have this mundane job, it would be hard for anybody to stay motivated like that. How could you? You’re doing this blahdy-blah thing, and then you’re doing, “Yay! I love this!”
Brandon: Yes. It’s like there’s nothing left over. I’m just doing this for money.
[19:18] Authenticity and Relying on the Universe
Brandon: The other thing is, it sort of goes against everything I say. You should never do anything just for money. That shows an inherent mistrust in the universe’s ability to provide. I need to do this other thing so I can have enough money to do what I really want to do. I always promised myself that I would never do that. I always promised myself that I would not be the person who worked the soulless 9 to 5 and then put in my passion in the off times.
Christine: Some people can do that.
Brandon: But is that really good, though?
Christine: No, it’s not good. That’s what I’m saying. Maybe at first, like you did. “Okay, I’m going to get a job, just for temporary.” Then eventually, your passion is going to overrun your 9 to 5. It’s going to overwhelm it, and you’re going to want to do that old thing.
Brandon: Exactly. It was inauthentic to me. I always say, “The universe will provide. Everything will work out. You should do what you really love to do.” Then I’m here getting a soulless income in order to fund what I really want to do. Is that really how I was meant to live? No. It was okay temporarily, and I really did enjoy it at first until things really kicked in. Then I was like, “Maybe this is not what I want to do.”
Christine: Sometimes it takes that to realize. I think some people want to put their dreams on the back burner. They’re like, “Well, I have a job. It’s bringing me money. I’m too afraid to step outside. I’m just going to forget I have this dream.” But you only live this lifetime one time. I know the expression is, “You only live once,” but we know that’s really not true, necessarily. But this lifetime in this moment, you only live once. So you make the most of it. What else do you have to live for? We’re not put on this earth to work a 9 to 5 that’s just blah. Some people love working at the grocery store, and that’s no problem. Maybe they bring light to others, or maybe they love to do that. That’s fine. I’m not putting those people down. But if they feel like they have a higher purpose to do something else, then they should do something else.
Brandon: It’s really changed my advice. Prior to this, I think I’d be giving the same kind of advice that a lot of other people do when it comes to, “When should you quit your job?” I’ve gotten that question before from people. When is it safe to quit your job?
Christine: It’s never safe. [laughs]
Brandon: It’s never safe. I think my advice before (this was quite a while ago) was something like (and this is really true), “Make sure you can really believe that it’s possible for you to just make money off of your passion. Don’t just jump out and go after what you want if you’re not there 100%.” That’s what I was trying to do: get to that point where I knew for a fact that I would be okay, knew logically.
[22:52] Knowing Logically or Intuitively
Brandon: There’s a difference between knowing intuitively and knowing logically. Right now, I can’t know logically. I know intuitively, but I can’t know logically. I was going to try to last until I knew logically that I’d be okay. That’s what a lot of people say.
Christine: But that’s what most people do when they play it safe, though.
Brandon: Right. But every passing day, it felt more and more inauthentic. I am not really living up to who I am and what I’m supposed to do. This is not working. Then I realized, like I said before, that I need that risk in order to thrive. I need that pressure to really make it explode and grow in a huge way. I’m really excited to see what happens. That is how it works for me. So I think my advice with that would change. Obviously, if you’re new to the law of attraction, you want to tackle one thing at a time. [laughs]
Christine: And you want to make sure that your action is inspired, too. You don’t just want to quit your job because “Darn it, I’m going to quit this stupid job because I’m not getting anything out of it.” You don’t want to do that. [laughs]
Brandon: I asked for several signs first.
Christine: Yes, that’s what I mean. You can do it and be intuitive about it, but you also don’t want to be stupid about it, either. You don’t want to just take an action just to take an action. If you know intuitively 100%—or at least 95% or 90% even—that you’re going to be okay, then that’s fine. Yes, ask for signs. Say, “You stop me if this isn’t the right thing to do.” Go ahead.
