I find that at the core of it all, the law of attraction must become a way of life. You are meant not to only use the law of attraction as a periodic tool to get what you want, but you are meant to become the deliberate creator of your life. And when I say the deliberate creator of your life, I mean of every part of your life, from the smallest preference, to the biggest dream.
Unfortunately, I find that many people are just using it for one or two big goals, but the rest of their lives remain perfectly ordinary, unaltered by the magical potential available to them.
So in this post, I’ll discuss how to become the deliberate creator of your life, by using the law of attraction to its full potential.
The Non-Magical Way of Living
As children, we come into this life with innate knowledge of how to create. Children are excellent at creating, because they can put their focus almost exclusively on what it is they want, until they are trained out of that habit.
Over the years, they learn to put more stock in what authority says, than what their own soul says. And, most authority is very much based in fear and scarcity consciousness, if you haven’t noticed.
This divide is obviously painful, but most don’t see a way out of it. Some simply surrender to it, seeing it as the way life is. Others rebel against it, and are seen and treated as “problem children”.
A very few, though increasing number, see through it, and simply don’t allow authority to dictate how their lives should go. They may also be grouped in with the “problem children”, but they don’t allow this to define them, either.
For the first two groups, life becomes totally non-magical. It becomes a matter of doing what you need to do to get by.
We’re Not Meant to Just Get By
The thing is, we’re not meant to just “get by”. Our souls feel this inherently. Such an attitude is deeply unfulfilling. It leads to emptiness, and often even depression. We think, “What’s the point?”
I remember being a child and being told, in so many words, that what I wanted didn’t matter and wasn’t realistic. I wanted to work for myself. I wanted to be my own authority. I wanted to do something in the field of spirituality and metaphysics.
Of course, all that ended up happening. I just had to work through quite a few limiting beliefs before it could. 🙂
The Universe never judges us. But, we’re not meant to just suppress our own soul-level desires.
It’s sort of sad to me, really. We come in as powerful, infinite creators. Through conditioning, we believe ourselves victims of circumstance, being tossed about on the sea of life.
Again, that is okay. It’s all okay. But, it’s not ideal. And, it’s not nourishing to our souls.
You are meant to live as a deliberate creator—to raise your mast and sail wherever you want. It’s okay if you aren’t doing that right now, but it’s also painful, isn’t it? It’s painful to deny your true nature.
The Law of Attraction Isn’t a Stopgap Solution
For millennia, people have practiced magic or witchcraft as a way to alter the reality around them. Recently it has become popularized, and named “the law of attraction”. But as I’ve mentioned before, they are very much the same thing, just with different terminology.
Taking on the magical way of living isn’t easy, at least initially. It takes a complete paradigm shift.
So what I notice a lot of people doing is just applying the law of attraction in specific areas of life. They want a better job, so they work on manifesting that. Or, they want a relationship, so they work on manifesting that.
The law of attraction essentially becomes the last resort of “How I can get what I want when it seems impossible.” After all, if the path were clear, then we wouldn’t need the law of attraction, right? We’d just take the necessary steps and it’d be done.
But only using the law of attraction when you really need it is sort of like only speaking a foreign language when you absolutely need to. Follow my analogy for a moment.
Imagine you’d like to become fluent in French. However, the only time you ever speak French is when you are faced with a French person who doesn’t know English. Otherwise, you revert to English, and never even practice speaking French.
In other words, you only speak French when you absolutely have to—when there’s no other choice.
But, you’re never going to master French like that. Your brain won’t develop the necessary neural pathways to make it easy for you. You’ll always remain at the beginner level, because you aren’t making it a way of life.
And that’s how the law of attraction is. If you only use it when you run into a situation where you absolutely need it, you aren’t ever going to get beyond the beginner stage to the expert stage.
Most of the issues I run into with others are, no offense, beginner issues. Issues with trusting in the process, issues with knowing how to let go, issues with overcoming fear, etc.
Obviously that’s okay, but it’s not very useful for you. These are all common issues that will become easier and easier as you master the law of attraction.
You’re holding yourself at a disadvantage by not allowing the law of attraction to become a way of life. If it were used not just for the emergencies, or for the big desires, but also for all the small everyday desires, then those big desires would become so much easier.
Being a Deliberate Creator Requires a Paradigm Shift
As I said above, this definitely requires a paradigm shift. This shift, however, isn’t so accessible to you if you insist on keeping one foot in the “normal”, non-magical way of doing things, “just in case”. It’s only available if you dedicate fully to living a magical life as a deliberate creator.
What is this paradigm shift, exactly? It is this: moving from seeing the world as based on matter, to seeing it as one based on consciousness. Moving from seeing matter as primary, to seeing consciousness as primary.
The materially-based paradigm says this: “In order to get what I want, there has to be a sequence of material causes and effects to reach that desire. A has to lead to B, which has to lead to C.”
For instance, if you want more money, you might think:
First I have to get a job, or get a promotion at my current job, or convince my boss to give me a raise. Then I can get more money. So, if I want more money, I have to put in the work to get a job / promotion / raise.
Do you see how this is materially-based? If you don’t put in that effort, then you won’t achieve your goal of more money. You’re making the goal depend on the physical actions that you take, or sometimes the pure luck of all the right circumstances lining up. Still, the circumstances lead to the desired outcome.
Look at your own life, and see whether you haven’t been using the materially-based paradigm, at least in certain situations.
Now the consciousness paradigm says this:
If I want more money, I have to make more money part of my consciousness. I have to become the one who has more money, in my consciousness first, before it can be reflected on the outside. Once I have embodied it on the inside, then all the circumstances will line up to make it happen. I don’t even care about the circumstances, because they are just unnecessary detail.
Do you see the difference? In this example, consciousness is primary. Consciousness is what drives reality, not action. Without consciousness where it needs to be first, all the action in the world wouldn’t make a difference.
I know this sounds simple enough, because this is what the law of attraction teaches. But, is it how you actually approach your life? Do you approach it as consciousness-first, not action-first? Do you say to yourself, “First I have to line up with this desire, before I do anything on the outside,” or do you rely on action to make up that difference?
Being the deliberate creator of your life means that you jump in with both feet. You live your life fully believing that consciousness is primary, and practicing that as well.
Only using the law of attraction some of the time will not allow you to fully make this shift. It has to be a moment-by-moment awareness. I’m not saying to always keep it in mind every minute of the day, but simply that you are constantly aware of your own inner state and what you are currently holding in consciousness, and that you hold this to have more importance than any actions you might be taking on the outside.
Making the Transition to the New Paradigm
So how do you make the transition to becoming the deliberate creator of your life? I have a few simple tips to make the transition easier:
1. Overcome Your Doubts
First it requires overcoming any nagging doubts that the law of attraction is really true. I know how these doubts are, because as I’ve said before, I’m a cynic to the extreme. No matter how much you might try to make this work, there’s still a part of you that is saying, “Yeah, right. Just get in there and do it the traditional way.”
Those doubts are natural. But, you have to try to the best of your ability to not listen to them. Otherwise, if you only commit partially, just in case the LOA thing doesn’t work, well you can’t fully make that shift.
2. Make It a Part of Your Everyday Life
Next, you have to make it a part of your everyday life. Don’t just use it for your big, next level goals. As I said earlier, just using it for these bigger desires will not give you the practice and confidence you need to actually make those big goals easier for you.
So, use it to smooth out your everyday life. Take a moment to feel good about an upcoming meeting. Visualize yourself having a productive day. Set the intention to find the resources you need to accomplish some task.
These seem trivial, and perhaps they are. But why not use the law of attraction for these small, everyday goals as well? It will help quite a bit, and you’ll be building confidence for bigger and bigger goals.
3. Pay Attention to Your Emotions
Your emotions are one of the most important elements of living as a deliberate creator.
So, I recommend keeping constant mindfulness of your emotions. Recognize when negative emotions arise—not to push them away or deny them, but to give them room to process and then to turn your attention to the positive. It should be a very seamless, easy, effortless process.
Keep in mind the power that your emotions have. I think if more of us realized the power of our emotions, we would be much more careful about them. Even mild irritation, when left unchecked, can spiral into one negative manifestation after another, each of which is more irritating than the last.
4. Exercise Your Will
Magically-speaking, the will is absolutely the most important element of creating your own reality. Yet for some reason, I find it often totally ignored in common LOA teachings. But without the will, you can’t move energy towards your goal. It is the force that makes the whole system work. It is the catalyst. It is the spark.
It takes courage to exercise your will, but start practicing today and it’ll get much easier. What is it you choose for yourself? Exercise your will, and your power as a deliberate creator, and make it happen. Only when you choose with your will, will the Universe move to fulfill your desire.
Magicians are often seen to be arrogant, almost as though they are the center of the Universe. But why not? I don’t think it’s as much arrogance, as the courage to use their will, and that is very unusual in today’s society. We encourage humility and passivity, so when someone is bold and willful, we think them arrogant.
Be the center of your Universe, because you absolutely are. Boldly choose what your reality will look like, because you have the power to do so.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Have you made this paradigm shift to being the deliberate creator of your life? If not, what obstacles are keeping you from doing so? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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This is a great post, Brandon. 🙂 I feel like you’re speaking directly to me. I really need to focus more on using the LOA and my magical power every day, not just for next level goals! It takes practice, so maybe I’ll start somewhat small first and focus on outcomes that are mostly believable, but still have some doubt in them. Already though I’ve seen the power of letting go and trusting for current level goals and day-to-day desires.
