There’s been a lot of discussion in the comments lately about firstly, how to feel good about your desire, and secondly, how to do this in a healthy way that respects your current reality. I’ve been saying that manifesting your desires is not just a simple matter of just feeling good, but is quite a bit more intricate than that.
So the question is, what’s the balance? How to feel good without falling into the traps outlined in this post?
The Basic Components of the Law of Attraction
So, you want to manifest your desires. But, to understand how feeling good fits into your overall strategy, you must first be aware of the essential components of the law of attraction. I’ve been laying these out for the past months in particular, not to mention in my basic law of attraction course: 10 Essential Keys to Make the Law of Attraction Work for You.
If I were to summarize the last 2 months or so of the new understanding I have gained about the law of attraction, it would go thus:
- Resistance must not be feared, but embraced, as only by working through it can you fully embody your goal
- With big, next level goals, you need creative tension to generate the momentum to get there
- In order to generate creative tension, you must deliberately choose your goal
- Using the zero state, you can overcome limiting beliefs and create a new story that you’d rather be true
- Giving your resistance non-reaction and radical acceptance, while giving emotional investment in what you want to experience more of, you can generate the subconscious structures to quickly achieve your goal (more about that this coming Thursday)
That’s a very high-level overview, but if you understand and apply all 5 of the above points, you would almost certainly jumpstart your success with manifesting.
A New Paradigm of Feeling Good
In order to fully grasp how to feel good so as to increase your success with manifesting, we must understand how it fits into the above points. As I hope you see, it is far more involved than you might initially think. After all, we know that while feeling good is an important part of the manifestation process, it is not always a vital one. My goal is to discover the easiest, quickest path to successful manifestation, and feeling good is definitely part of that, when placed in the right context, with the right understanding.
So I want to outline several ways that people try to feel good throughout the manifestation process. Several of these ways are undesirable and counterproductive to achieving your goals. Towards the end, I’ll discuss how to feel good in a way that is healthy and authentic.
Your Relationship with Tension
The understanding of creative tension in the manifestation process is vital, but as I’ve mentioned, a lot of people are uncomfortable with tension, and try to do what they can to reduce or even eliminate it. However, creative tension is absolutely essential in order to create the necessary momentum to reach your next level goals. Learning how to feel good, while it definitely helps, cannot replace the need for creative tension.
When you attempt to reduce creative tension, you are cutting that momentum. It’s like trying to fire an arrow without enough tension in the bowstring. Tension is required in order to fire off the arrow and give it enough momentum to fly to the target. Without that tension, it’s just not going to go anywhere.
I’ve also been thinking of it as a rollercoaster. Even though I hate rollercoasters, I know that many of them start with a large ascent uphill. On the very few I’ve been on, you could almost feel the tension of the car against gravity as it got higher and higher on the hill. Then, it has just a momentary pause, before racing through the rest of the rollercoaster. If the tension weren’t built up like that, the momentum just wouldn’t be there. It wouldn’t go far, and wouldn’t be very enjoyable, for those who like that sort of thing. 😛
In both examples, any attempt to cut that tension is actually going to result in a lack of success. The arrow won’t fly, and the rollercoaster won’t move very far.
Getting Comfortable with Discomfort
My catchphrase of late has been, “Get comfortable with discomfort.” That, to me, is a summary of the manifestation process, especially for next level goals.
In a book I’m reading, called Moving Through Parallel Worlds To Achieve Your Dreams: The Epic Guide To Unlimited Power by Kevin L. Michel, the author says:
Reality does not exist to make any one of us feel comfortable – in fact, no matter what one believes, we can agree that we exist in this reality for the purpose of growth – spiritual or evolutionary. And growth comes not from comfort, but from discomfort.
And this is a guy definitely talking about how to create your own reality, and how to feel good as an integral part of that process. But, he agrees with what I’ve been saying, that discomfort is an integral part of the process. You just don’t have growth without it.
By the way, it’s a wonderful book, and I plan on reviewing it once I’ve finished it.
3 Ways Feeling Good Can Stall Your Manifestation
So first, let’s talk about the ways that you shouldn’t try to feel good. Largely this falls into the category of escaping resistance.
1. By Dropping Your Vision
The first popular way people try to feel good is by dropping their vision. This is often the case when their goal brings up a lot of resistance, and it’s easier to drop the vision of their goal than to stick with it to completion.
The truth is that many of us just aren’t very good at actually committing to a goal. Commitment is scary, because goals require something of us. It’s often easier to say, “Eh, never mind. I don’t really care if I get that goal.”
The Universe Will Give You Whatever You Ask
In that book,
“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;For Life is just an employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.
The Universe will give you whatever you envision and embody within yourself. Learning how to feel good in the right context is vital for this very reason, because it helps you to embody the vibrational signature of that goal. However, that process of embodiment of our goals is often terrifying, especially when the gap between here and there is so large. It can be extremely tempting to drop that vision, and by doing so you’ll immediately experience a huge wave of relief. But, it will not generate creative tension, and it will not move you forward on your path, because it is not creating the necessary subconscious structures to achieve your goals.
Solution: Deliberately Choose Your Goal
The solution is to deliberately choose your goal—to make a commitment to your goal.
I explained in a recent comment that your goals are like children. Each of them requires nurturing, love, and patience in order to fully develop into what we want them to be.
When you make a commitment to your goal, or as I’ve said before, make it non-negotiable, you resolve to stick to the path to the end. You put your will behind it.
Doing this will actually make sticking with the goal the path of least resistance, even when resistance arises. So, if you feel tempted to drop your vision due to resistance, ask yourself, “Have I committed myself to this goal? Have I made it non-negotiable?” Students of the 10 keys course will recognize this as the very first of the keys to successful manifesting.
If you have not committed, then ask yourself, “Am I willing to fully commit to this goal, or is it not important enough to me?” This decision will be extremely clarifying for you, as it’ll reveal to you your true priorities.
2. By Lying to Yourself About Current Reality
Another way that people try to feel good is by sugar-coating current reality. They try to make it seem better than it really is.
Creative tension requires you to feel the gap between where you are, and where you want to be. Just like in #1 above, trying to reduce this tension will only result in less momentum.
This one requires a bit of subtlety, because there is nothing whatsoever wrong with finding things to appreciate in your life, and as you continue to discover how to feel good about your goal, you will often do this. However, some people take this too far, and try to “act as if” to the extent that they fool themselves almost into believing that they have already achieved the goal.
The thing about reality is that it has a funny habit of reminding you about its existence. The reason that your current reality exists in its undesirable state is because of some story you are telling, or some limiting belief, which holds it in place. Just adding a veneer of “feeling good” doesn’t do anything but temporarily fool you into thinking that things are better than they are. Eventually, because of the current subconscious structures, current reality will reveal itself, often in a bigger, uglier way than before.
Solution: Be Honest About Current Reality
I often say that the Universe will push your buttons until you no longer have buttons to push. The Universe is a professional button-pusher. As I quoted earlier, discomfort is the name of the game when working towards your goals, or even just living as a human being. Funnily enough, learning how to feel good often requires moving through some discomfort, first.
So, embrace that resistance. Be honest with what’s here right now, and stop giving it your emotional reaction. When resistance presents itself, sit with it. Enter the zero state. Let that energy flow through. Demagnetize your subconscious mind to that energy.
3. By Distracting Yourself
I’ve mentioned many times before my annoyance with the advice to distract yourself. On any number of LOA forums, you will see advice to the effect of, “Just go watch cat videos, or think of cuddly little puppies.”
The misconception is that feeling good, in general, is sufficient to manifest your goal. It is not. Learning how to feel good requires also realizing what exactly you should be feeling good about. 🙂
Your subconscious mind knows what you’re focusing on, and what you’re feeling. If you feel good about puppies and kittens, all you’re telling your subconscious mind is that puppies and kittens are something you want to experience more of in your life.
I’m holding back from yet again quoting my new favorite book…—Oh, forget it. In Moving Through Parallel Worlds To Achieve Your Dreams, he says:
What we focus on, through the lens of emotion, expands.
So, focus on kittens, while feeling good, and you’re sending a nice strong message to your subconscious that you want more of that. You’re not telling it you want more abundance, or a better relationship, or that dream job.
I think people do this because it’s simple advice. “Don’t like what’s in your current reality? Just think about superficial things that do feel good to you. Don’t face the discomfort under any circumstances.”
Solution: Get Comfortable with Discomfort
It’s that discomfort that helps you to grow, and to generate the subconscious structures necessary to achieve your next level goal.
So, as I said earlier, get comfortable with discomfort. When you choose your goal, realize that resistance is absolutely going to come up. It doesn’t have to be debilitating, or even very major, but if your goal is over there and you are here, then there’s a gap, and that gap will translate to resistance and discomfort.
Don’t run away from it. Choose that goal, stick to the vision, and don’t give your emotional investment to the resistance. Let it go and enter the zero state. That’s all there is to it.
How to Feel Good and Quickly Achieve Your Goals
I’ve told you all the ways not to feel good. 😆 But now you actually want to know how to feel good, and how to do it in a way that will speed up your manifestation results.
First of all, don’t obsess about feeling good every moment of the day. It’s more important to enter the zero state, than to make sure you are in some joyful state 24/7. In fact, being in some perpetual state of joy and bliss is not even possible. These are just emotions, and they will come and go, just like any other emotion.
Use “Feeling Good” as a Tool
But there is power in feeling good. You use your emotions as a tool, instead of being controlled by them.
When you feel good about your goal, you are sending a powerful message to your subconscious mind that this goal is important. In fact, the more frequently you feel good about your goal, and the more intense the emotion, the more insistent that message will be that this goal is more important than whatever stories or beliefs your subconscious mind is currently holding in contradiction to that goal.
Emotional energy is precious, and not to be wasted. It is through emotional energy that you tell your subconscious mind what is important, and what should be experienced more often. Then, your subconscious mind will make that happen.
Your Emotional Currency
You can’t afford to waste your emotions on resistance. Imagine they are like money. You only have so much of it. Would you rather spend it on something you don’t like, getting more of that thing in your reality, or would you rather spend it on things you do like?