Brandon: I would say the threshold for when it’s (I don’t want to say “safe,” because it’s never really safe) a good idea is when you feel like it’s believable but not certain. I’ve talked before about how good goals are a stretch. Good goals are not totally safe. You don’t know 100% that you’re going to reach that goal. In the context of next level goals and ultimate level goals, if it’s a next level goal for you to succeed on your own and you can mostly believe it, then you can probably quit. If it’s something where you can’t even see it happening and can’t get there, then it’s probably not a good idea. If you quit and then you’re immediately panicking, then you’re going to sink. [laughs] You’re going to sink really quickly. But if you can quit and feel a bit of tension and fear but you know you’ll be okay and that it will work out somehow….This goes with something I want to talk about. I don’t know if it will be in the podcast or in a blog post. Probably in the blog post.
[26:02] Faith
Brandon: Faith. The more you do this stuff, the more faith you have. I know a lot of people will say, “How do I even manifest the simple things? How do I know it’s me manifesting these things? How do you know it’s all true?” Because they are at the novice stage. I haven’t had any of those kinds of thoughts for a very long time because I’ve been manifesting for a while. After a while, you know it’s true. You know it’s real. You know it’s you manifesting. Then it just comes down to what’s the best technique.
If you’re at the beginner stage where you’re like, “I don’t even know if this is true. I don’t know if I’m deluding myself,” [laughs] then it’s going to be harder to trust. You’re going to panic. “What did I do?” But if you have that faith in yourself and in the universe to say, “You know what? I’ve always been supported”….That was my major belief, even before I learned about the law of attraction. I’ve always been supported. Everything has always worked out. There’s never, ever, ever been a time in my life where things haven’t worked out. Never. Especially financially. Everything has always been provided for. When you have that faith, that’s what really makes things flow and work really, really well.
Christine: I think people think faith has to be this massive thing. You can have a very small amount of faith, and it’s okay. But it will grow, though. You have to start somewhere. You don’t want it to stay small, but if it starts out that way, that’s something to go on.
Brandon: You have to start somewhere, but it will grow over time the more you manifest. That’s why I say not to start too big. You really want to build that faith up. It does take faith to really know that you can do this. It takes (eventually) significant faith. The bigger the manifestation, the more faith it takes. But that builds up over time as you do this. Every time you have a successful manifestation, it gets added. You have that much more faith. “I did this. I did this. I did this.” The more faith you have, the faster it happens and the more easily it happens, I think.
Christine: Yup.
Brandon: Faith is a very important thing. I think I mean to talk about that probably in my blog post. It’s something I haven’t really talked about too much.
Christine: You should, I think.
Brandon: Faith is one of those things that are extremely important. I think sometimes we underestimate it. Faith is a little bit different from trust. It’s a little bit different. You do need some sort of faith in order to really get those big manifestations. That’s definitely important. Like I said, that’s what’s going on with me. It’s been a really interesting journey. It’s only been a day since I made the decision, but I’m very excited about it. It has changed a lot of how I see things for myself and the advice I give to others when they’re going through a similar situation. In a way, I’m glad I went through this because I never really had the experience of relying on a job. Before this, it was SSI. I knew I could get that money every month. That was okay, but now I was relying on the job. That was the income every month. Now it’s just me. It’s sort of a new experience.
[30:01] Delayed Advice
Brandon: I remember—really quick, one last thing. A few years ago, I worked with a coach. Actually, I just had one session with a coach.
Christine: You manifested that one for free, by the way, just so those people know.
Brandon: We didn’t have the money at the time. [laughs]
Christine: But you caught her bug, her programming bug.
Brandon: She had a security issue on her site, and I fixed it.
Christine: I just thought it was funny.
Brandon: I know. It was really awesome. Anyway, two years ago I had this free coaching session with this coach. I said, “I just don’t know how to trust that the money will always be there. What if it grows to such an extent” (I was still on SSI, obviously) “I get off of SSI, and then what if it dries up?” Back then, that was my huge fear. That’s exactly what happened. When Co-Creation Coaching first started, I had a lot of clients. Then it just dried up because of that fear. I still had that safety net. I was like, “What if this happens when I don’t have the safety net?” She gave me some good advice, but it wasn’t really something I could apply or really understand for myself until now.
[laughs] It’s kind of funny. Now I am in this exact situation where I don’t have the safety net. It’s kind of exhilarating. It’s not scary. It’s kind of exhilarating. It’s crazy. I don’t have a safety net. This is real. I don’t want to go so far as to say “do or die,” but you know what I mean. It’s real. There’s not a safety net. It has to happen.