Thanks, R! I’m glad the post helped.
As I said in the post, it’s a paradigm shift. You’ll get there, but it takes practice, and it takes seeing the world in a new way.
I also wanted to ask about needing more sleep. For the past few days, as my goals have grown and become more daring, I’m finding that I need more sleep to feel refreshed. It’s very strange, because I haven’t changed my eating habits or activity levels within this time frame. I’m wondering if this may have to do with working through increased resistance and establishing new neural pathways? I feel that reaching further than I ever have betore is taking up a lot of energy.
Hi R,
Absolutely. It takes a lot of energy, and can take time to get used to. There is a very real process of release and transformation going on here.
I’m even noticing that certain foods have been more difficult to digest. I’m craving more plant-based, energetically lighter foods. I find it very interesting how inner work really equates to shifts at a biological level.
Yep, it definitely can. 🙂 Just go with whatever your body is urging you towards. Sometimes it may be plant-based. Sometimes it may be meat. I find it depends, and there’s no better or worse. It just is all based on what your body needs at the moment. 🙂
I was inspired a bit bee a month ago to eat more plant based foods, but I’ve still been eating other foods as well. Actually I’m craving fish right now too. 🙂 But today for example I had a cream based soup which was difficult to digest. Yesterday I had a little bit of a pastry that normal I would enjoy, but it felt too heavy. Cheese is also feeling too heavy. Things could change though, who knows.
I know I need to work on making consciousness more important than physical action. This is very different than the Muggle way of living!
It’s interesting you say that, R. A while ago I had to switch to non-dairy milk. Though milk never bothered me my whole life, a few years ago I started to become intolerant to it. I used those lactaid pills for a while, and that worked. But then late last year, my body wouldn’t even accept that, and I switched to soy milk.
I oddly enough can still eat cheese, but not dairy milk, ice cream, or yogurt.
I believe the body knows what it needs, so it sounds like you’re doing fine. 🙂
You are right, Brandon. We should all try to make that complete shift of how we view life, since having backup “physical action” plans just in case is half-assing it. The biggest obstacle for me is the following. For example, I bless my food and thank the food and the people who provided it, and the Universe for bringing it to my table, and yet I am forced to vomit several hours later, because of strong nausea and pain. Another example is going to sleep feeling love and gratefulness to the Universe and people, and waking up feeling depressed, or just not in the mood for anything. These stark contrasts make it hard to believe that the whole thing is working for me. Maybe that’s my subconscious structures of powerlessness fighting against my increasing empowerment, but I don’t know. I guess the biggest challenge is seeing how much I have changed for better, and despite that my health doesn’t seem to improve one bit. Seeing other people much more stresses than me, but pretty much healthy makes me wonder how come my body hasn’t been spontaneously healing as a result of all my progress.
Hi Z,
No one said it didn’t take time. It’s just the easiest way to go about it, and the way that you’ll see the greatest results.
It’s always a journey. You can’t expect to be at the end just like that. Be patient with yourself.
Could you relate this to next-level versus current-level goals? I was thinking we were supposed to only focus on two or three next-level goals at a time. Does this post change that? Or do you mean just use LOA throughout the day for current-level manifestations, and continue to work on next-level manifestations once or twice a day? Thanks.
Hi Lisa,
Current level goals can be worked on any time of the day. Next level goals should indeed only be a few times a day.
But the basic point is about your perspective. Allow yourself to take this on as a way of being—as a way of seeing the world.
OMG, yes, this post was needed.
I think we stop dreaming, because dreaming is a prerequisite, isn’t it?
“I don’t even care about the circumstances, because they are just unnecessary detail”. Yup, I lived by those words once, but I am constantly reminded about my reality and where I am instead, and I just cannot settle, no matter what I am told, as I’d rather perish, seriously.
People think that if we each do whatever we want, then there would be chaos, but I think this is not correct because had we done that, this world would operate much differently and more in sync than out of sync with that is going on now. And the problem is people get so volatile and emotions surge, including me when I see the state I am in. Perhaps I need to not keep doing this, and just go one as it is all not here? It;s funny because I am the master of current level goals, but beyond that I get stuck.
Hi Kat,
Thanks for your comment. I agree. You definitely should not settle.
I know it takes time to get used to this. You will get there. 🙂 Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s all a process.
B, some babies and young children live in very bad circumstances and they can’t manifest anything. Not even the basics of food, warmth or touch. So I can’t agree that children are good manifestors.
If you then say, yes but they chose to suffer in this life, then that implies pre-destiny. So there’s no answer to that conundrum. Except that maybe we have to learn LoA.
Hi CJ,
No, that doesn’t imply predestination. I would indee say that their higher selves decided before coming here to undergo those experiences. They have good reason to do so, and it does not undermine their free will.
But say the baby comes into the word, it will have the desire for food, touch and warmth. It’s in the zero state (because all babies are), has a desire and it gets nothing.
Maybe bad karma from a previous life?
No, not bad karma. Simply the soul choosing what kind of experience they want to have before entering this life.
So it chooses complete neglect before it gets born, and it gets what it wants. Then when it gets born, it wants food touch and warmth and gets nothing.
Hi CJ,
I’m pretty sure it must get some food, or it would die right away. But I get your meaning.
Yes, sometimes we choose starting points that may not seem ideal from our perspectives. But also, I believe a child has a much different perspective on this than we would, because they still have most of their connection open.
B (I like this nickname), I have a question for you. Something I have been pondering this past week on the nature of “external reality”. This comment here reminded me of it which is why I am replying here.
I have read Z’s comments in the past on noise anxiety and I have a lot of the same issues (mine stem from chronic fatigue with the overactive amygdala). And I noticed that I always manifest noisy neighbors or I have been manifesting them lately. So, since CJ mentions the notion of “pre-determinism”, it got me thinking about what is pre-determined and what is not and I actually totally agree with your response to him and I don’t agree with CJ here (no offense CJ).
is it safe to say that every thing we experience in our lives and i mean EVERYTHING is a product of manifestation-conscious or unconscious? I believe there is a co-creation and a parallel reality aspect. I mean, I don’t think that anyone is shifting to a reality where Bernie Sanders is president (unless they are astral projecting perhaps), but while we are indeed co-creating (we wouldn’t be having this discussion otherwise), we are matching up with the versions of reality that match our own inner vibrations. I basically see the “external” as simply a mirror for what we are vibing at. Otherwise, “unwanted experiences’ are just random arisings and well…..everyone says that there is nothing actually random happening here.
Would love your thoughts on this if anything I said above makes any sense 🙂
Another way to put this is that for me, learning to trust is learning to trust that everything in my experience “good or bad” is a product of my own creation. So, essentially, I can manifest anything again….”good or bad’. And trusting…..is simply the knowing that this is so. That’s my question.
Hi Derek,
Great questions. Thanks for posting them. 🙂
I do agree. I think that everything is a product of our own creation.
BUT (there usually is a but, lol), we must put a bit of emphasis on that co-creation aspect. It’s not purely a result of our own creation… or, it is, but what exactly we’re focusing on or dealing with may vary depending on other influences. For instance, I just posted about the Saturn return, which is a very real influence. There are other strong influences as well.
This doesn’t negate our free will, but it does influence it, and may trigger certain inactive subconscious patterns that may not have otherwise been triggered. For instance, if I have some limiting beliefs about money, but haven’t actively worked on money, it may be an inactive pattern. But, my Saturn return may trigger those patterns so that I have to work on them.
I’ve often said that the more spiritually aware you are, the more free will you have. People who are almost completely asleep in the illusion are more or less products of their environments and other cosmic influences. Because, they don’t realize they have a choice, and so they don’t exercise it. The more someone awakens to their own power, the more they exercise their free will.
So in summary, yes, everything is a result of our creation, conscious or unconscious. But, other elements may influence that, and for some, most of their creations will be unconscious until they wake up to their power.
Hope that helps.
Thanks B for the reply. I’m going to leave out the astrology aspect for now as personally, it’s just not an area that has ever really resonated with me (I did explore it very lightly at one point), but I very much appreciate your perspective on it.
But, as to your other point, so, I’m guessing what you are saying and please correct me if I am wrong, is that for as long as we are unconscious to who we are, other energies or people, or whatever can essentially create in our reality because….we are simply unaware that we are the ones creating and therefore, we are victims to our environments.
Yet, if even after waking up and creating consciously, there is still potential for external experiences (that are not mirroring manifestations) to occur, then that would ultimately seemingly imply that we are essentially victims on some level still, if we have no control over who or what comes into our experience? How could we actually know after all, if, what is going on, on the external, is a manifestation or not? Wouldn’t that essentially just bring more confusion to us….to not know why something is occurring in our experience?
Thanks
Hi Derek,
No, we are not victims. Even for a very spiritually developed person, they are not generally going to be entirely in control of their energy or completely clear of all resistance. The Universe acts as a bit of a purifier. It’s going to seek out anything in you that is still resistant. It’s not that your external reality is other than what you hold within, only that there’s a whole spectrum of things that are in your subconscious, which are not necessarily active at any given moment. So some aspect of your subconscious mind is activated in order to bring to the surface some bit of resistance you need to work through.
We talked about this a bit in the support call last night, which I’m posting soon as well.
We are infinite creators, but the Universe helps us out a bit by helping us to wake up even more to who we are, and clearing out the resistance that is holding us back.