When you feel good about your goal, you are trading that emotional currency for experiences that are closer and closer to your goal. The more you spend on that goal, the more your subconscious mind realizes that you want more like this, and so it gets easier and easier to get more of that experience.
That’s how you use feeling good as a tool. You deliberately, mindfully, use your emotions where they can do the most good for you.
As long as you are not running away from the resistance, the simple act of feeling good about your goal a few times a day will gradually train your subconscious mind that this is your new desired reality. Once you’ve convinced it of this fact, it will do everything in its considerable power to make it happen.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Has this post helped you to learn how to feel good in order to achieve your goals, and how not to escape your resistance? Perhaps contemplate on where you have been spending your emotional currency, and what results you have been getting from that. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
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This is a wonderful post. I’ve been following Abraham and Melody Fletcher’s advice on feeling good so I’m sure you can guess what results I’ve been getting from that haha. I liked how you explained in detail the three ways feeling good won’t yield wanted results.
Thanks so much, Natasha! I think we’ve all tried those 3 ways at one time or another. I appreciate your comments.
I’ve been spending my emotional currency on distracting myself, lying to myself about current reality because Abraham teaches to ignore what is, and being detached from my goal, not caring whether I get it or not. My life has been going really smoothly, and it feels good to feel good and be happy, but I have not yielded any results in terms of manifesting my big goals.
I totally get it. It’s in line with what I’d expect: just feeling good and lying about current reality will not generate any tension, and you’ll stay on your current level, albeit while feeling pretty good. But if you want bigger goals, you need to “get comfortable with discomfort” and embrace the resistance as part of the path.
I liked your analogy about the steps as opposed to the slopes for current v next level goals. I also like how you even acknowledge there is a difference between current and next level goals. I’ve never heard of that before, but it makes perfect sense.
Thanks. They have to be dealt with completely differently from one another, so I think it’s useful to acknowledge and work with them. 🙂
I have found that being honest with yourself about your reality, can create a scenario where lying to yourself may also occur, thus canceling themselves out. Limiting beliefs, the ability to manifest, and creating such tension that it feels as if reaching your goal is impossible… or so you think… and then this just becomes a destructive circle of thoughts thus making you chase your own tail. I’ve been there.
This doesn’t lead us to our desires and goals. While I believe that most of us can eventually see these kinds of scenarios as a truth – we are so often our own worst critic- we cannot always recognize them for what they are until we are ready to accept. Perhaps we don’t even know the first step to open our eyes, or maybe we have a lot of resistance. Perhaps both. I’ve been “stuck” at both, and I’ve helped clients who were in the same boat.
While I don’t necessarily believe in the zero state concept, what I do know is that Brandon can help, he is a very intuitive person. However, It is up to us to be ready to meet that resistance, take that step however hard it may be, and believe that what we want is possible to achieve. We can have what we want, even when there are forces out there, people or situations that tell us that we can’t. Whatever it is you’re after, Brandon can build the stepping stones with you to get started.
Hi Jennifer,
Thanks so much for your comments.
Being honest is a difficult skill at times. You have to avoid the temptation to make things look better than they are, and also to make things seem worse than they are. Complete honesty is something most of us aren’t really very used to.
And if the goal is too big, it is certainly permitted to reduce the vision if necessary. That’s why I included the section on “Am I really willing to commit to this goal?” If the answer is no, then drop it, obviously. Or if it’s too big for now, then pare it down. Just don’t make a habit of changing around goals that get too uncomfortable: that’s what I was warning against.
I’d invite you to test out the zero state for yourself. It’s a very experiential state, that anyone can experience, generally in very little time. 🙂
Hi Jen,
great to hear from you on here. You have a great way of wording many of these concepts. I agree that sometimes people tend to lie to themselves about reality. I have done this before, but not often. We do it and it is so subtle we don’t even realize we do it at times.
As for the zero state, it is actually in the Bible, but not called that obviously. Phil. 4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. St. Francis of Assisi also described a portable cell you can go within yourself and close your inner door. There, nothing can affect you. I can’t remember where the reference is where I got this from about st. Francis, but it was an audio CD I listened to about someone who studied his teachings. The zero state is nothing more than a place you can go, even if for a few seconds, the eye of the storm, where nothing bothers you or affects you. I’m sure you have had moments like this in your life. I know I can get there at will more now.
Hope this helps.
Good summary thanks B.
I’d appreciate it if you did summaries like this every now and then, as you add, drop or modify your process.
Thanks CJ. I will try to do so. 🙂 Glad it was helpful.
This is a wonderful post. I’ve been following Abraham and Melody Fletcher’s advice on feeling good so I’m sure you can guess what results I’ve been getting from that haha. I liked how you explained in detail the three ways feeling good won’t yield wanted results.
Thanks so much, Natasha! I think we’ve all tried those 3 ways at one time or another. I appreciate your comments.
I’ve been spending my emotional currency on distracting myself, lying to myself about current reality because Abraham teaches to ignore what is, and being detached from my goal, not caring whether I get it or not. My life has been going really smoothly, and it feels good to feel good and be happy, but I have not yielded any results in terms of manifesting my big goals.
I totally get it. It’s in line with what I’d expect: just feeling good and lying about current reality will not generate any tension, and you’ll stay on your current level, albeit while feeling pretty good. But if you want bigger goals, you need to “get comfortable with discomfort” and embrace the resistance as part of the path.
I liked your analogy about the steps as opposed to the slopes for current v next level goals. I also like how you even acknowledge there is a difference between current and next level goals. I’ve never heard of that before, but it makes perfect sense.
Thanks. They have to be dealt with completely differently from one another, so I think it’s useful to acknowledge and work with them. 🙂
I have found that being honest with yourself about your reality, can create a scenario where lying to yourself may also occur, thus canceling themselves out. Limiting beliefs, the ability to manifest, and creating such tension that it feels as if reaching your goal is impossible… or so you think… and then this just becomes a destructive circle of thoughts thus making you chase your own tail. I’ve been there.
This doesn’t lead us to our desires and goals. While I believe that most of us can eventually see these kinds of scenarios as a truth – we are so often our own worst critic- we cannot always recognize them for what they are until we are ready to accept. Perhaps we don’t even know the first step to open our eyes, or maybe we have a lot of resistance. Perhaps both. I’ve been “stuck” at both, and I’ve helped clients who were in the same boat.
While I don’t necessarily believe in the zero state concept, what I do know is that Brandon can help, he is a very intuitive person. However, It is up to us to be ready to meet that resistance, take that step however hard it may be, and believe that what we want is possible to achieve. We can have what we want, even when there are forces out there, people or situations that tell us that we can’t. Whatever it is you’re after, Brandon can build the stepping stones with you to get started.
Hi Jennifer,
Thanks so much for your comments.
Being honest is a difficult skill at times. You have to avoid the temptation to make things look better than they are, and also to make things seem worse than they are. Complete honesty is something most of us aren’t really very used to.
And if the goal is too big, it is certainly permitted to reduce the vision if necessary. That’s why I included the section on “Am I really willing to commit to this goal?” If the answer is no, then drop it, obviously. Or if it’s too big for now, then pare it down. Just don’t make a habit of changing around goals that get too uncomfortable: that’s what I was warning against.
I’d invite you to test out the zero state for yourself. It’s a very experiential state, that anyone can experience, generally in very little time. 🙂
Hi Jen,
great to hear from you on here. You have a great way of wording many of these concepts. I agree that sometimes people tend to lie to themselves about reality. I have done this before, but not often. We do it and it is so subtle we don’t even realize we do it at times.
As for the zero state, it is actually in the Bible, but not called that obviously. Phil. 4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. St. Francis of Assisi also described a portable cell you can go within yourself and close your inner door. There, nothing can affect you. I can’t remember where the reference is where I got this from about st. Francis, but it was an audio CD I listened to about someone who studied his teachings. The zero state is nothing more than a place you can go, even if for a few seconds, the eye of the storm, where nothing bothers you or affects you. I’m sure you have had moments like this in your life. I know I can get there at will more now.
Hope this helps.
Good summary thanks B.
I’d appreciate it if you did summaries like this every now and then, as you add, drop or modify your process.
Thanks CJ. I will try to do so. 🙂 Glad it was helpful.
Wonderful!
The question that always comes up for me is that of stress. As we are in tension, that stress comes up. Masters always try to explain how we can handle it, as you did here with the zero state, but it takes training because we are used to being stressed out and exhausted with our eyes popping out.
Hi Kat,
It definitely takes training. Sometimes people say I make this sound too easy, lol. Certainly it’s difficult at first, because we’re used to our stories, and identifying with them. It takes time to learn how to develop non-attachment.
I am wondering if this is how gurus manage pain which can lead to managing blood pressure and even stopping blood from flowing from a wound? Of course, the latter is far advanced but does it all start at zero?
Hi Kat,
I strongly believe just about any ability starts from the zero state. This might seem to others as though I am overestimating it, but I don’t think so. The zero state is the key to creation, it’s the key to psychic abilities, it’s even the key to healing, as I’ve been testing recently. I’ve been having wonderful success with healing from the zero state.
So yes, it wouldn’t surprise me if these other things as well are from deep within the zero state.
Not just gurus Kat. Google Tor Wager + acceptance therapy for chronic pain. It’s about letting go of the tendency to resist (or be aversive to) physical pain sensations. The result is that the pain signature in the brain drops away. Not bro science either.
So, accepting the pain as is and eventually it will fall away, i.e. There won’t be any reaction to it is how I’m understanding this. Hope I got the underlying idea. Thanks!
We talked about it before, but I have a lot going on, and repetition is good for the learner.
That’s okay. 🙂 I think that the zero state is so powerful because it is when we are directly connected with our higher self. It’s when the ego is as out of the way as possible. The ego is the limiting factor, as well as the limiting beliefs in the subconscious mind, which are also not a factor when in the zero state. it’s just in that sea of stillness.
Fabulous!
This brings me to my next question. Interesting, because I’ve been meaning to ask this but have been waiting for an appropriate topic. How can we incorporate this into busy lives?
Most of us are trying to achieve work/life balance and this is the crux of it. I myself cannot balance fun and business, I can only do one at a time meaning being a hermit when working or a party animal and social butterfly at other times. Actually, I’ve bern getting a little better at this lately come to think of it. Since both are necessary for a good life, this can make a good future topic for a blog post or call conversation.