Christine: What would have happened if you weren’t told that two years ago? You’d have been freaking out.
Brandon: Oh, yeah.
Christine: So it was meant to happen. It’s just you weren’t meant to hear it right then.
Brandon: Yes. It was not the time right then.
Christine: It was like it was put on the back burner.
Brandon: I was a law of attraction baby. [laughs]
Christine: Yes, you were. [laughs]
Brandon: I had no idea what I was doing, honestly. I was just fumbling around. I had some random hits and a lot of misses. I wouldn’t really get to test that advice for two years. Even a job was a safety net. SSI was a safety net. Then I had the job as a safety net. Now, for the first time in my whole life, there’s no safety net. Is that scary? Heck yeah. Was that exhilarating? Definitely. But it’s not overwhelming. That was my fear two years ago: that I would just freeze and everything would dry up. I’d be out of luck.
Now, the fear is not that bad because #1, I know how to manifest. #2, I know the universe always supports me. I’ve actually had this—I don’t know if I’d call it an affirmation or what—I said, “Universe, you are my safety net. Not a job. Not SSI. Not Co-Creation Coaching. You are my safety net. No matter what happens, you will make sure everything works, and I know that. So it doesn’t matter to me how it does come. I know that it will come because I don’t need that specific source.” It’s the universe that’s the safety net.
So in a sense, we all have a safety net. We have to trust in it. That’s where I’ve been lately, and it’s helped a lot. I do know that everything will work out. I know the universe supports me. That’s always something that’s there. That goes back to faith, I think. [laughs] It’s faith, but it’s also experience because it’s always been true in my life.
I appreciate everyone who listened, either live or with the recording which will be posted later this week. We’ll be back next week with another Creators Circle. If you want the transcript for this, like I said, the recording will be posted on Thursday. Thursday, the recording. The transcript you can sign up for if you haven’t already, and receive that. Feel free to leave a comment on this. I always appreciate your comments. Otherwise, we will see you next week for another Creators Circle. Bye, everyone.
Christine: Bye.
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Topics Discussed in This Call
- [02:21] When Should You Quit Your Job?
- [08:29] Working Better Under Pressure
- [13:32] Split Energy
- [19:18] Authenticity and Relying on the Universe
- [22:52] Knowing Logically or Intuitively
- [26:02] Faith
- [30:01] Delayed Advice
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I liked this blog, but what exactly is the difference between the stress/tension/not letting yourself off the hook and neediness? I know neediness is bad because it puts the vibe of lack out there. I’ve had some issues with being needy about my goals in the past, and I never achieved the things I “needed”.
Hi @Natasha,
There’s a huge difference, and I think I’ve discussed this on several occasions in the past. My first post on structural tension described this quite well I think.
Tension is just the feeling, “I don’t have it yet.” Anxiety is more, “I don’t have it yet and I need it now!”
It’s hard to explain because it’s experiential. You will get it through practice, or through directly working with me.
I don’t know if that makes anymore sense, though? If you have specific questions about the difference, I’m happy to answer.
Hey.. how do you differentiate between trust and faith??? I’m curious!!
Hi @SC. Please see this week’s LOA Deep Dive on faith. If you still have questions after that, let me know.
I liked this blog, but what exactly is the difference between the stress/tension/not letting yourself off the hook and neediness? I know neediness is bad because it puts the vibe of lack out there. I’ve had some issues with being needy about my goals in the past, and I never achieved the things I “needed”.
Hi @Natasha,
There’s a huge difference, and I think I’ve discussed this on several occasions in the past. My first post on structural tension described this quite well I think.
Tension is just the feeling, “I don’t have it yet.” Anxiety is more, “I don’t have it yet and I need it now!”
It’s hard to explain because it’s experiential. You will get it through practice, or through directly working with me.
I don’t know if that makes anymore sense, though? If you have specific questions about the difference, I’m happy to answer.
Hey.. how do you differentiate between trust and faith??? I’m curious!!
Hi @SC. Please see this week’s LOA Deep Dive on faith. If you still have questions after that, let me know.