I got it. Thanks B. I’ve always resonated with the “mirror” analogy….meaning that external reality is merely a mirror collectively (as we see with the election stuff) and individually. So, it makes total sense that the universe or our higher selves, or whatever term you want to use, is always trying to get us to see what we are holding on to, on a subconscious level by reflecting that back to us in the “external”. I guess it’s always again, through non resistance where you can make peace with whatever arising.
Yes, I, too, like the mirror analogy. It is very true. 🙂
This is a great post, Brandon. 🙂 I feel like you’re speaking directly to me. I really need to focus more on using the LOA and my magical power every day, not just for next level goals! It takes practice, so maybe I’ll start somewhat small first and focus on outcomes that are mostly believable, but still have some doubt in them. Already though I’ve seen the power of letting go and trusting for current level goals and day-to-day desires.
Thanks, R! I’m glad the post helped.
As I said in the post, it’s a paradigm shift. You’ll get there, but it takes practice, and it takes seeing the world in a new way.
I also wanted to ask about needing more sleep. For the past few days, as my goals have grown and become more daring, I’m finding that I need more sleep to feel refreshed. It’s very strange, because I haven’t changed my eating habits or activity levels within this time frame. I’m wondering if this may have to do with working through increased resistance and establishing new neural pathways? I feel that reaching further than I ever have betore is taking up a lot of energy.
Hi R,
Absolutely. It takes a lot of energy, and can take time to get used to. There is a very real process of release and transformation going on here.
I’m even noticing that certain foods have been more difficult to digest. I’m craving more plant-based, energetically lighter foods. I find it very interesting how inner work really equates to shifts at a biological level.
Yep, it definitely can. 🙂 Just go with whatever your body is urging you towards. Sometimes it may be plant-based. Sometimes it may be meat. I find it depends, and there’s no better or worse. It just is all based on what your body needs at the moment. 🙂
I was inspired a bit bee a month ago to eat more plant based foods, but I’ve still been eating other foods as well. Actually I’m craving fish right now too. 🙂 But today for example I had a cream based soup which was difficult to digest. Yesterday I had a little bit of a pastry that normal I would enjoy, but it felt too heavy. Cheese is also feeling too heavy. Things could change though, who knows.
I know I need to work on making consciousness more important than physical action. This is very different than the Muggle way of living!
It’s interesting you say that, R. A while ago I had to switch to non-dairy milk. Though milk never bothered me my whole life, a few years ago I started to become intolerant to it. I used those lactaid pills for a while, and that worked. But then late last year, my body wouldn’t even accept that, and I switched to soy milk.
I oddly enough can still eat cheese, but not dairy milk, ice cream, or yogurt.
I believe the body knows what it needs, so it sounds like you’re doing fine. 🙂
You are right, Brandon. We should all try to make that complete shift of how we view life, since having backup “physical action” plans just in case is half-assing it. The biggest obstacle for me is the following. For example, I bless my food and thank the food and the people who provided it, and the Universe for bringing it to my table, and yet I am forced to vomit several hours later, because of strong nausea and pain. Another example is going to sleep feeling love and gratefulness to the Universe and people, and waking up feeling depressed, or just not in the mood for anything. These stark contrasts make it hard to believe that the whole thing is working for me. Maybe that’s my subconscious structures of powerlessness fighting against my increasing empowerment, but I don’t know. I guess the biggest challenge is seeing how much I have changed for better, and despite that my health doesn’t seem to improve one bit. Seeing other people much more stresses than me, but pretty much healthy makes me wonder how come my body hasn’t been spontaneously healing as a result of all my progress.
Hi Z,
No one said it didn’t take time. It’s just the easiest way to go about it, and the way that you’ll see the greatest results.
It’s always a journey. You can’t expect to be at the end just like that. Be patient with yourself.
Could you relate this to next-level versus current-level goals? I was thinking we were supposed to only focus on two or three next-level goals at a time. Does this post change that? Or do you mean just use LOA throughout the day for current-level manifestations, and continue to work on next-level manifestations once or twice a day? Thanks.
Hi Lisa,
Current level goals can be worked on any time of the day. Next level goals should indeed only be a few times a day.
But the basic point is about your perspective. Allow yourself to take this on as a way of being—as a way of seeing the world.
OMG, yes, this post was needed.
I think we stop dreaming, because dreaming is a prerequisite, isn’t it?
“I don’t even care about the circumstances, because they are just unnecessary detail”. Yup, I lived by those words once, but I am constantly reminded about my reality and where I am instead, and I just cannot settle, no matter what I am told, as I’d rather perish, seriously.
People think that if we each do whatever we want, then there would be chaos, but I think this is not correct because had we done that, this world would operate much differently and more in sync than out of sync with that is going on now. And the problem is people get so volatile and emotions surge, including me when I see the state I am in. Perhaps I need to not keep doing this, and just go one as it is all not here? It;s funny because I am the master of current level goals, but beyond that I get stuck.
Hi Kat,
Thanks for your comment. I agree. You definitely should not settle.
I know it takes time to get used to this. You will get there. 🙂 Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s all a process.
B, some babies and young children live in very bad circumstances and they can’t manifest anything. Not even the basics of food, warmth or touch. So I can’t agree that children are good manifestors.
If you then say, yes but they chose to suffer in this life, then that implies pre-destiny. So there’s no answer to that conundrum. Except that maybe we have to learn LoA.
Hi CJ,
No, that doesn’t imply predestination. I would indee say that their higher selves decided before coming here to undergo those experiences. They have good reason to do so, and it does not undermine their free will.
But say the baby comes into the word, it will have the desire for food, touch and warmth. It’s in the zero state (because all babies are), has a desire and it gets nothing.
Maybe bad karma from a previous life?
No, not bad karma. Simply the soul choosing what kind of experience they want to have before entering this life.
So it chooses complete neglect before it gets born, and it gets what it wants. Then when it gets born, it wants food touch and warmth and gets nothing.
Hi CJ,
I’m pretty sure it must get some food, or it would die right away. But I get your meaning.
Yes, sometimes we choose starting points that may not seem ideal from our perspectives. But also, I believe a child has a much different perspective on this than we would, because they still have most of their connection open.
B (I like this nickname), I have a question for you. Something I have been pondering this past week on the nature of “external reality”. This comment here reminded me of it which is why I am replying here.
I have read Z’s comments in the past on noise anxiety and I have a lot of the same issues (mine stem from chronic fatigue with the overactive amygdala). And I noticed that I always manifest noisy neighbors or I have been manifesting them lately. So, since CJ mentions the notion of “pre-determinism”, it got me thinking about what is pre-determined and what is not and I actually totally agree with your response to him and I don’t agree with CJ here (no offense CJ).
is it safe to say that every thing we experience in our lives and i mean EVERYTHING is a product of manifestation-conscious or unconscious? I believe there is a co-creation and a parallel reality aspect. I mean, I don’t think that anyone is shifting to a reality where Bernie Sanders is president (unless they are astral projecting perhaps), but while we are indeed co-creating (we wouldn’t be having this discussion otherwise), we are matching up with the versions of reality that match our own inner vibrations. I basically see the “external” as simply a mirror for what we are vibing at. Otherwise, “unwanted experiences’ are just random arisings and well…..everyone says that there is nothing actually random happening here.
Would love your thoughts on this if anything I said above makes any sense 🙂
Another way to put this is that for me, learning to trust is learning to trust that everything in my experience “good or bad” is a product of my own creation. So, essentially, I can manifest anything again….”good or bad’. And trusting…..is simply the knowing that this is so. That’s my question.
Hi Derek,
Great questions. Thanks for posting them. 🙂
I do agree. I think that everything is a product of our own creation.
BUT (there usually is a but, lol), we must put a bit of emphasis on that co-creation aspect. It’s not purely a result of our own creation… or, it is, but what exactly we’re focusing on or dealing with may vary depending on other influences. For instance, I just posted about the Saturn return, which is a very real influence. There are other strong influences as well.
This doesn’t negate our free will, but it does influence it, and may trigger certain inactive subconscious patterns that may not have otherwise been triggered. For instance, if I have some limiting beliefs about money, but haven’t actively worked on money, it may be an inactive pattern. But, my Saturn return may trigger those patterns so that I have to work on them.
I’ve often said that the more spiritually aware you are, the more free will you have. People who are almost completely asleep in the illusion are more or less products of their environments and other cosmic influences. Because, they don’t realize they have a choice, and so they don’t exercise it. The more someone awakens to their own power, the more they exercise their free will.
So in summary, yes, everything is a result of our creation, conscious or unconscious. But, other elements may influence that, and for some, most of their creations will be unconscious until they wake up to their power.
Hope that helps.
Thanks B for the reply. I’m going to leave out the astrology aspect for now as personally, it’s just not an area that has ever really resonated with me (I did explore it very lightly at one point), but I very much appreciate your perspective on it.
But, as to your other point, so, I’m guessing what you are saying and please correct me if I am wrong, is that for as long as we are unconscious to who we are, other energies or people, or whatever can essentially create in our reality because….we are simply unaware that we are the ones creating and therefore, we are victims to our environments.
Yet, if even after waking up and creating consciously, there is still potential for external experiences (that are not mirroring manifestations) to occur, then that would ultimately seemingly imply that we are essentially victims on some level still, if we have no control over who or what comes into our experience? How could we actually know after all, if, what is going on, on the external, is a manifestation or not? Wouldn’t that essentially just bring more confusion to us….to not know why something is occurring in our experience?