Hi Kat,
Even just closing your eyes for a few minutes and taking a few deep breaths can enter you into the zero state while at work. I could especially see it being useful before entering a meeting or anything that can be especially difficult. It doesn’t have to be a big ordeal to enter it.
The end goal is to allow yourself to remain there perpetually. Of course that’s a very tall order, but you’ll find yourself doing it more and more. If something disrupts your peace, see what is at the root of it, and reenter the zero state, allowing that resistance to resolve. I used to talk a lot about moment-by-moment awareness of your inner state, and this is vital. If something throws you off balance, you can quickly center yourself again if you catch it immediately.
So it’s more about small corrections to your inner state throughout the day, than having to meditate for 30 minutes all at once (I never do that).
I am trying to get better about spending a few quality minutes at my altar, but I admit it’s difficult for me to get away from my work. However, I can enter the zero state in almost any situation, at any time of the day, in about 5 seconds or less.
Thank you.
The book Hyperspace comes to mind by that professor at CUNY. What I got out of that was the zero state, from where it all began, ended, began again and remained in between. I think that’s where science is headed anyway and what will be found- stillness. It’s mind boggling from our perspective but in essence pretty simple. ????
Excellent post!
However, isn’t entering the zero state whenever resistance comes up also a form of “distraction”? Because it’s like, you’re choosing to meditate, write, play the piano or whatever that provokes the zero state for you whenever resistance comes up. How is that different from choosing to watch cute kitten videos? I’m confused…
Hi Indigo,
The difference is that you aren’t trying to get away from the resistance. You are sitting with the resistance, and just removing your emotional reaction from it. You’re unplugging from the negative emotions, but not pushing them away or trying to distract yourself.
So, when you start to enter the zero state, often those thoughts and emotions will still be there, you just won’t be identifying with them. And you’ll let them be there, and soon they’ll dissolve, since you’re not feeding them with focus and emotional investment.
Whereas when you distract yourself, you’re not allowing the resistance to dissolve through non-reaction. It just gets repressed.
Does that make sense?
Yes that makes sense! the difference is so subtle, yet important. Thanks for clarifying!
I think that “zero-state” as you call it maybe defined differently for some. Even after considerable conversation about it last night (Thanks Christine!) I still don’t know if that description of it fits how I would achieve it. We talked at length about people in history who have achieved it in their own way. The question for me is, while it’s not something that cannot be achieved, can I achieve it in a way that is applicable to me. It is attainable to me in the way it was explained or can it be done through watching the feel good videos as a stepping stone and then perhaps taking another step… meditation etc. If it were me, I would use the cat videos for example to get me to the “door” of entering it so to speak, and then meditation as a catalyst to achieve it. I agree with Kat, stress is a big one for me, and would need to set my mind on course. I talked last night about a nightmare poking through in that state… for me, if we are using movies as an example here, I would go from the nightmare to watching the little mermaid, to meditation to complete this, ultimately achieving zero state and the bonus of sleep. I hope that explains a bit what I was getting at in our conversation.
Hi Jen,
The risk is that feel-good videos are going to take you away from the resistance. If it is a temporary measure, that’s okay. But the best thing to do is to get to the point where we can face the resistance, like that “nightmare” you mentioned, while not emotionally reacting to it. That’s the power of the zero state.
I want to say the zero state is not synonymous with meditation. I often enter the zero state without ever meditating. It seems to be a common misconception, so just pointing that out.
Watch the videos if you need to as a temporary stopgap solution. But, the resistance will still be there when you return to it, until you release that energy through non-reaction, as I discussed in last week’s podcast on how to overcome limiting beliefs. They are absolutely separate processes, one which helps you to distract yourself temporarily, and the other which actually resolves the trigger or resistance.
The fact that the nightmare keeps poking through means that you haven’t quite resolved it yet. It is a blessing, because it gives you the opportunity to face it, and to allow that energy to flow through. That’s the power of the zero state.
Hi jen,
I see what you are talking about. I have tried doing what you say, distracting myself, and I can’t do it. Even if I were to read a good book or watch a good movie, my mind still goes in circles. Distraction is a very subtle way you get false peace. It is a very subtle lie because the zero state is only true. I do zero meditation to reach it. I can get there in probably 30 seconds.
The reason you keep experiencing this “nightmare” is because you don’t allow that energy to filter through when you are in the zero state. You can’t run away from anything at all, but when you are in this state, all truth is revealed. When you are distracted, you run away from truth, and the truth shall set you free. The only way to be set free is in this state which you can attain very quickly if you don’t get afraid of it. I know this from experience.
For those that don’t know, I have suffered migraines for 4 years. I used to run away from how I dealt with my emotions, and I used to think I was stronger than I was. I pretended I was super woman or something. Even when I was in incredible pain I would push through. Only recently did I realize I had to cut it out already because it was getting to the point where I was having suicidal thoughts. Recently I have been entering the zero state, and it has been thanks to the help of Brandon’s new healing techniques that I can reach it better. Anyway I have realized I can be angry, crying, upset, happy, sad, etc. These emotions are separate from my true self, and they are something that can just pass through and I have nothing to be ashamed of. Emotions don’t define who I am, and if I have a bad day, oh well. I am still in this state and nothing can get me out of it darn it!!
Hope this helps.
Puppies and kittens haha 😀 We all love them. Actually I know some people at college who are obsessed with them, but I clearly can see that they are perhaps overusing them for running away from their problems.
I would like to ask you about your opinion on why Melody has been continuously talking about how feeling good will help us get anything we want, and hasn’t realized that that doesn’t apply to next level goals? Do you think that maybe the Ayahuasca ceremonies take care of resistance and creative tension for her in a big way, so she gets her next level goals anyway? Maybe she isn’t aware of how she gets next level goals?
Hi Z,
Yes I think you’re right on both counts. She says how intense those ceremonies are, and she clearly believes the intensity and difficulty of those ceremonies is actually beneficial for her, which I agree. So that’ll change a lot.
I hesitate to comment too much on someone else like that, because I’m just not in her life. But I know she uses Abraham’s material quite a bit, and so it’s just something that transfers over I think. As you said, most people don’t realize how the changes have happened for them. As I have read her blog, most of her big changes have come through a period of intense struggle, followed by a big breakthrough. That’s the definition of the resistance mode, or the magus path, in my eyes.
Remember that these ideas about the law of attraction have really only been around for 150 years or so. There’s some very good material, and some decent but not quite accurate material, as well as material that’s just wrong. Obviously magic goes way back before that, but we are essentially talking about magic without tools or rituals. We’re talking about direct magic.
So because of that, all sorts of ideas will be floating out there. And many people will just adopt another person’s mode of thinking about it, including terminology and all the rest, without necessarily seeing for themselves if it’s true.
Most of us will see in our own lives, periods of struggle, followed by periods of breakthrough, and everything we wanted coming to us. And it’s natural to want to avoid the former, and increase the latter. So we might say something like, “What if I could just cut out the first step, of struggling with the idea of it, and step right into the end goal right now?” And while it’s not a horrible idea, it misses the point that this is a journey. You can’t just step into the end goal because you’re not there yet. You have to build that bridge, within yourself, from where you are to where you want to be, one stone at a time. The bigger the gap, the more we have to bridge it, and can’t just step into the final result.
That makes a lot sense then. I remember the first time you told me that distracting myself isn’t really a good idea, or something along those lines. At that time I had trouble believing that distraction wasn’t ultimately beneficial. However now I understand it really well (at least theoretically), and I owe it to you.
Thanks, Z.
Yeah, distraction has never worked for me. I remember when I was reading a lot of Richard Dotts’ books, he would always say that ignoring your problem would make it go away. I’ve tested it, and it just hasn’t worked, lol.
Hi Z,
I have listened to a recorded coaching call from Melody where she was talking to someone who wanted to become a world famous golfer. The person currently (or at least at the time the call was recorded) has another day job and has not made any efforts towards his golfing dream. Melody told him that there isn’t enough momentum yet, and told him to visualize everyday and being in the feeling of what it feels like to be that person (similar to what Brandon talks about here).
So I do believe her materials are specific to people at different ‘wavelengths’, for those that don’t have enough momentum she will tell them to create momentum first. For the people that already has garnered enough momentum, but can’t get out of the way in order for the universe to bring them the goods, she will tell them to relax and receive.
I have listneed to a lot of her calls and this seems to be how it is. Her teaching changes based on the person’s energy and where they are.
And that’s very similar to Abraham’s advice about building up momentum.
The difference for me is the importance of getting comfortable with the tension inherent in the creative process. So for that person who wanted to be a famous golfer, I’d definitely say to visualize that daily, and to deliberately choose that goal and commit to it if they really wanted it. I’d say to perhaps break it down into components: what needs to happen first before you can be a world-famous golfer? And I’d say to always be honest with what they wanted, and where they were currently, while allowing that tension to drive them forward.
That’s the major difference between Abraham, and what I’ve come to understand about the law of attraction.
Hi Brandon,
Could you clarify why the person in this case needs to figure out ‘what needs to happen’ in order to become a successful golfer? I thought we don’t need to figure out the “how”, and on one of your blog posts you said the most important step for LOA is letting go. Since there are an infinite number of ways things can happen for a particular person, isn’t it counter productive to try to do the universe’s job? (Unless of course the person feels guided to do so)
THanks!
Hi Indigo,
It really just depends on the goal. You don’t want to get lost in the details, but it can be useful to have a plan to get where you want to be, especially when your goal is as big as “be a famous golfer”.
For instance, if your goal is to start a business, well, you might want to look into business ideas, what type of business you want to have, whether you want to develop a website, etc. These details aren’t just going to happen to fall into place. That can happen along the way, but it definitely takes input from you.
And yes, the most important step is letting go, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only step. It takes more than that.
Often, the tension of the unresolved goal will generate its own action steps, but you still have to take those actions, and you can help along the process by seeing what you can come up with and letting the Universe meet you half way.
Hey, Indigo. Thank you a lot for your feedback! I remember watching a video she posted on youtube, where a reader talks about wanting to become a professional golfer. I didn’t know there was a coaching call with golf, too! I’ve also listened to some of her coaching calls, although not really those with big, next level goals.