Thanks
Hi Derek,
No, we are not victims. Even for a very spiritually developed person, they are not generally going to be entirely in control of their energy or completely clear of all resistance. The Universe acts as a bit of a purifier. It’s going to seek out anything in you that is still resistant. It’s not that your external reality is other than what you hold within, only that there’s a whole spectrum of things that are in your subconscious, which are not necessarily active at any given moment. So some aspect of your subconscious mind is activated in order to bring to the surface some bit of resistance you need to work through.
We talked about this a bit in the support call last night, which I’m posting soon as well.
We are infinite creators, but the Universe helps us out a bit by helping us to wake up even more to who we are, and clearing out the resistance that is holding us back.
I got it. Thanks B. I’ve always resonated with the “mirror” analogy….meaning that external reality is merely a mirror collectively (as we see with the election stuff) and individually. So, it makes total sense that the universe or our higher selves, or whatever term you want to use, is always trying to get us to see what we are holding on to, on a subconscious level by reflecting that back to us in the “external”. I guess it’s always again, through non resistance where you can make peace with whatever arising.
Yes, I, too, like the mirror analogy. It is very true. 🙂
I can’t believe that anyone would choose extreme suffering. Nothing can learned from being born and flushed down a toilet. Nothing at all. I think karma is more likely, but since we have no proof of either we’re just guessing. Making a choice to suffer sounds more palatable, but that doesn’t make it real. Some aspects of life may just be inexplicably horrible.
I see examples of the possibility of LoA in my own life, but sometimes I wonder if it’s confirmation bias arising in response to the need for a feeling of control in my life.
We can’t choose to believe in a choice of how/when/where we are born just because it feels nice. If we did, then we’d be like Christians who believe in a personal God who greets them at the pearly gates after they die.
Hi CJ,
I’m sorry you feel that way, but that’s been my experience. It’s not karma: there is no judgment in the Universe. What kind of Universe would we live in if there was judgment from past lives? The Universe has no preference of our actions, or idea of what is good or bad.
Unfortunately for you, until you decide 100% that LOA is real and really try to apply it, you’re just going to get more of those mixed signals. You can’t get anything else.
I am not choosing to believe this because it “feels nice”. I’m choosing to believe it because it is my experience, and what I’ve been told from my communication with my guides, higher self, and deities. I’m not asking you to believe the same thing: that’s why you have your own connection.
We seem to have a glaring juxtaposition –
LoA says we can choose our beliefs eg. choosing to believe in abundance because believing it (and having a quiet mind) will result in abundance. But if it’s true that whatever we choose to believe becomes true, then Muslim terrorists enter paradise for blowing up the twin towers, since that’s what they believe. So that means nothing has inherent reality, but rather we choose whatever reality we like.
And if THAT is true, why would anyone choose to be born and killed as a baby? Choosing pain? I guess it’s possible, but seems very strange.
Nothing adds up.
Whilst I love the idea that we can direct our own lives, maybe we’re just fooling ourselves?
No, that’s not what the law of attraction says.
The law of attraction says that whatever you hold in consciousness, and embody fully, will be manifested on the outside.
Are we fooling ourselves? If that’s what you hold in consciousness, then yes. For me, no, not at all. But I cannot prove that to you when you are a match to skepticism and disbelief.
You literally have to make the deliberate choice to believe in the law of attraction.
Why do we choose to come here and suffer? Because we want the challenge. The law of attraction is not the only law out there.
There was something I was trying to make happen, that just would not happen. It was not due to resistance, or disbelief. It was because the gods didn’t want me going down that path. Not because of control, but because it was not for my highest good.
Sometimes, suffering is for one’s highest good, because they will grow from it and learn how to overcome it. I’ve said the same thing about my blindness before.
But really, the Universe is not going to force you to believe in this. That’s your choice.
ok, I’ll consider that for a while. Thanks
Hi Brandon,
I was just listening to a podcast where you were speaking about journaling to align with your goals. Do you recommend journaling over visualization? How much do you journal daily (e.g. a page in a small notebook once a day, two pages, etc.)?
Also when you journal every day, do you write about the same details of your goals or about different ones each time?
Hi R,
A bit of both. You want to pretend you’ve just recently achieved your goal, a few days or weeks ago. What have you been doing differently in life as a result? If it’s money, what have you been doing with that extra money? if it’s moving somewhere, what things do you do in this new location, or what’s it like to come home at the end of the day? That kind of thing.
Hi R,
Yes I love journaling. But, it really depends on the person. I do like it because it seems to make it more real than just visualization. But you have to experiment and see what works the best for you.
As for length, don’t overthink it. I just write until I am feeling pretty stable in that vibrational essence. I have a notes application on my computer, and just have a journal document for each goal. I date it each day, and write as long as I feel like writing. Then once the goal is manifested, I write an entry saying the goal was achieved.
I just tried journaling my goals on my computer, and I must say, it does feel a bit different from visualizing. I think it brings up a lot more resistance and really forces me to stay general with certain details. At first, it felt like a flat out lie, but after focusing for a few minutes, I began to get in the flow and it was easier to feel better about what I was writing.
That’s awesome! 😀
I can’t believe that anyone would choose extreme suffering. Nothing can learned from being born and flushed down a toilet. Nothing at all. I think karma is more likely, but since we have no proof of either we’re just guessing. Making a choice to suffer sounds more palatable, but that doesn’t make it real. Some aspects of life may just be inexplicably horrible.
I see examples of the possibility of LoA in my own life, but sometimes I wonder if it’s confirmation bias arising in response to the need for a feeling of control in my life.
We can’t choose to believe in a choice of how/when/where we are born just because it feels nice. If we did, then we’d be like Christians who believe in a personal God who greets them at the pearly gates after they die.
Hi CJ,
I’m sorry you feel that way, but that’s been my experience. It’s not karma: there is no judgment in the Universe. What kind of Universe would we live in if there was judgment from past lives? The Universe has no preference of our actions, or idea of what is good or bad.
Unfortunately for you, until you decide 100% that LOA is real and really try to apply it, you’re just going to get more of those mixed signals. You can’t get anything else.
I am not choosing to believe this because it “feels nice”. I’m choosing to believe it because it is my experience, and what I’ve been told from my communication with my guides, higher self, and deities. I’m not asking you to believe the same thing: that’s why you have your own connection.
Brandon, I have a thing where I can energetically influence other people. It’s very powerful, and I find when I use it (even on people who say it’s ok), they get fearful and angry. So this ability that I want to be able to use as a job, I find I can’t. Some people are ok with it. The ones that are ok are in fact astounded, but they are in a small minority.
Hi CJ,
What do you mean you want to be able to use it as a job? If people aren’t okay with it, then don’t use it with them.
Say I can fix certain illnesses. Some people will say they want that. Then I do something and it actually happens. Their whole world view has been turned upside down. They become fearful and angry. That’s what I mean by “some people who don’t want it”. They SAY they do, but they don’t. Well, some people are ok, but it’s the ones that aren’t which bothers me.
So I actually wonder if I’m supposed to be using this talent AT ALL. Maybe people need to have certain health issues as a way of growing or learning (??). Is that what it is? Or is it that the shock of things they believed were impossible? I’m extremely confused. Also, I can’t use this on myself with any degree of success… only others.
Also, if a health issue is suddenly cured by another person, does that bypass the need for the person to learn about accepting everything as it is? If the problem is caused by emotions, does the person need to learn about accepting those emotions, therefore my work is interfering?
Thanks for the response
Hi CJ,
Then you are manifesting people in your life who are scared by any ability you might have. That is something to work on within yourself.
I just saw this. ok, I’ll consider that. I’m feeling really bad about it for a number of reasons. Thanks B.
What I’m saying is I can’t handle the reactions. I expect people to be like “wow, awesome”, but it’s often the opposite and it really messes with me.
I worked it out overnight. Energetic healing is probably not something to indulge in, because it’s just an ego trip for me. There’s the amazement and wonder, but there’s the bad reactions I get when I upset their world view, DESPITE having asked for help.
I think what people really want is connection and relationship, not healing of their illness. It’s a hard realization to make, because doing it was such an ego boost. A boost I felt I needed, but Life has told me to give it away. That’s how I see it.
This helps too. More to consider.
http://thenewagefoundation.org/profiles/blogs/osho-every-person-has-energy
And I really need to read that protection blog again. Definitely need energetic protection.
We seem to have a glaring juxtaposition –
LoA says we can choose our beliefs eg. choosing to believe in abundance because believing it (and having a quiet mind) will result in abundance. But if it’s true that whatever we choose to believe becomes true, then Muslim terrorists enter paradise for blowing up the twin towers, since that’s what they believe. So that means nothing has inherent reality, but rather we choose whatever reality we like.
And if THAT is true, why would anyone choose to be born and killed as a baby? Choosing pain? I guess it’s possible, but seems very strange.
Nothing adds up.
Whilst I love the idea that we can direct our own lives, maybe we’re just fooling ourselves?
No, that’s not what the law of attraction says.
The law of attraction says that whatever you hold in consciousness, and embody fully, will be manifested on the outside.
Are we fooling ourselves? If that’s what you hold in consciousness, then yes. For me, no, not at all. But I cannot prove that to you when you are a match to skepticism and disbelief.
You literally have to make the deliberate choice to believe in the law of attraction.
Why do we choose to come here and suffer? Because we want the challenge. The law of attraction is not the only law out there.
There was something I was trying to make happen, that just would not happen. It was not due to resistance, or disbelief. It was because the gods didn’t want me going down that path. Not because of control, but because it was not for my highest good.
Sometimes, suffering is for one’s highest good, because they will grow from it and learn how to overcome it. I’ve said the same thing about my blindness before.
But really, the Universe is not going to force you to believe in this. That’s your choice.
ok, I’ll consider that for a while. Thanks
Hi Brandon,
I was just listening to a podcast where you were speaking about journaling to align with your goals. Do you recommend journaling over visualization? How much do you journal daily (e.g. a page in a small notebook once a day, two pages, etc.)?
Also when you journal every day, do you write about the same details of your goals or about different ones each time?
Hi R,
A bit of both. You want to pretend you’ve just recently achieved your goal, a few days or weeks ago. What have you been doing differently in life as a result? If it’s money, what have you been doing with that extra money? if it’s moving somewhere, what things do you do in this new location, or what’s it like to come home at the end of the day? That kind of thing.
Thank you Brandon! I will try journaling, as I’ve never really done it consistently as a manifestation practice.
I’m finding I need to go a little more general certain aspects with my goals again, as they are embodying more of what I want, and new (scary) resistance has been coming up like crazy.
It’s all a dynamic process. You’ll know exactly what you need to do each step of the way. 🙂
Hi R,
Yes I love journaling. But, it really depends on the person. I do like it because it seems to make it more real than just visualization. But you have to experiment and see what works the best for you.
As for length, don’t overthink it. I just write until I am feeling pretty stable in that vibrational essence. I have a notes application on my computer, and just have a journal document for each goal. I date it each day, and write as long as I feel like writing. Then once the goal is manifested, I write an entry saying the goal was achieved.
I just tried journaling my goals on my computer, and I must say, it does feel a bit different from visualizing. I think it brings up a lot more resistance and really forces me to stay general with certain details. At first, it felt like a flat out lie, but after focusing for a few minutes, I began to get in the flow and it was easier to feel better about what I was writing.
That’s awesome! 😀
I’ve just realized that a few weeks ago, my will was very strong for several days. Then one day I got hit by a huge depression, which killed the will. I managed to get out of that depression within several days, but ever since then, my will hasn’t reached that high level that was present before the depression hit me. I can actually feel the resistant energy or whatever standing between me and that high level of will. It’s that “knowing” that no matter what, I’ll ultimately fall down. It’s my challenge now to remove the truth from that “knowing”. It must be that the subconscious structures have been vigorously pushing back against that will to succeed. That probably also contributed to the recent issues with my body. This blog post is a good reminder of important things. Now the only thing left is an advice on how to find the will to live. lol
Hi Z,
Don’t rush things. You’re doing fine. It takes time to alter such strong subconscious structures.
You can’t “try” to have a stronger will. You just have to let it happen. When you push against what is, you give it power. That’s the most basic principle of the law of attraction.
Hey, Brandon.
Okay so long story short I’ve never been on a date with a girl and so this one girl asked me out but it was a next level goal so it didn’t work out. She never got back to me. Also, the fact that I got over excited probably killed the manifestation perhaps.
I guess it will take some time to get there, since it is a next level goal after all.
Hi Cody,
Yes, that’s definitely a next level goal, from the sounds of it. 🙂
“Now the only thing left is an advice on how to find the will to live”
What do you mean?
Brandon, I have a thing where I can energetically influence other people. It’s very powerful, and I find when I use it (even on people who say it’s ok), they get fearful and angry. So this ability that I want to be able to use as a job, I find I can’t. Some people are ok with it. The ones that are ok are in fact astounded, but they are in a small minority.
Hi CJ,
What do you mean you want to be able to use it as a job? If people aren’t okay with it, then don’t use it with them.
Say I can fix certain illnesses. Some people will say they want that. Then I do something and it actually happens. Their whole world view has been turned upside down. They become fearful and angry. That’s what I mean by “some people who don’t want it”. They SAY they do, but they don’t. Well, some people are ok, but it’s the ones that aren’t which bothers me.
So I actually wonder if I’m supposed to be using this talent AT ALL. Maybe people need to have certain health issues as a way of growing or learning (??). Is that what it is? Or is it that the shock of things they believed were impossible? I’m extremely confused. Also, I can’t use this on myself with any degree of success… only others.
Also, if a health issue is suddenly cured by another person, does that bypass the need for the person to learn about accepting everything as it is? If the problem is caused by emotions, does the person need to learn about accepting those emotions, therefore my work is interfering?
Thanks for the response
Hi CJ,
Then you are manifesting people in your life who are scared by any ability you might have. That is something to work on within yourself.
I just saw this. ok, I’ll consider that. I’m feeling really bad about it for a number of reasons. Thanks B.
What I’m saying is I can’t handle the reactions. I expect people to be like “wow, awesome”, but it’s often the opposite and it really messes with me.
I worked it out overnight. Energetic healing is probably not something to indulge in, because it’s just an ego trip for me. There’s the amazement and wonder, but there’s the bad reactions I get when I upset their world view, DESPITE having asked for help.
I think what people really want is connection and relationship, not healing of their illness. It’s a hard realization to make, because doing it was such an ego boost. A boost I felt I needed, but Life has told me to give it away. That’s how I see it.
This helps too. More to consider.
http://thenewagefoundation.org/profiles/blogs/osho-every-person-has-energy
And I really need to read that protection blog again. Definitely need energetic protection.
After listening to one of your podcasts from a few months ago, I can see how when I first decided on my next level goals, I chose more realistic goals that seemed like the logical way to get what I really want. Those goals didn’t bring up strong emotion in the zero state because they were not truly heartfelt.
My true heartfelt goals though, the ones that even in zero state feel really, really good, seem closer to ultimate or next-next level goals. They are the kinds of goals that had I listened to most LOA teachers, I should’ve given up on as they are far from the path of least resistance. I really don’t know how I could achieve them within three months! I would daydream about them all the time before learning of your process, but now that I’m using it, tremendous resistance is coming to surface when I see them happening in the near future. It would be frightening to choose and truly commit these heartfelt goals (my mind would definitely get in the way in determining the how’s), but I do desire them very, very deeply. They would take a lot of energy and very intense rewiring of my subconscious structures. I’m really afraid of failing if I choose them, but they are so inspiring at the same time. I know that other people have achieved them and can think of a few examples right off the top of my head, but I feel like for some reason, I don’t deserve them as much or don’t have whatever they had.
On the other hand, I can find numerous examples from my own life of things that felt impossible, or just very surreal, but are now more current level or require only some effort.
Is there a way to tell if next level goals, even if they don’t generate the emotion of ultimate or next-next level goals, are too small or too big? The most inspiring ones are stressful and (often much) less believable. And I feel (at least for me) that there is a difference between 1 and 3 month next level goals, with 3 months obviously being much more of a stretch.
The purchasing of my MacBook and microphone both took less than a month. Would you say these were next level goals if they were accomplished in that time frame? It was the first time I was able to purchase such highly priced electronics with my own money (and I no longer have that income). I wasn’t willing to compromise on what I wanted, but I’m pretty sure I slowed down the process due to my intense frustration and use of action to force things into place.
I do notice that choosing scarier goals, despite the intense discomfort and likelihood of obsession, is more fun and tends to lead to massive action. Inspired action though, as it doesn’t feel hard and is invigorating. More realistic goals tend to generate less enthusiasm and momentum. In the past, when I set readily achievable and believable goals, I often wouldn’t achieve them due to the lack of inspiration.
Before deciding on next level goals, should we just focus on our ultimate level goals and then see which next level goals we’re inspired to choose? I might have to go back to step one again and redefine my goals!
Hi R,
Some great questions, really. 🙂
Now you know why goals are so important right from the outset, and choosing the right ones. And why daydreaming just isn’t enough, because it doesn’t really move the energy.
If you haven’t already, you should read this post: How to Set and Achieve Monthly Goals. It outlines the three necessary elements to any goal: it needs to be inspiring, believable, and challenging. And you’re finding out now why all three are essential. Too believable, and it’s not inspiring. Too challenging, and you are overwhelmed by it.
Can you think of any intermediate goals that are more believable, and yet inspiring? If not, do you have the courage to stick with the harder goals?
Next level goals are really a spectrum. Some will be harder than others. The major difference between next level and ultimate level goals is with ultimate level goals, you can’t even really see a path to getting there, because it seems so impossible.
Your computer and microphone were definitely next level goals. They felt hard to you, and took more than just a few days.
Is there any way of telling if a goal is too small? Really it’s up to you. I would stop this consideration of what is “realistic”, though, because that has nothing to do with your goals. Choose your goals based on the above criteria, not on what is “realistic”. Something can be more believable, and yet you aren’t making concessions based on realism.
Try to get a good balance of inspiring, believable, and challenging, and you’ll be good to go.
I’m hoping my many comments and your thoughtful answers are helpful to others reading! 🙂
As they are more of a stretch, I’ve set my current next-level goals to be completed by the end of April. Perhaps breaking them down into monthly goals would be a better idea? I could make my goals more believable by changing certain elements so that the path to getting there seems easier and more believable right now. It could be easier to let go of them this way after journaling/visualizing. On the other hand, I’m not sure if focusing on monthly goals would be placing too much emphasis on how they will happen.
I’m really not certain right now whether I would have the courage to stick with the harder goals. There is always the possibility of my goals expanding as I spend more time focused on the more comfortable but still out of reach goals. This has happened within a week and a half of focusing on next level goals that seemed to really big, but now feel comparatively accomplishable. Maybe I just like discomfort!
With my computer than microphone, they definitely felt easier than the goals I’ve set for myself more recently, but it still took me a while to manifest them. I knew I could get them though, so they weren’t unbelievable.