That’s interesting, I guess golf is a more popular thing that I thought lol. I’ve listened to many of her calls too and I remember there to be a lot of big dreamers (music producers, actors, singers etc) and it’s interesting because she tells different people different things based on where they are, it seems she is channeling. Her blog posts do seem to be more generalized (“just feel good”) though. I remember her telling some girl on a call to stop being lazy (lmao) because she wasn’t taking inspired actions, which seems to contradict what she teaches usually.
haha that’s funny 😀
Wonderful!
The question that always comes up for me is that of stress. As we are in tension, that stress comes up. Masters always try to explain how we can handle it, as you did here with the zero state, but it takes training because we are used to being stressed out and exhausted with our eyes popping out.
Hi Kat,
It definitely takes training. Sometimes people say I make this sound too easy, lol. Certainly it’s difficult at first, because we’re used to our stories, and identifying with them. It takes time to learn how to develop non-attachment.
I am wondering if this is how gurus manage pain which can lead to managing blood pressure and even stopping blood from flowing from a wound? Of course, the latter is far advanced but does it all start at zero?
Hi Kat,
I strongly believe just about any ability starts from the zero state. This might seem to others as though I am overestimating it, but I don’t think so. The zero state is the key to creation, it’s the key to psychic abilities, it’s even the key to healing, as I’ve been testing recently. I’ve been having wonderful success with healing from the zero state.
So yes, it wouldn’t surprise me if these other things as well are from deep within the zero state.
Not just gurus Kat. Google Tor Wager + acceptance therapy for chronic pain. It’s about letting go of the tendency to resist (or be aversive to) physical pain sensations. The result is that the pain signature in the brain drops away. Not bro science either.
So, accepting the pain as is and eventually it will fall away, i.e. There won’t be any reaction to it is how I’m understanding this. Hope I got the underlying idea. Thanks!
We talked about it before, but I have a lot going on, and repetition is good for the learner.
That’s okay. 🙂 I think that the zero state is so powerful because it is when we are directly connected with our higher self. It’s when the ego is as out of the way as possible. The ego is the limiting factor, as well as the limiting beliefs in the subconscious mind, which are also not a factor when in the zero state. it’s just in that sea of stillness.
Fabulous!
This brings me to my next question. Interesting, because I’ve been meaning to ask this but have been waiting for an appropriate topic. How can we incorporate this into busy lives?
Most of us are trying to achieve work/life balance and this is the crux of it. I myself cannot balance fun and business, I can only do one at a time meaning being a hermit when working or a party animal and social butterfly at other times. Actually, I’ve bern getting a little better at this lately come to think of it. Since both are necessary for a good life, this can make a good future topic for a blog post or call conversation.
Hi Kat,
Even just closing your eyes for a few minutes and taking a few deep breaths can enter you into the zero state while at work. I could especially see it being useful before entering a meeting or anything that can be especially difficult. It doesn’t have to be a big ordeal to enter it.
The end goal is to allow yourself to remain there perpetually. Of course that’s a very tall order, but you’ll find yourself doing it more and more. If something disrupts your peace, see what is at the root of it, and reenter the zero state, allowing that resistance to resolve. I used to talk a lot about moment-by-moment awareness of your inner state, and this is vital. If something throws you off balance, you can quickly center yourself again if you catch it immediately.
So it’s more about small corrections to your inner state throughout the day, than having to meditate for 30 minutes all at once (I never do that).
I am trying to get better about spending a few quality minutes at my altar, but I admit it’s difficult for me to get away from my work. However, I can enter the zero state in almost any situation, at any time of the day, in about 5 seconds or less.
Thank you.
The book Hyperspace comes to mind by that professor at CUNY. What I got out of that was the zero state, from where it all began, ended, began again and remained in between. I think that’s where science is headed anyway and what will be found- stillness. It’s mind boggling from our perspective but in essence pretty simple. ????
I agree meditation is not the same- for me it has been a useful tool to get to what I would consider to be my zero state. We can’t use “puppies and kittens” (or insert whatever one would like here) as distractions or crutches in an effort to circumvent the root of the issue that needs to be addressed, maybe a coping skill, we all have to start somewhere to get back on track. Coping skills are meant to be stepping stones to help with that. If I am crying, or sad, there are sometimes that comes out as a coping mechanism, which doesn’t address the root and in that sense is false, but other times, crying is a raw reflection of my true self, and it can be so cleansing when that happens, I almost feel naked. It will right my ship so to speak, back to peace so I can get to the next level. If I am having a bad day, I have to work through it before I can be in the zero state, which can also happen on the same day as a bad day, but first I have to cleanse to get there. I agree that a lot of times too, we go through periods of struggle before we can have a breakthrough. Sometimes that struggle even shapes us, perhaps we emerge as something greater and do things in a better way that we imagined before we hit that bottom. In terms of intensity and difficulty being helpful, I agree with that. Some of the most beautiful things in life, first had to be forged or formed at high pressure. A seed doesn’t get far without a brisk wind propelling it on a journey toward it’s destination.
Have a great day!
Thanks Jen. I agree about being forged by our struggles. I think diamonds are a good example. It is only through a long period of high pressure that they become diamonds. We wouldn’t want them, nor would they be so valuable, if we cut out the pressure.
Excellent post!
However, isn’t entering the zero state whenever resistance comes up also a form of “distraction”? Because it’s like, you’re choosing to meditate, write, play the piano or whatever that provokes the zero state for you whenever resistance comes up. How is that different from choosing to watch cute kitten videos? I’m confused…
Hi Indigo,
The difference is that you aren’t trying to get away from the resistance. You are sitting with the resistance, and just removing your emotional reaction from it. You’re unplugging from the negative emotions, but not pushing them away or trying to distract yourself.
So, when you start to enter the zero state, often those thoughts and emotions will still be there, you just won’t be identifying with them. And you’ll let them be there, and soon they’ll dissolve, since you’re not feeding them with focus and emotional investment.
Whereas when you distract yourself, you’re not allowing the resistance to dissolve through non-reaction. It just gets repressed.
Does that make sense?
Yes that makes sense! the difference is so subtle, yet important. Thanks for clarifying!
I think that “zero-state” as you call it maybe defined differently for some. Even after considerable conversation about it last night (Thanks Christine!) I still don’t know if that description of it fits how I would achieve it. We talked at length about people in history who have achieved it in their own way. The question for me is, while it’s not something that cannot be achieved, can I achieve it in a way that is applicable to me. It is attainable to me in the way it was explained or can it be done through watching the feel good videos as a stepping stone and then perhaps taking another step… meditation etc. If it were me, I would use the cat videos for example to get me to the “door” of entering it so to speak, and then meditation as a catalyst to achieve it. I agree with Kat, stress is a big one for me, and would need to set my mind on course. I talked last night about a nightmare poking through in that state… for me, if we are using movies as an example here, I would go from the nightmare to watching the little mermaid, to meditation to complete this, ultimately achieving zero state and the bonus of sleep. I hope that explains a bit what I was getting at in our conversation.
Hi Jen,
The risk is that feel-good videos are going to take you away from the resistance. If it is a temporary measure, that’s okay. But the best thing to do is to get to the point where we can face the resistance, like that “nightmare” you mentioned, while not emotionally reacting to it. That’s the power of the zero state.
I want to say the zero state is not synonymous with meditation. I often enter the zero state without ever meditating. It seems to be a common misconception, so just pointing that out.
Watch the videos if you need to as a temporary stopgap solution. But, the resistance will still be there when you return to it, until you release that energy through non-reaction, as I discussed in last week’s podcast on how to overcome limiting beliefs. They are absolutely separate processes, one which helps you to distract yourself temporarily, and the other which actually resolves the trigger or resistance.
The fact that the nightmare keeps poking through means that you haven’t quite resolved it yet. It is a blessing, because it gives you the opportunity to face it, and to allow that energy to flow through. That’s the power of the zero state.
Hi jen,
I see what you are talking about. I have tried doing what you say, distracting myself, and I can’t do it. Even if I were to read a good book or watch a good movie, my mind still goes in circles. Distraction is a very subtle way you get false peace. It is a very subtle lie because the zero state is only true. I do zero meditation to reach it. I can get there in probably 30 seconds.
The reason you keep experiencing this “nightmare” is because you don’t allow that energy to filter through when you are in the zero state. You can’t run away from anything at all, but when you are in this state, all truth is revealed. When you are distracted, you run away from truth, and the truth shall set you free. The only way to be set free is in this state which you can attain very quickly if you don’t get afraid of it. I know this from experience.
For those that don’t know, I have suffered migraines for 4 years. I used to run away from how I dealt with my emotions, and I used to think I was stronger than I was. I pretended I was super woman or something. Even when I was in incredible pain I would push through. Only recently did I realize I had to cut it out already because it was getting to the point where I was having suicidal thoughts. Recently I have been entering the zero state, and it has been thanks to the help of Brandon’s new healing techniques that I can reach it better. Anyway I have realized I can be angry, crying, upset, happy, sad, etc. These emotions are separate from my true self, and they are something that can just pass through and I have nothing to be ashamed of. Emotions don’t define who I am, and if I have a bad day, oh well. I am still in this state and nothing can get me out of it darn it!!
Hope this helps.
Puppies and kittens haha 😀 We all love them. Actually I know some people at college who are obsessed with them, but I clearly can see that they are perhaps overusing them for running away from their problems.
I would like to ask you about your opinion on why Melody has been continuously talking about how feeling good will help us get anything we want, and hasn’t realized that that doesn’t apply to next level goals? Do you think that maybe the Ayahuasca ceremonies take care of resistance and creative tension for her in a big way, so she gets her next level goals anyway? Maybe she isn’t aware of how she gets next level goals?
Hi Z,
Yes I think you’re right on both counts. She says how intense those ceremonies are, and she clearly believes the intensity and difficulty of those ceremonies is actually beneficial for her, which I agree. So that’ll change a lot.
I hesitate to comment too much on someone else like that, because I’m just not in her life. But I know she uses Abraham’s material quite a bit, and so it’s just something that transfers over I think. As you said, most people don’t realize how the changes have happened for them. As I have read her blog, most of her big changes have come through a period of intense struggle, followed by a big breakthrough. That’s the definition of the resistance mode, or the magus path, in my eyes.