It may take me a few days before I really get clear on my next level goals. It’s difficult to figure all of this out and to know what I’m ready for.
Hi R,
Ha I know what you mean about liking discomfort. I like that feeling of working through resistance.
You don’t necessarily need to set monthly goals. I only linked to that post so you know what qualities a goal should have. This applies to all goals, not just monthly goals.
This may sound strange, but I fear that my goals feeling more ordinary (still good, but more of a calm good than high excitement) will make them less likely to come. I’m afraid that getting acclimated to them will lessen the creative tension and likeliness of manifesting. But the things that I do manifest in real life, as you have written about on here, feel much more normal to me, even if a strong desire is present.
Hi R,
No, not at all. I believe you already read the post about the importance of desires becoming ordinary. This is a vital part of the process.
The law of attraction doesn’t require intensity of emotion. That’s only in what I call the creation stage: when the subconscious structures just aren’t there and you have to move a lot of energy to generate them.
But in the debugging stage, where you’re just closing that gap and moving closer and closer, it doesn’t require much emotion at all. I have written in the past that my own emotions regarding a manifestation rarely surpass a 3 out of 10 in intensity.
The key element is will, not as much emotion. Emotion is good for the short term, but will is the key for the long term.
Hi Brandon,
That’s what I thought, in regards to emotion, but I just wanted to make sure I was interpreting what you said correctly. Is there a knowing that this will happen, that you will get your desire? Nothing ecstatic, just a calm inner knowing?
Hi R,
Yes, definitely a knowing. With some manifestations it may be stronger than with others. But I’d say that’s a sign that it is becoming current level.
I’m guessing that’s a good thing then? Since I’ve started journaling a few days ago, I am really beginning to notice a growing sense of calmness/”knowing” with one of my goals in particular. It’s strange because just a week ago, this goal felt much bigger.
Yes, definitely a good thing, and definitely a sign that you are making progress. 😀
I’m glad! 🙂 There are still details that bring up resistance though. I’m guessing that I should stay more general with certain details, focus on the feeling/essence and end result and allow the grid to fill in?
Hi R,
You’re using a lot of Abraham terminology there, which I obviously have a different perspective from.
Abraham is all about taking it easy and letting it happen. I’m a bit more forward than that. You want to stay general enough that the resistance doesn’t overwhelm you, but you also want to push it forward enough that the energy is moving and the subconscious structures are changing. If you just stay purely general, you’ll get a lot of nice signs, but it won’t go further than that. That’s what a lot of Abraham followers experience, from what I’ve seen.
To move it forward, you need to get into the resistance a bit more. That resistance is not a bad thing. When that resistance arises, and you choose to let it go instead of giving it more energy, that is actively changing your subconscious structures to support your goal.
So it’s a balance. Keep the energy moving, but respect your comfort zone, too.
Yes, I am pretty familiar with Abraham. I remember watching a video and blog post you made though about going general and the importance of backing off from the details when you are feeling a lot of resistance. I’m a little confused now.
Hi R,
I’m pretty sure that video was from a while ago. My understanding has evolved over time. But yes it is true in general that you don’t want to get too involved in the details. But also if you remain too general, nothing will move—nothing will change. It is the will and focus that moves things forward, plus emotion of course as I discussed.
At the stage you’re in with your easier goal, you don’t need as much momentum, but you still need a bit.
I can go into more detail with my easier goal, but there are still specific details that if I bring into journaling/visualizing, my mind immediately panics or rejects what I’m telling it. For other details, there is some worry, some panic, but I can more easily shift my focus and tell my mind what I choose.
Yes, that’s perfect. You’ll find the ideal balance for you. The resistance is fine, but shouldn’t be so much that it overwhelms you.
Ok thank you for clarifying. 🙂 I can see the value of some resistance and tension. It just felt really, really off though to believe that there needs to be so much that daily life is extremely stressful because I’m constantly worried about my goals. I feel that there does need to be a certain amount of letting go after daily focusing sessions, otherwise the overwhelm and panic is too much. I guess the balance between comfort and discomfort is different for everyone, especially when fairly new to this process.
Oh yes, of course. I’m not saying it should affect your everyday life, not in the least. 🙂
Ok I think I’m on the right path then. 🙂 Often I’ve noticed that I end up accomplishing goals way before I set to finish them. I set the end date further out in the beginning because the goals feel big to me, but then as I progress with them, they feel much closer than they were and I achieve them early.
Do you still agree with taking inspired action and not trying to figure out how if you are really stressed about it? Or do you feel that action should be taken towards goals every day (even if it’s just research or something simple) regardless of inspiration?
Hi R,
No, action should definitely not be taken before you’re ready to take it. I’ve seen people spin their wheels for months or even years by trying to force action. Alignment first, then action.
Haha I’ve experienced that many times!
I’m thinking, the key to goal setting must be to make the goal out of your comfort zone, but not to the extent that it creates overwhelming stress. The presence of tension (to a certain degree) means that a goal will force you to grow, level up and keep you inspired, but too much and it can easily backfire.
Exactly! You have it. 🙂 And your capacity for dealing with discomfort will grow over time, so you can choose larger goals. But in the beginning it’s better to start small, while still challenging.
I don’t mean going completely general, but a little more general than I was before on certain details. If I get too specific, I really start to panic and worry over how to make something happen, needing to force a certain path, obsessing all day over my desire because I can’t let it go after focusing in the morning and evening.
Yes, and I think that’s fine. I was just outlining how a general focus affects the energy, and warning against going too far in the other direction.
I think a big mistake I’ve been making is getting into the details too soon and not trusting that they will come, which just creates more resistance. I have a bad habit of trying to figure out how things will happen and attempting to force certain action paths, but I’m becoming more aware of when I do this.
R,
I’m really glad that you’ve joined this website. I love reading your comments, they are very inspiring. 🙂 Also you ask really good questions.
Also, may I suggest that you visit “gravatar” com website, and set a profile picture for yourself, like Kat and I have? You just need to enter your e-mail that you are using on this website, so gravatar could link them. Don’t worry, gravatar keeps privacy. 😛
Thank you Z. 🙂 I will take a look at Gravatar!
I’m glad you enjoy my questions. I was hoping that they would benefit other people reading through this site! All of this information can be a little confusing if you are unfamiliar with the LOA or are only familiar with other LOA teachings, and Brandon has provided excellent answers.
I’ve just realized that a few weeks ago, my will was very strong for several days. Then one day I got hit by a huge depression, which killed the will. I managed to get out of that depression within several days, but ever since then, my will hasn’t reached that high level that was present before the depression hit me. I can actually feel the resistant energy or whatever standing between me and that high level of will. It’s that “knowing” that no matter what, I’ll ultimately fall down. It’s my challenge now to remove the truth from that “knowing”. It must be that the subconscious structures have been vigorously pushing back against that will to succeed. That probably also contributed to the recent issues with my body. This blog post is a good reminder of important things. Now the only thing left is an advice on how to find the will to live. lol
Hi Z,
Don’t rush things. You’re doing fine. It takes time to alter such strong subconscious structures.
You can’t “try” to have a stronger will. You just have to let it happen. When you push against what is, you give it power. That’s the most basic principle of the law of attraction.
Hey, Brandon.
Okay so long story short I’ve never been on a date with a girl and so this one girl asked me out but it was a next level goal so it didn’t work out. She never got back to me. Also, the fact that I got over excited probably killed the manifestation perhaps.
I guess it will take some time to get there, since it is a next level goal after all.
Hi Cody,
Yes, that’s definitely a next level goal, from the sounds of it. 🙂
“Now the only thing left is an advice on how to find the will to live”
What do you mean?
After listening to one of your podcasts from a few months ago, I can see how when I first decided on my next level goals, I chose more realistic goals that seemed like the logical way to get what I really want. Those goals didn’t bring up strong emotion in the zero state because they were not truly heartfelt.
My true heartfelt goals though, the ones that even in zero state feel really, really good, seem closer to ultimate or next-next level goals. They are the kinds of goals that had I listened to most LOA teachers, I should’ve given up on as they are far from the path of least resistance. I really don’t know how I could achieve them within three months! I would daydream about them all the time before learning of your process, but now that I’m using it, tremendous resistance is coming to surface when I see them happening in the near future. It would be frightening to choose and truly commit these heartfelt goals (my mind would definitely get in the way in determining the how’s), but I do desire them very, very deeply. They would take a lot of energy and very intense rewiring of my subconscious structures. I’m really afraid of failing if I choose them, but they are so inspiring at the same time. I know that other people have achieved them and can think of a few examples right off the top of my head, but I feel like for some reason, I don’t deserve them as much or don’t have whatever they had.
On the other hand, I can find numerous examples from my own life of things that felt impossible, or just very surreal, but are now more current level or require only some effort.
Is there a way to tell if next level goals, even if they don’t generate the emotion of ultimate or next-next level goals, are too small or too big? The most inspiring ones are stressful and (often much) less believable. And I feel (at least for me) that there is a difference between 1 and 3 month next level goals, with 3 months obviously being much more of a stretch.
The purchasing of my MacBook and microphone both took less than a month. Would you say these were next level goals if they were accomplished in that time frame? It was the first time I was able to purchase such highly priced electronics with my own money (and I no longer have that income). I wasn’t willing to compromise on what I wanted, but I’m pretty sure I slowed down the process due to my intense frustration and use of action to force things into place.