Remember that these ideas about the law of attraction have really only been around for 150 years or so. There’s some very good material, and some decent but not quite accurate material, as well as material that’s just wrong. Obviously magic goes way back before that, but we are essentially talking about magic without tools or rituals. We’re talking about direct magic.
So because of that, all sorts of ideas will be floating out there. And many people will just adopt another person’s mode of thinking about it, including terminology and all the rest, without necessarily seeing for themselves if it’s true.
Most of us will see in our own lives, periods of struggle, followed by periods of breakthrough, and everything we wanted coming to us. And it’s natural to want to avoid the former, and increase the latter. So we might say something like, “What if I could just cut out the first step, of struggling with the idea of it, and step right into the end goal right now?” And while it’s not a horrible idea, it misses the point that this is a journey. You can’t just step into the end goal because you’re not there yet. You have to build that bridge, within yourself, from where you are to where you want to be, one stone at a time. The bigger the gap, the more we have to bridge it, and can’t just step into the final result.
That makes a lot sense then. I remember the first time you told me that distracting myself isn’t really a good idea, or something along those lines. At that time I had trouble believing that distraction wasn’t ultimately beneficial. However now I understand it really well (at least theoretically), and I owe it to you.
Thanks, Z.
Yeah, distraction has never worked for me. I remember when I was reading a lot of Richard Dotts’ books, he would always say that ignoring your problem would make it go away. I’ve tested it, and it just hasn’t worked, lol.
Hi Z,
I have listened to a recorded coaching call from Melody where she was talking to someone who wanted to become a world famous golfer. The person currently (or at least at the time the call was recorded) has another day job and has not made any efforts towards his golfing dream. Melody told him that there isn’t enough momentum yet, and told him to visualize everyday and being in the feeling of what it feels like to be that person (similar to what Brandon talks about here).
So I do believe her materials are specific to people at different ‘wavelengths’, for those that don’t have enough momentum she will tell them to create momentum first. For the people that already has garnered enough momentum, but can’t get out of the way in order for the universe to bring them the goods, she will tell them to relax and receive.
I have listneed to a lot of her calls and this seems to be how it is. Her teaching changes based on the person’s energy and where they are.
And that’s very similar to Abraham’s advice about building up momentum.
The difference for me is the importance of getting comfortable with the tension inherent in the creative process. So for that person who wanted to be a famous golfer, I’d definitely say to visualize that daily, and to deliberately choose that goal and commit to it if they really wanted it. I’d say to perhaps break it down into components: what needs to happen first before you can be a world-famous golfer? And I’d say to always be honest with what they wanted, and where they were currently, while allowing that tension to drive them forward.
That’s the major difference between Abraham, and what I’ve come to understand about the law of attraction.
Hi Brandon,
Could you clarify why the person in this case needs to figure out ‘what needs to happen’ in order to become a successful golfer? I thought we don’t need to figure out the “how”, and on one of your blog posts you said the most important step for LOA is letting go. Since there are an infinite number of ways things can happen for a particular person, isn’t it counter productive to try to do the universe’s job? (Unless of course the person feels guided to do so)
THanks!
Hi Indigo,
It really just depends on the goal. You don’t want to get lost in the details, but it can be useful to have a plan to get where you want to be, especially when your goal is as big as “be a famous golfer”.
For instance, if your goal is to start a business, well, you might want to look into business ideas, what type of business you want to have, whether you want to develop a website, etc. These details aren’t just going to happen to fall into place. That can happen along the way, but it definitely takes input from you.
And yes, the most important step is letting go, but that doesn’t mean it’s the only step. It takes more than that.
Often, the tension of the unresolved goal will generate its own action steps, but you still have to take those actions, and you can help along the process by seeing what you can come up with and letting the Universe meet you half way.
Hey, Indigo. Thank you a lot for your feedback! I remember watching a video she posted on youtube, where a reader talks about wanting to become a professional golfer. I didn’t know there was a coaching call with golf, too! I’ve also listened to some of her coaching calls, although not really those with big, next level goals.
That’s interesting, I guess golf is a more popular thing that I thought lol. I’ve listened to many of her calls too and I remember there to be a lot of big dreamers (music producers, actors, singers etc) and it’s interesting because she tells different people different things based on where they are, it seems she is channeling. Her blog posts do seem to be more generalized (“just feel good”) though. I remember her telling some girl on a call to stop being lazy (lmao) because she wasn’t taking inspired actions, which seems to contradict what she teaches usually.
haha that’s funny 😀
I agree meditation is not the same- for me it has been a useful tool to get to what I would consider to be my zero state. We can’t use “puppies and kittens” (or insert whatever one would like here) as distractions or crutches in an effort to circumvent the root of the issue that needs to be addressed, maybe a coping skill, we all have to start somewhere to get back on track. Coping skills are meant to be stepping stones to help with that. If I am crying, or sad, there are sometimes that comes out as a coping mechanism, which doesn’t address the root and in that sense is false, but other times, crying is a raw reflection of my true self, and it can be so cleansing when that happens, I almost feel naked. It will right my ship so to speak, back to peace so I can get to the next level. If I am having a bad day, I have to work through it before I can be in the zero state, which can also happen on the same day as a bad day, but first I have to cleanse to get there. I agree that a lot of times too, we go through periods of struggle before we can have a breakthrough. Sometimes that struggle even shapes us, perhaps we emerge as something greater and do things in a better way that we imagined before we hit that bottom. In terms of intensity and difficulty being helpful, I agree with that. Some of the most beautiful things in life, first had to be forged or formed at high pressure. A seed doesn’t get far without a brisk wind propelling it on a journey toward it’s destination.
Have a great day!
Thanks Jen. I agree about being forged by our struggles. I think diamonds are a good example. It is only through a long period of high pressure that they become diamonds. We wouldn’t want them, nor would they be so valuable, if we cut out the pressure.
Does anyone know of a Master manifestor? Just putting the question out there since in every field there must be people who can do this stuff at a very high level. By ‘high level’, I mean near instant magic and very consistent. I know people like this don’t usually teach (for the same reason top sports people don’t tend to be good teachers of their sport), but I’d still like to know who they are.
I guess people who have it all are the master manifestors. Evan Speigel – that sort of person. I might see if I can find some interviews to see how he approaches success. I want to know if it matches what we have here.
Dear CJ- Some people who “have it all” cannot manifest the things they need most in their lives. Which is why they add to it with things to fill what it is they are missing. Also, there are many people who are considered among the best at what they do, but one may do it differently than another. There are many masters of things out there, but each may have gotten to that level via a different path than the next. I am curious to know what you find out!
Madonna. I read her biography and she set out to do what she wanted and did it. Also Cher. I know some don’t think much if these two, but for me they are perfect examples of master manifestos. They wanted fame, fortune, freedom and they got it. Also, they were not crystal clear on what their life would be like exactly. They just wanted those three things and I’ve read in interviews where they specifically state that the problem is people don’t go for what they want and drop it. You have to keep going to get what you want. Another thing is they didn’t care at all about the opinions of others and stuck with what they wanted out of life. Again, they were only crystal clear on intentions, not exactly on what their life would be like, but for each it turned out better than imagined. This should serve as a good example for ya.
Jim Carrey is also a great example. He’s explicitly talked about the law of attraction on several occasions, especially with his incident of manifesting the $10 million check.
I can’t help but say what I’ve noticed. You’ve started your LOA teachings with the “feel good” and “leave the details to the Universe”, and then you started saying that next level goals will feel uncomfortable (so feeling good is no more guaranteed), and now also that we can’t leave everything to the Universe, but we also must take care of the HOW. Is it just me, or the next thing you’re gonna write about is how we have to make everything happen, and it’s gonna feel uncomfortable? In other words, no pain no gain. It definitely looks that way to me, and I wanna see what you have to say about that. Have you noticed yourself that your teachings are approaching the “no pain no gain” approaches? As LOA pupils, we have to question everything, right? 😛
Z, the goal must be what the universe wants, not what you as an ego wants. That’s why you can’t have a goal to make a heap of money or sports car, but instead must have a goal which is in line with the universe’s desire. If it’s a goal that you want, then you as the ego are active and that in itself IS resistance. Therefore it must fail.
What does the universe want? From everything I’ve read, it seems like the universe wants us to serve others in some valuable way. Not very sexy, but there’s nothing we can do about it.
So if you want a supermodel girlfriend and a heap of cash, you have to do it the old fashioned way – work hard and smart and screw a few people along the way. Be a bit of a mongrel in other words!
If you want LoA to kick into gear, you have to have serving others as your focus.
Just my opinion – might be wrong!
Hi CJ,
Also not true. There are many people who don’t care directly about serving others, and yet get everything they want. The Universe is not the moral police. The LOA works no matter what the desire is, no matter whether it is for the “right” reasons or not.
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If that happens again, can you tell me which resources it says is insecure? It might be because the connection’s over SSL and trying to load a non-SSL resource. Just let me know if it happens again and what exactly it says. 🙂
It’s ok now…
What about the rich guy who is terrified of not having enough, and so he is heavy handed with people and he bends the law and makes heaps of cash? He is operating from scarcity and yet has enormous wealth. I’ve met a guy worth many, many millions who is just like this.
And that’s why I say the law of attraction works for anyone. They might have some scarcity, but they also know money is available.
Of course even rich people have resistance, but they can still manifest according to what they believe is possible.
CJ,
That is untrue. As a creator, your will becomes the Universe’s will. I’ve tested this out on several occasions. You can have just about anything, and the Universe will help you to get it, as long as you have the subconscious structures in place to make it possible.
CJ,
This would only be true if there were a universe ‘apart from you’. But, is it not true that everything you experience (while also a collective creation) is ultimately your own manifestation? Are you not this universe you speak of already…..or one aspect of it experiencing itself? Not to mention, where would you even come up with this idea?
That’s so beautiful, Derek, and exactly explains what I’ve been trying to say. The personal will is the Universal will, because there is no personal will.
Hi Z,
Haha. I’m saying that feeling good is a tool, as I said in my post. It is a means to achieve your goal. But you’re not going to feel good 100% of the time, nor is it feasible or practical.