I do notice that choosing scarier goals, despite the intense discomfort and likelihood of obsession, is more fun and tends to lead to massive action. Inspired action though, as it doesn’t feel hard and is invigorating. More realistic goals tend to generate less enthusiasm and momentum. In the past, when I set readily achievable and believable goals, I often wouldn’t achieve them due to the lack of inspiration.
Before deciding on next level goals, should we just focus on our ultimate level goals and then see which next level goals we’re inspired to choose? I might have to go back to step one again and redefine my goals!
Hi R,
Some great questions, really. 🙂
Now you know why goals are so important right from the outset, and choosing the right ones. And why daydreaming just isn’t enough, because it doesn’t really move the energy.
If you haven’t already, you should read this post: How to Set and Achieve Monthly Goals. It outlines the three necessary elements to any goal: it needs to be inspiring, believable, and challenging. And you’re finding out now why all three are essential. Too believable, and it’s not inspiring. Too challenging, and you are overwhelmed by it.
Can you think of any intermediate goals that are more believable, and yet inspiring? If not, do you have the courage to stick with the harder goals?
Next level goals are really a spectrum. Some will be harder than others. The major difference between next level and ultimate level goals is with ultimate level goals, you can’t even really see a path to getting there, because it seems so impossible.
Your computer and microphone were definitely next level goals. They felt hard to you, and took more than just a few days.
Is there any way of telling if a goal is too small? Really it’s up to you. I would stop this consideration of what is “realistic”, though, because that has nothing to do with your goals. Choose your goals based on the above criteria, not on what is “realistic”. Something can be more believable, and yet you aren’t making concessions based on realism.
Try to get a good balance of inspiring, believable, and challenging, and you’ll be good to go.
I’m hoping my many comments and your thoughtful answers are helpful to others reading! 🙂
As they are more of a stretch, I’ve set my current next-level goals to be completed by the end of April. Perhaps breaking them down into monthly goals would be a better idea? I could make my goals more believable by changing certain elements so that the path to getting there seems easier and more believable right now. It could be easier to let go of them this way after journaling/visualizing. On the other hand, I’m not sure if focusing on monthly goals would be placing too much emphasis on how they will happen.
I’m really not certain right now whether I would have the courage to stick with the harder goals. There is always the possibility of my goals expanding as I spend more time focused on the more comfortable but still out of reach goals. This has happened within a week and a half of focusing on next level goals that seemed to really big, but now feel comparatively accomplishable. Maybe I just like discomfort!
With my computer than microphone, they definitely felt easier than the goals I’ve set for myself more recently, but it still took me a while to manifest them. I knew I could get them though, so they weren’t unbelievable.
It may take me a few days before I really get clear on my next level goals. It’s difficult to figure all of this out and to know what I’m ready for.
Hi R,
Ha I know what you mean about liking discomfort. I like that feeling of working through resistance.
You don’t necessarily need to set monthly goals. I only linked to that post so you know what qualities a goal should have. This applies to all goals, not just monthly goals.
This may sound strange, but I fear that my goals feeling more ordinary (still good, but more of a calm good than high excitement) will make them less likely to come. I’m afraid that getting acclimated to them will lessen the creative tension and likeliness of manifesting. But the things that I do manifest in real life, as you have written about on here, feel much more normal to me, even if a strong desire is present.
Hi R,
No, not at all. I believe you already read the post about the importance of desires becoming ordinary. This is a vital part of the process.
The law of attraction doesn’t require intensity of emotion. That’s only in what I call the creation stage: when the subconscious structures just aren’t there and you have to move a lot of energy to generate them.
But in the debugging stage, where you’re just closing that gap and moving closer and closer, it doesn’t require much emotion at all. I have written in the past that my own emotions regarding a manifestation rarely surpass a 3 out of 10 in intensity.
The key element is will, not as much emotion. Emotion is good for the short term, but will is the key for the long term.
Hi Brandon,
That’s what I thought, in regards to emotion, but I just wanted to make sure I was interpreting what you said correctly. Is there a knowing that this will happen, that you will get your desire? Nothing ecstatic, just a calm inner knowing?
Hi R,
Yes, definitely a knowing. With some manifestations it may be stronger than with others. But I’d say that’s a sign that it is becoming current level.
I’m guessing that’s a good thing then? Since I’ve started journaling a few days ago, I am really beginning to notice a growing sense of calmness/”knowing” with one of my goals in particular. It’s strange because just a week ago, this goal felt much bigger.
Yes, definitely a good thing, and definitely a sign that you are making progress. 😀
I’m glad! 🙂 There are still details that bring up resistance though. I’m guessing that I should stay more general with certain details, focus on the feeling/essence and end result and allow the grid to fill in?
Hi R,
You’re using a lot of Abraham terminology there, which I obviously have a different perspective from.
Abraham is all about taking it easy and letting it happen. I’m a bit more forward than that. You want to stay general enough that the resistance doesn’t overwhelm you, but you also want to push it forward enough that the energy is moving and the subconscious structures are changing. If you just stay purely general, you’ll get a lot of nice signs, but it won’t go further than that. That’s what a lot of Abraham followers experience, from what I’ve seen.
To move it forward, you need to get into the resistance a bit more. That resistance is not a bad thing. When that resistance arises, and you choose to let it go instead of giving it more energy, that is actively changing your subconscious structures to support your goal.
So it’s a balance. Keep the energy moving, but respect your comfort zone, too.
Yes, I am pretty familiar with Abraham. I remember watching a video and blog post you made though about going general and the importance of backing off from the details when you are feeling a lot of resistance. I’m a little confused now.
Hi R,
I’m pretty sure that video was from a while ago. My understanding has evolved over time. But yes it is true in general that you don’t want to get too involved in the details. But also if you remain too general, nothing will move—nothing will change. It is the will and focus that moves things forward, plus emotion of course as I discussed.
At the stage you’re in with your easier goal, you don’t need as much momentum, but you still need a bit.
I can go into more detail with my easier goal, but there are still specific details that if I bring into journaling/visualizing, my mind immediately panics or rejects what I’m telling it. For other details, there is some worry, some panic, but I can more easily shift my focus and tell my mind what I choose.
Yes, that’s perfect. You’ll find the ideal balance for you. The resistance is fine, but shouldn’t be so much that it overwhelms you.
Ok thank you for clarifying. 🙂 I can see the value of some resistance and tension. It just felt really, really off though to believe that there needs to be so much that daily life is extremely stressful because I’m constantly worried about my goals. I feel that there does need to be a certain amount of letting go after daily focusing sessions, otherwise the overwhelm and panic is too much. I guess the balance between comfort and discomfort is different for everyone, especially when fairly new to this process.
Oh yes, of course. I’m not saying it should affect your everyday life, not in the least. 🙂
Ok I think I’m on the right path then. 🙂 Often I’ve noticed that I end up accomplishing goals way before I set to finish them. I set the end date further out in the beginning because the goals feel big to me, but then as I progress with them, they feel much closer than they were and I achieve them early.
Do you still agree with taking inspired action and not trying to figure out how if you are really stressed about it? Or do you feel that action should be taken towards goals every day (even if it’s just research or something simple) regardless of inspiration?
Hi R,
No, action should definitely not be taken before you’re ready to take it. I’ve seen people spin their wheels for months or even years by trying to force action. Alignment first, then action.
Haha I’ve experienced that many times!
I’m thinking, the key to goal setting must be to make the goal out of your comfort zone, but not to the extent that it creates overwhelming stress. The presence of tension (to a certain degree) means that a goal will force you to grow, level up and keep you inspired, but too much and it can easily backfire.
Exactly! You have it. 🙂 And your capacity for dealing with discomfort will grow over time, so you can choose larger goals. But in the beginning it’s better to start small, while still challenging.
I can see how my best goals, the ones that were fun and a bit scary, challenging and but really inspiring, were overall a bit out of my comfort zone, but not too much. They created momentum, and I felt like I was upgrading some area my life a level or two. There was a jump, but it wasn’t too big that it was paralyzing.
So specific action steps and/or opportunities to act (and the knowing to act on them) will come as more focus is given to a goal? The focus creates momentum that translates to physical action as one of the later steps of a manifestation?
Correct. In The Art of Reality Creation, I describe action as the 5th stage of manifestation (out of 7). So it comes later. And yes increased focus will lead there.
Sorry for another question, Brandon! Do you have any advice on either postponing or minimizing a desire when you are already focusing on 2-3 next level goals?
There is a summer trip I want to take. It really excites me because it’s to a part of the world I’ve never visited, but would really love to go to. The desire is quite fresh and full of passion! I feel that it would be a really fun and fascinating trip, but it’s definitely not current level for me, as I can’t see exactly how I’d get there (time wise, financially, logistically, etc.) Of course there are many ways it could happen, but I’m afraid that focusing on it would take power away from my next level goals. How can I minimize this desire so that my focus from my goals doesn’t weaken? Furthermore, how should we handle desiring many things at once (e.g. a few bigger things, like new home, job or relationship, but also smaller, yet not totally affordable, things such as an expensive clothing item, travel, etc.)
Hi R,
Answered your question on the other thread. In general, if you post a question and I don’t get back right away, be assured that I will. 🙂
Oh ok, I’m sorry, I didn’t even remember posting it on another thread (I thought I had only written it my my notes and hadn’t yet posted it! Oops!)
Do you have the link to the other post I commented on?
Of course. 🙂 Here it is.
Thanks Brandon! 🙂
I don’t mean going completely general, but a little more general than I was before on certain details. If I get too specific, I really start to panic and worry over how to make something happen, needing to force a certain path, obsessing all day over my desire because I can’t let it go after focusing in the morning and evening.
Yes, and I think that’s fine. I was just outlining how a general focus affects the energy, and warning against going too far in the other direction.
I think a big mistake I’ve been making is getting into the details too soon and not trusting that they will come, which just creates more resistance. I have a bad habit of trying to figure out how things will happen and attempting to force certain action paths, but I’m becoming more aware of when I do this.
R,
I’m really glad that you’ve joined this website. I love reading your comments, they are very inspiring. 🙂 Also you ask really good questions.
Also, may I suggest that you visit “gravatar” com website, and set a profile picture for yourself, like Kat and I have? You just need to enter your e-mail that you are using on this website, so gravatar could link them. Don’t worry, gravatar keeps privacy. 😛
Thank you Z. 🙂 I will take a look at Gravatar!
I’m glad you enjoy my questions. I was hoping that they would benefit other people reading through this site! All of this information can be a little confusing if you are unfamiliar with the LOA or are only familiar with other LOA teachings, and Brandon has provided excellent answers.
Hi Brandon,
In practicing the craft, one must remain unwaveringly where they are and totally believe in order for something to manifest, right? For example, a wizard puts what is wanted out there, remaining there, at zero, without other feelings get in the way.
I was thinking that feelings, although in LOA we speak a lot about them, kind of mess up manifestations. The books I read about manifesting do not really discuss feelings. Instead, being in zero and focusing on what is wanted is stressed. So, I think LOA talks about feelings and yes, they serve as guides, but the crux of the matter is being fixed in what you want, you know what I mean? Feelings can skew this and practicing being centered in most important, I am finding.
Hi Kat,
Yes, I think feelings are overrated in the law of attraction. They are good for getting the initial energy moving, as I said to R above. But once you are on your path, they aren’t really necessary, IMO.
I’m going to be writing a post this coming week about attraction vs. creation. I’m starting to think more and more that the law of “attraction” is a bit of a misnomer. Because, all of this is not about attraction. It’s not about staying in a specific emotional state to attract the exact same vibration on the outside. Otherwise you’d have to stay in that emotional state all the time.
Really it’s about the act of will, which is the primordial force of creation. You will it, and it is done. We’ve discussed before how you can even will it while not in the greatest emotional state, though that’s a lot harder.
This is magic, pure and simple. It’s not attraction. There are some elements of attraction, but it’s just one very small part of the whole that is the act of creation.
Your comment reminded me of that point so I wanted to bring it up.
Yes, I agree. I think teachers do it like this, but they explain it another way. What they are doing is creating, not so much attracting, although it is a small part, as you mentioned.
I’m glad that you’re planning to write that post about attraction vs creation. I think that many people are confused of what exactly is and what isn’t the role of emotions. So it’s not really that positive emotions make resistant energy come up and generate negative emotions, but instead it’s the will and choice that makes the resistant energy come up and generate negative emotions, right?
Also, in regards to Kat wrote. If we get into zero state, and stay in it all day long, and the next day all day long too, then negative emotions would get no shot, and what we want would need to manifest super fast? As long as there is will plus zero state, resistance can do nothing? Or am I wrong? I find this topic interesting. If you wish to save it for the blog post, that’s okay. 🙂
Hi Z,
Emotions are good for moving energy faster. Will is needed to set the forces of creation into motion. focus is needed to direct the energy.
You don’t have to always stay so neutral as the zero state all the time, but yes in general, if you stay out of the resistance, it’ll go much faster.
Yes, I totally understand what you wrote to R about, Brandon. Indeed, emotions are not high when something manifests. Of course you are happy and thankful. It is the next logical step, so you are no longer afraid, if you originally were, excited, bouncing off the walls, or expect anything really because it came and it was to come. That is what I am doing now with this next level goal of mine. I was scared to death from what others were telling me. But I have calmed down since then. People wonder from time to time if I am still at it, to which I replay I prefer to do what I love than something else, which is greatly respected, so they leave me alone. They get used to seeing me where I do some voluntary work and that is about it. I am not questioned about it anymore or deterred from my goal, so it will end up manifesting as the next logical step in a calm way, like it was meant to when I set it forth in the first place.
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That’s awesome, Kat. It sounds like you have a handle on things. 🙂
Brandon, there’s a bit of confusion. When spending time focusing on my goal, if I just visualize it and choose it, then there’s will. However, if I journal, then I’m just writing about what’s already true in my imaginary reality, so there is no choosing or will. How can I choose or will my goal, if I am writing in my journal that I already have it? What am I missing here?
By the way Brandon, I’m just wondering if this month you’ve been focusing on a next level goal, or are you still having a rest from next level goals?
Hi Z,
I’m getting back into them a bit more, definitely more active than I was.
Hi Brandon,
In practicing the craft, one must remain unwaveringly where they are and totally believe in order for something to manifest, right? For example, a wizard puts what is wanted out there, remaining there, at zero, without other feelings get in the way.
I was thinking that feelings, although in LOA we speak a lot about them, kind of mess up manifestations. The books I read about manifesting do not really discuss feelings. Instead, being in zero and focusing on what is wanted is stressed. So, I think LOA talks about feelings and yes, they serve as guides, but the crux of the matter is being fixed in what you want, you know what I mean? Feelings can skew this and practicing being centered in most important, I am finding.
Hi Kat,
Yes, I think feelings are overrated in the law of attraction. They are good for getting the initial energy moving, as I said to R above. But once you are on your path, they aren’t really necessary, IMO.
I’m going to be writing a post this coming week about attraction vs. creation. I’m starting to think more and more that the law of “attraction” is a bit of a misnomer. Because, all of this is not about attraction. It’s not about staying in a specific emotional state to attract the exact same vibration on the outside. Otherwise you’d have to stay in that emotional state all the time.
Really it’s about the act of will, which is the primordial force of creation. You will it, and it is done. We’ve discussed before how you can even will it while not in the greatest emotional state, though that’s a lot harder.
This is magic, pure and simple. It’s not attraction. There are some elements of attraction, but it’s just one very small part of the whole that is the act of creation.
Your comment reminded me of that point so I wanted to bring it up.
Yes, I agree. I think teachers do it like this, but they explain it another way. What they are doing is creating, not so much attracting, although it is a small part, as you mentioned.
I’m glad that you’re planning to write that post about attraction vs creation. I think that many people are confused of what exactly is and what isn’t the role of emotions. So it’s not really that positive emotions make resistant energy come up and generate negative emotions, but instead it’s the will and choice that makes the resistant energy come up and generate negative emotions, right?
Also, in regards to Kat wrote. If we get into zero state, and stay in it all day long, and the next day all day long too, then negative emotions would get no shot, and what we want would need to manifest super fast? As long as there is will plus zero state, resistance can do nothing? Or am I wrong? I find this topic interesting. If you wish to save it for the blog post, that’s okay. 🙂
Hi Z,
Emotions are good for moving energy faster. Will is needed to set the forces of creation into motion. focus is needed to direct the energy.
You don’t have to always stay so neutral as the zero state all the time, but yes in general, if you stay out of the resistance, it’ll go much faster.
Yes, I totally understand what you wrote to R about, Brandon. Indeed, emotions are not high when something manifests. Of course you are happy and thankful. It is the next logical step, so you are no longer afraid, if you originally were, excited, bouncing off the walls, or expect anything really because it came and it was to come. That is what I am doing now with this next level goal of mine. I was scared to death from what others were telling me. But I have calmed down since then. People wonder from time to time if I am still at it, to which I replay I prefer to do what I love than something else, which is greatly respected, so they leave me alone. They get used to seeing me where I do some voluntary work and that is about it. I am not questioned about it anymore or deterred from my goal, so it will end up manifesting as the next logical step in a calm way, like it was meant to when I set it forth in the first place.
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That’s awesome, Kat. It sounds like you have a handle on things. 🙂
Brandon, there’s a bit of confusion. When spending time focusing on my goal, if I just visualize it and choose it, then there’s will. However, if I journal, then I’m just writing about what’s already true in my imaginary reality, so there is no choosing or will. How can I choose or will my goal, if I am writing in my journal that I already have it? What am I missing here?
By the way Brandon, I’m just wondering if this month you’ve been focusing on a next level goal, or are you still having a rest from next level goals?
Hi Z,
I’m getting back into them a bit more, definitely more active than I was.
Brandon,
These days, I am having a lot of information come in. The thing is, it is both good and not so good. I was at first bothered by the not so good, but I choose to not pay any attention to it. I suspect it had to do with the dismal nature of the external circumstances, so it may have been influenced by that. I then ask, how come I am here and there is a story behind it (becasue there is) and get no answer, so it must not be from my energy stream, but interference.
Do you mean potentially psychic information, and you can’t tell if it’s your ego or not? The not so good stuff is almost definitely your ego. You just have to discern it, which I know can be hard. The higher self always brings aid, nothing negative.
Brandon,
These days, I am having a lot of information come in. The thing is, it is both good and not so good. I was at first bothered by the not so good, but I choose to not pay any attention to it. I suspect it had to do with the dismal nature of the external circumstances, so it may have been influenced by that. I then ask, how come I am here and there is a story behind it (becasue there is) and get no answer, so it must not be from my energy stream, but interference.
Do you mean potentially psychic information, and you can’t tell if it’s your ego or not? The not so good stuff is almost definitely your ego. You just have to discern it, which I know can be hard. The higher self always brings aid, nothing negative.