I don’t want to say “No pain no gain”, but I will say, as I quoted from that book in the post, that it is through discomfort and resistance that we grow. We are tested, our buttons are pushed, so that we can remove those triggers and be more at peace.
Does that make sense?
Hi Z,
Just want to clarify a bit more as well. I’m not saying we can’t leave everything to the Universe. I’m saying it is a co-creation. The Universe wants us to take a part in it. We can’t just say, “I want X”, and sit back and let the Universe take care of it all. Sometimes it might happen like that, but usually it’s a co-creation between your focus, your actions, and the Universe’s inspiration and lining up of opportunities.
So it’s okay to see which actions are immediately natural, test it against your intuition, and get started on that.
I see where Z is coming from and makes good points. In creation, you do get stretched. This stretching is the pain of sorts. Everyone goes through it, even the Magus. But this stretching is what prepares you for the next step.
If fame is your goal, for example, you need to be able to sit through an interview when someone calls you ugly and talentless to your face and be able to rise above it and not react to it. Of course, later on, you may walk out of an interview, but early on you need to sit through pretty much all of them so people can get to know who you are, contributing to the fame. The non-reaction eases the pain.
So right, Kat. 🙂
For all those who might be a bit confused on this, I did go into a bit more detail in the support call yesterday. I recommend checking that out. I talk about the cycle of resistance and release a bit more.
I’m not really sure that I understand you completely, so I’ve gotta check with some examples.
1) If a person wants to lose weight and be healthy, the Universe won’t inspire them to stop eating unhealthy food, and start eating healthy, but the person actually has to use their willpower and force themselves to stay off the junk food? They also have to force themselves to run or go to the gym, etc., even if they don’t like it?
2) If I want to have more friends, I have to force myself to walk over to people and start conversations, even though I wasn’t inspired by the Universe, and even though there’s no good feeling behind it?
I don’t know if this is what you meant, but I really don’t like it.
Hi Z,
No I wouldn’t put it like that. The Universe will inspire you to it. But just because you’re inspired doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy.
I think you expect sometimes that the whole process will be 100% enjoyable. It won’t be. Meeting new people, for instance, is scary. It’s going to be scary, and the Universe won’t take that away. But when you deliberately choose your goal, and the Universe sets up opportunities for you to move forward, you have to also choose to take advantage of those opportunities. You’ll know they’re right, but it won’t be 100% positive and feeling good.
I don’t want to use the word force, because that’ll only increase resistance. I’m just saying that, like Kat said above, there is a stretching and forging.
I agree with Brandon here. I’ve been inspired to do a lot of things that weren’t 100% enjoyable (at least in the beginning), they were downright scary sometimes but it felt “right” and like “the next step”
In a recent call Justin mentioned that even if one is an introvert, one has to do some things and get out there and talk to people. This was really good, I thought. To meet people you will need to go out there, Z. You can do it in increments however do as not to be too overwhelmed. Also, you can start out with clubs where you don’t need to really talk but dance and then move up to cafes or lounges.
Well, if one is morbidly obese they can opt for bariatric sugery. If not, then they would need to change the diet and end up feeling good about it. When you eat healthy things you feel better. When you cut out sugar and processed foods you feel better. It takes more to prepare foods, but you will gain the benefit of nutrition. People who smoke are really thin, but the fact that they need to turn to smoke to cope with feelings is another story. I’m not saying to take up smoking, just using it as an example here and the fact that yes, they are thin, but have other issues. There’s always an issue, isn’t there?
Something does need to be done to get where you want to go so perhaps this should be embraced. It doesn’t need to be drastic though. Exercise, you will see, is good because feel-good substances are released making you have a natural high. You will learn to love exercising if you try it, I think. You can do t at home, not at the gym, yet the gym is a great place to meet people who have great bodies and who are health conscious. Just saying! ????
Oh, Z, come to think of it, a couple of days ago I checked out my gym on Yelp. It’s pretty crappy so it doesn’t have high reviews, however, the posts are pretty much along the lines of we go there for the hot men and women, posted by guys, gay and straight. So, one would put up with the crappiness of the gym to socialize with or even take a closer look at some good looking people. Know what I mean?
Thank you for your comments, Kat! I really like your examples of Madonna and Cher that you wrote above, and about that interview where one might get called ugly or whatever. Those really make sense.
However you mentioned clubs and dancing, and that is way outside my current comfort zone, so that would be a no go for me. I’ve never been to a club, and I don’t know if I would like being in there.
Also I used to physically exercise at home, on multiple occasions, but I would always get bored. As for gym, I’ve never been to a gym, I can’t afford it right now, and I don’t know where and how I would start. Nutrition is more important than exercising, and I don’t know how I would make it. All of this is something I would expect the Universe to shove down my way as “coincidences” of discoveries, instead of me having to research and research and what not.
Hi Z,
To give my own example, next to Kat’s very illustrative examples:
so I mentioned the internship before. That was a situation where I knew it wasn’t right to force myself through the experience, because it didn’t line up with my ultimate goals.
But, let’s take one of my financial goals. It wasn’t just going to happen. I mean parts of it would, but the tension required more structures in place to support that goal, such as reasons people would pay me. So classes were developed, services added, etc. I was inspired to add those. It wasn’t always easy, though I enjoyed the process.
Second example, when I wanted to transfer my site away from its previous host. That desire had been percolating for months, but it finally boiled over and drove me to move. The transfer process was, honestly, a pain. I worked dozens of hours on getting everything to work together properly. Sometimes it was a bit overwhelming.
But, the end result is far better than it was before. I’m very happy with my creation.
The Universe inspired me to the components I’d need, which way simplified things. But still, I had to plug them all together and make them work. I’m still ironing out a few bugs, and adding a few features here and there. But largely, it’s done.
Some people will say you can sit on the couch and do nothing, and everything will come to you. Maybe for a current level goal, but not for a next level goal. First you do the inner work. Then you do the necessary actions. The inner work is always more important, but more important doesn’t mean it’s the only element.
The inner work would propel you forward, make you aware of opportunities as they come do you can grab them, get you in the zone, etc right Brandon?
Right. Everything works so much better when you do the inner work first. The perfect opportunities will arise, the right people will come along, etc.
Example: I had a desire to get my classes and podcast transcribed, but I didn’t want to spend an inordinate amount on transcriptions, as it’d raise the price of the classes considerably, and not make the podcasts worth producing. I also didn’t want to do them myself.
I did the inner work for quite a while on that one, because I didn’t believe a solution was really possible. I tested out a few possibilities, but none of them were exactly what I wanted.
Finally, the Universe inspired someone to offer to do my transcripts, and we would just exchange services. It’s a win-win. And this person is super fast, which is great, and I get to save a lot of both time and money.
I believe the common saying, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” The “way” is often generated by the strength of that will to do what you want to do.
Oh wow, that’s a perfect example. Thank you!
Brandon, thank you for all the explanations and examples. At one point I got what you were saying, but then as I read some other comments of yours, I got confused again. I guess that I’ll have to give this time to sink in.
But I’d like to check it against one more example. I had to drop manifesting money for the Art of Reality Creation, because after cutting my goals down to 3, I realized I have more prioritized goals. However, when I start intending money again, does that mean that I will then have to start thinking about where I could get the money from? Would I need to start thinking about which job I could get, or who could give me money? Or would I happen to run into, for example, an ad for a job that pays this amount of money for a one time service, but which I might be scared a bit of?
Hi Z,
Feel free to ask any questions that you might be confused about. That’s what I’m here for.
Okay, once you start manifesting money, don’t try to work it out all at once. Don’t try to figure out how you will get it.
But, do the inner work. Enter the place of feeling good about that goal, while letting go of the resistance.
In a few days, opportunities will likely arise, if you do this once or twice daily. Keep an open intention for any suitable financial opportunities to enter your reality. When the opportunities arise, check them against your intuition, and if it feels good for you to pursue it, then move forward.
As you move forward, it might not always feel inspired. But you’re higher self will know if it is in alignment with your goal, and so there will be a deeper knowing that this is the path, and you just have to walk it.
The reason I mentioned figuring out part of the “how” with the famous golfer example above was because it is such a big goal. With a huge goal, the subconscious mind just won’t be able to parse it. It’ll just choke on it, more times than not.
Many of us dream of huge goals. Maybe of being millionaires, or of having huge stately homes, or of traveling the world. But the goal is so far out of our current reach that it’s nothing more than a daydream. It’s impossible to deliberately choose that goal, because it’s somewhat like a fish deliberately choosing to fly. It’s just not in your current subconscious makeup.
But if you cut that goal down to size a bit, then you can deliberately choose it, and take that first step. It’s like that Chinese proverb, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You can’t get all the way over there right now, but you can get to a point that’s a lot closer.
That’s why I gradually increased my financial goal every month. If I just went for the higher goal at first, I would have failed miserably. But through success after success, I got closer and closer to my goal.
In the book I’m reading now, Moving Through Parallel Worlds To Achieve Your Dreams, he suggests setting two separate goals: the Ideal Parallel World (IPW), which is your massive goal you can’t even fathom, and the NIF, or next ideal frame, which is the baby step you must take towards that IPW. It’s still big, but not impossibly big.
Being a famous golfer sounds like it might be impossibly big, depending on where the person was currently. So they might set some NIFs, like getting better at golf, winning competitions, or whatever on earth golfers have to do to move up in the golfing world. My knowledge of golf is just about zero, lol.
Z,
One metaphor that might speak to you. When weight training, you can’t just increase the weights to the desired level. You’d really hurt yourself. Weight training is about discomfort, but discomfort in the right proportion. Too little, and the muscles aren’t broken down so they can build back up to be stronger. Too much, and you strain the muscles.
That’s how manifestation is. You say you don’t like discomfort, but without it, you can’t get up to that next level. Your manifestation “muscles” won’t get any stronger.
If you overdo the discomfort with outright suffering, it’ll just crush you. But at the right proportion, you’ll grow very quickly.
Thank you, Brandon. I really appreciate your time and patience with me. I think that I finally understand what you mean. (well theoretically anyway 🙂 )
I’ll let this sink in, and of course, I guess I’ll experience this practically too, sooner or later.
Hi Z,
I’m going to use my own examples here. Even though I am not one to shy away from resistance/discomfort, but I do believe you should never compensate unaligned energy with action. For example, I used to be very strict about my diet, I’d eat very clean and exercise 3-4 times a week. I worked really hard, and barely saw any changes in getting to my ideal weight.
Then I started to be easy on myself, I stopped counting calories and started listening to my body. Sometimes my body wanted vegetables, sometimes it wanted a piece of chocolate. I never starved my body of anything it wanted but I also never fed it a bite more than what it needed/wanted. Very quickly, I started losing weight and now I’m at my ideal weight and I don’t even exercise (because I frigging hate it).
So from my experience, yes it’s possible to not ‘work hard’ to get what you want. However, I will say that sometimes the act of ‘doing something’ also changes your energy and aligns you. So they sort of work together.
Also, if you have a strong belief that a certain food will make you healthier or exercise will help you lose weight, you could take advantage of that belief and just do it. For me, I personally don’t believe any particular way of diet/exercise is “the best” just because I have seen in my personal life examples of people achieving their ideal weight and body image by using a variety of methods. (Like I know a couple of people that eat soooooo much everyday and are very skinny and healthy – or at least they look healthy to me) so it is not in my belief system that I had to eat a certain way.
Plus I have a strong desire to NOT exercise and eat whatever I want, so I think it all came together to manifest for me in this way.
Just wanted to say, this is a perfect example, and I agree completely.
I don’t want “discomfort” to get conflated with using action to force alignment. Alignment first, then action. But discomfort will generally be part of the process for next level goals.
Thank you a lot for sharing your experience as an example, Indigo! That sounds great! I am glad that you managed to get what you want simply by listening to my body. I’ll definitely try to listen more to my body’s needs, too. 🙂
by listening to *your* body. (typo lol)
Does anyone know of a Master manifestor? Just putting the question out there since in every field there must be people who can do this stuff at a very high level. By ‘high level’, I mean near instant magic and very consistent. I know people like this don’t usually teach (for the same reason top sports people don’t tend to be good teachers of their sport), but I’d still like to know who they are.
I guess people who have it all are the master manifestors. Evan Speigel – that sort of person. I might see if I can find some interviews to see how he approaches success. I want to know if it matches what we have here.
Dear CJ- Some people who “have it all” cannot manifest the things they need most in their lives. Which is why they add to it with things to fill what it is they are missing. Also, there are many people who are considered among the best at what they do, but one may do it differently than another. There are many masters of things out there, but each may have gotten to that level via a different path than the next. I am curious to know what you find out!
Madonna. I read her biography and she set out to do what she wanted and did it. Also Cher. I know some don’t think much if these two, but for me they are perfect examples of master manifestos. They wanted fame, fortune, freedom and they got it. Also, they were not crystal clear on what their life would be like exactly. They just wanted those three things and I’ve read in interviews where they specifically state that the problem is people don’t go for what they want and drop it. You have to keep going to get what you want. Another thing is they didn’t care at all about the opinions of others and stuck with what they wanted out of life. Again, they were only crystal clear on intentions, not exactly on what their life would be like, but for each it turned out better than imagined. This should serve as a good example for ya.
Jim Carrey is also a great example. He’s explicitly talked about the law of attraction on several occasions, especially with his incident of manifesting the $10 million check.
I can’t help but say what I’ve noticed. You’ve started your LOA teachings with the “feel good” and “leave the details to the Universe”, and then you started saying that next level goals will feel uncomfortable (so feeling good is no more guaranteed), and now also that we can’t leave everything to the Universe, but we also must take care of the HOW. Is it just me, or the next thing you’re gonna write about is how we have to make everything happen, and it’s gonna feel uncomfortable? In other words, no pain no gain. It definitely looks that way to me, and I wanna see what you have to say about that. Have you noticed yourself that your teachings are approaching the “no pain no gain” approaches? As LOA pupils, we have to question everything, right? 😛
Z, the goal must be what the universe wants, not what you as an ego wants. That’s why you can’t have a goal to make a heap of money or sports car, but instead must have a goal which is in line with the universe’s desire. If it’s a goal that you want, then you as the ego are active and that in itself IS resistance. Therefore it must fail.
What does the universe want? From everything I’ve read, it seems like the universe wants us to serve others in some valuable way. Not very sexy, but there’s nothing we can do about it.
So if you want a supermodel girlfriend and a heap of cash, you have to do it the old fashioned way – work hard and smart and screw a few people along the way. Be a bit of a mongrel in other words!
If you want LoA to kick into gear, you have to have serving others as your focus.
Just my opinion – might be wrong!
Hi CJ,
Also not true. There are many people who don’t care directly about serving others, and yet get everything they want. The Universe is not the moral police. The LOA works no matter what the desire is, no matter whether it is for the “right” reasons or not.
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What about the rich guy who is terrified of not having enough, and so he is heavy handed with people and he bends the law and makes heaps of cash? He is operating from scarcity and yet has enormous wealth. I’ve met a guy worth many, many millions who is just like this.
And that’s why I say the law of attraction works for anyone. They might have some scarcity, but they also know money is available.
Of course even rich people have resistance, but they can still manifest according to what they believe is possible.
CJ,
That is untrue. As a creator, your will becomes the Universe’s will. I’ve tested this out on several occasions. You can have just about anything, and the Universe will help you to get it, as long as you have the subconscious structures in place to make it possible.
CJ,
This would only be true if there were a universe ‘apart from you’. But, is it not true that everything you experience (while also a collective creation) is ultimately your own manifestation? Are you not this universe you speak of already…..or one aspect of it experiencing itself? Not to mention, where would you even come up with this idea?
That’s so beautiful, Derek, and exactly explains what I’ve been trying to say. The personal will is the Universal will, because there is no personal will.
Hi Z,
Haha. I’m saying that feeling good is a tool, as I said in my post. It is a means to achieve your goal. But you’re not going to feel good 100% of the time, nor is it feasible or practical.
I don’t want to say “No pain no gain”, but I will say, as I quoted from that book in the post, that it is through discomfort and resistance that we grow. We are tested, our buttons are pushed, so that we can remove those triggers and be more at peace.
Does that make sense?
Hi Z,
Just want to clarify a bit more as well. I’m not saying we can’t leave everything to the Universe. I’m saying it is a co-creation. The Universe wants us to take a part in it. We can’t just say, “I want X”, and sit back and let the Universe take care of it all. Sometimes it might happen like that, but usually it’s a co-creation between your focus, your actions, and the Universe’s inspiration and lining up of opportunities.
So it’s okay to see which actions are immediately natural, test it against your intuition, and get started on that.
I see where Z is coming from and makes good points. In creation, you do get stretched. This stretching is the pain of sorts. Everyone goes through it, even the Magus. But this stretching is what prepares you for the next step.
If fame is your goal, for example, you need to be able to sit through an interview when someone calls you ugly and talentless to your face and be able to rise above it and not react to it. Of course, later on, you may walk out of an interview, but early on you need to sit through pretty much all of them so people can get to know who you are, contributing to the fame. The non-reaction eases the pain.
So right, Kat. 🙂
For all those who might be a bit confused on this, I did go into a bit more detail in the support call yesterday. I recommend checking that out. I talk about the cycle of resistance and release a bit more.
I’m not really sure that I understand you completely, so I’ve gotta check with some examples.
1) If a person wants to lose weight and be healthy, the Universe won’t inspire them to stop eating unhealthy food, and start eating healthy, but the person actually has to use their willpower and force themselves to stay off the junk food? They also have to force themselves to run or go to the gym, etc., even if they don’t like it?
2) If I want to have more friends, I have to force myself to walk over to people and start conversations, even though I wasn’t inspired by the Universe, and even though there’s no good feeling behind it?
I don’t know if this is what you meant, but I really don’t like it.
Hi Z,
No I wouldn’t put it like that. The Universe will inspire you to it. But just because you’re inspired doesn’t mean it’ll always be easy.
I think you expect sometimes that the whole process will be 100% enjoyable. It won’t be. Meeting new people, for instance, is scary. It’s going to be scary, and the Universe won’t take that away. But when you deliberately choose your goal, and the Universe sets up opportunities for you to move forward, you have to also choose to take advantage of those opportunities. You’ll know they’re right, but it won’t be 100% positive and feeling good.
I don’t want to use the word force, because that’ll only increase resistance. I’m just saying that, like Kat said above, there is a stretching and forging.
I agree with Brandon here. I’ve been inspired to do a lot of things that weren’t 100% enjoyable (at least in the beginning), they were downright scary sometimes but it felt “right” and like “the next step”
In a recent call Justin mentioned that even if one is an introvert, one has to do some things and get out there and talk to people. This was really good, I thought. To meet people you will need to go out there, Z. You can do it in increments however do as not to be too overwhelmed. Also, you can start out with clubs where you don’t need to really talk but dance and then move up to cafes or lounges.
Well, if one is morbidly obese they can opt for bariatric sugery. If not, then they would need to change the diet and end up feeling good about it. When you eat healthy things you feel better. When you cut out sugar and processed foods you feel better. It takes more to prepare foods, but you will gain the benefit of nutrition. People who smoke are really thin, but the fact that they need to turn to smoke to cope with feelings is another story. I’m not saying to take up smoking, just using it as an example here and the fact that yes, they are thin, but have other issues. There’s always an issue, isn’t there?
Something does need to be done to get where you want to go so perhaps this should be embraced. It doesn’t need to be drastic though. Exercise, you will see, is good because feel-good substances are released making you have a natural high. You will learn to love exercising if you try it, I think. You can do t at home, not at the gym, yet the gym is a great place to meet people who have great bodies and who are health conscious. Just saying! ????
Oh, Z, come to think of it, a couple of days ago I checked out my gym on Yelp. It’s pretty crappy so it doesn’t have high reviews, however, the posts are pretty much along the lines of we go there for the hot men and women, posted by guys, gay and straight. So, one would put up with the crappiness of the gym to socialize with or even take a closer look at some good looking people. Know what I mean?
Thank you for your comments, Kat! I really like your examples of Madonna and Cher that you wrote above, and about that interview where one might get called ugly or whatever. Those really make sense.
However you mentioned clubs and dancing, and that is way outside my current comfort zone, so that would be a no go for me. I’ve never been to a club, and I don’t know if I would like being in there.
Also I used to physically exercise at home, on multiple occasions, but I would always get bored. As for gym, I’ve never been to a gym, I can’t afford it right now, and I don’t know where and how I would start. Nutrition is more important than exercising, and I don’t know how I would make it. All of this is something I would expect the Universe to shove down my way as “coincidences” of discoveries, instead of me having to research and research and what not.
Hi Z,
To give my own example, next to Kat’s very illustrative examples:
so I mentioned the internship before. That was a situation where I knew it wasn’t right to force myself through the experience, because it didn’t line up with my ultimate goals.
But, let’s take one of my financial goals. It wasn’t just going to happen. I mean parts of it would, but the tension required more structures in place to support that goal, such as reasons people would pay me. So classes were developed, services added, etc. I was inspired to add those. It wasn’t always easy, though I enjoyed the process.
Second example, when I wanted to transfer my site away from its previous host. That desire had been percolating for months, but it finally boiled over and drove me to move. The transfer process was, honestly, a pain. I worked dozens of hours on getting everything to work together properly. Sometimes it was a bit overwhelming.
But, the end result is far better than it was before. I’m very happy with my creation.
The Universe inspired me to the components I’d need, which way simplified things. But still, I had to plug them all together and make them work. I’m still ironing out a few bugs, and adding a few features here and there. But largely, it’s done.
Some people will say you can sit on the couch and do nothing, and everything will come to you. Maybe for a current level goal, but not for a next level goal. First you do the inner work. Then you do the necessary actions. The inner work is always more important, but more important doesn’t mean it’s the only element.
The inner work would propel you forward, make you aware of opportunities as they come do you can grab them, get you in the zone, etc right Brandon?
Right. Everything works so much better when you do the inner work first. The perfect opportunities will arise, the right people will come along, etc.
Example: I had a desire to get my classes and podcast transcribed, but I didn’t want to spend an inordinate amount on transcriptions, as it’d raise the price of the classes considerably, and not make the podcasts worth producing. I also didn’t want to do them myself.
I did the inner work for quite a while on that one, because I didn’t believe a solution was really possible. I tested out a few possibilities, but none of them were exactly what I wanted.
Finally, the Universe inspired someone to offer to do my transcripts, and we would just exchange services. It’s a win-win. And this person is super fast, which is great, and I get to save a lot of both time and money.
I believe the common saying, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.” The “way” is often generated by the strength of that will to do what you want to do.
Oh wow, that’s a perfect example. Thank you!
Brandon, thank you for all the explanations and examples. At one point I got what you were saying, but then as I read some other comments of yours, I got confused again. I guess that I’ll have to give this time to sink in.
But I’d like to check it against one more example. I had to drop manifesting money for the Art of Reality Creation, because after cutting my goals down to 3, I realized I have more prioritized goals. However, when I start intending money again, does that mean that I will then have to start thinking about where I could get the money from? Would I need to start thinking about which job I could get, or who could give me money? Or would I happen to run into, for example, an ad for a job that pays this amount of money for a one time service, but which I might be scared a bit of?
Hi Z,
Feel free to ask any questions that you might be confused about. That’s what I’m here for.
Okay, once you start manifesting money, don’t try to work it out all at once. Don’t try to figure out how you will get it.
But, do the inner work. Enter the place of feeling good about that goal, while letting go of the resistance.
In a few days, opportunities will likely arise, if you do this once or twice daily. Keep an open intention for any suitable financial opportunities to enter your reality. When the opportunities arise, check them against your intuition, and if it feels good for you to pursue it, then move forward.
As you move forward, it might not always feel inspired. But you’re higher self will know if it is in alignment with your goal, and so there will be a deeper knowing that this is the path, and you just have to walk it.
The reason I mentioned figuring out part of the “how” with the famous golfer example above was because it is such a big goal. With a huge goal, the subconscious mind just won’t be able to parse it. It’ll just choke on it, more times than not.
Many of us dream of huge goals. Maybe of being millionaires, or of having huge stately homes, or of traveling the world. But the goal is so far out of our current reach that it’s nothing more than a daydream. It’s impossible to deliberately choose that goal, because it’s somewhat like a fish deliberately choosing to fly. It’s just not in your current subconscious makeup.
But if you cut that goal down to size a bit, then you can deliberately choose it, and take that first step. It’s like that Chinese proverb, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” You can’t get all the way over there right now, but you can get to a point that’s a lot closer.
That’s why I gradually increased my financial goal every month. If I just went for the higher goal at first, I would have failed miserably. But through success after success, I got closer and closer to my goal.
In the book I’m reading now, Moving Through Parallel Worlds To Achieve Your Dreams, he suggests setting two separate goals: the Ideal Parallel World (IPW), which is your massive goal you can’t even fathom, and the NIF, or next ideal frame, which is the baby step you must take towards that IPW. It’s still big, but not impossibly big.
Being a famous golfer sounds like it might be impossibly big, depending on where the person was currently. So they might set some NIFs, like getting better at golf, winning competitions, or whatever on earth golfers have to do to move up in the golfing world. My knowledge of golf is just about zero, lol.
Z,
One metaphor that might speak to you. When weight training, you can’t just increase the weights to the desired level. You’d really hurt yourself. Weight training is about discomfort, but discomfort in the right proportion. Too little, and the muscles aren’t broken down so they can build back up to be stronger. Too much, and you strain the muscles.
That’s how manifestation is. You say you don’t like discomfort, but without it, you can’t get up to that next level. Your manifestation “muscles” won’t get any stronger.
If you overdo the discomfort with outright suffering, it’ll just crush you. But at the right proportion, you’ll grow very quickly.
Thank you, Brandon. I really appreciate your time and patience with me. I think that I finally understand what you mean. (well theoretically anyway 🙂 )
I’ll let this sink in, and of course, I guess I’ll experience this practically too, sooner or later.
Hi Z,
I’m going to use my own examples here. Even though I am not one to shy away from resistance/discomfort, but I do believe you should never compensate unaligned energy with action. For example, I used to be very strict about my diet, I’d eat very clean and exercise 3-4 times a week. I worked really hard, and barely saw any changes in getting to my ideal weight.
Then I started to be easy on myself, I stopped counting calories and started listening to my body. Sometimes my body wanted vegetables, sometimes it wanted a piece of chocolate. I never starved my body of anything it wanted but I also never fed it a bite more than what it needed/wanted. Very quickly, I started losing weight and now I’m at my ideal weight and I don’t even exercise (because I frigging hate it).
So from my experience, yes it’s possible to not ‘work hard’ to get what you want. However, I will say that sometimes the act of ‘doing something’ also changes your energy and aligns you. So they sort of work together.
Also, if you have a strong belief that a certain food will make you healthier or exercise will help you lose weight, you could take advantage of that belief and just do it. For me, I personally don’t believe any particular way of diet/exercise is “the best” just because I have seen in my personal life examples of people achieving their ideal weight and body image by using a variety of methods. (Like I know a couple of people that eat soooooo much everyday and are very skinny and healthy – or at least they look healthy to me) so it is not in my belief system that I had to eat a certain way.
Plus I have a strong desire to NOT exercise and eat whatever I want, so I think it all came together to manifest for me in this way.
Just wanted to say, this is a perfect example, and I agree completely.
I don’t want “discomfort” to get conflated with using action to force alignment. Alignment first, then action. But discomfort will generally be part of the process for next level goals.
Thank you a lot for sharing your experience as an example, Indigo! That sounds great! I am glad that you managed to get what you want simply by listening to my body. I’ll definitely try to listen more to my body’s needs, too. 🙂
by listening to *your* body. (typo lol)
Hi Brandon,
When you say becoming a millionaire is a “big goal”, you mean it’s ‘big’ to the person right? Because what if for some people becoming a millionaire is not a big goal at all? Like some people are born into money and they come to expect it. And also, I watched an interview of Amy Schumer where she said she always knew she’d become famous, she just “knew”, it didn’t even surprise her at all when she did become famous. So in this case, would you still say the goal of “fame” is a next level goal for her?
Using my own example, although I do have my resistance and doubts of course, but I know in the deepest part of my being that I am meant to become a successful actress. I also had a lot of psychics confirm for me that this is my path and I have a soul contract with the arts world. So although I am not resistance free, it is something that feels so much a “part of me”, it feels natural, and like it will happen for sure. So in this case, is it still a “next level goal”?
Hi Indigo,
Yes I mean “big” for that person, not in general. “Big” or “small” as far as manifestations are concerned are purely a subjective judgment of the individual. I talk about this towards the end of yesterday’s support call.
Whether it’s a next level goal or not depends on the level of resistance. I’d like to add a third level to this discussion, for the purposes of helping understanding.
We’ll call it an ultimate goal. It’s a goal that’s so big that you really can’t wrap your head around it yet. If someone’s making $30,000 a year, having a million dollars might be an ultimate goal. It’s not a next level goal, because even for the next level goal, you still have to be able to feel good about it and make it a part of yourself.
So, for you, I’d say your goal is a next level goal. You know you’ll get there, but there’s also resistance. A next level goal is purely defined by the gap between where you are and where you want to be, and the resistance caused by that gap. You can “know” you’ll get there, but unless you are there already, you aren’t fully embodying it yet.
A current level goal is something I can manifest in a few hours or days. It might be $20, or a friendly interaction, or even a good parking space. It’s what feels normal and ordinary right now. I don’t think your goal is that to you, but correct me if I’m wrong.
Does this distinction make sense?
Makes perfect sense. Thanks!
I think getting a parking space is a next level goal for me, because I never seem to manifest it! lol
Haha. 🙂 It’s different for everyone.
Hi Brandon,
When you say becoming a millionaire is a “big goal”, you mean it’s ‘big’ to the person right? Because what if for some people becoming a millionaire is not a big goal at all? Like some people are born into money and they come to expect it. And also, I watched an interview of Amy Schumer where she said she always knew she’d become famous, she just “knew”, it didn’t even surprise her at all when she did become famous. So in this case, would you still say the goal of “fame” is a next level goal for her?
Using my own example, although I do have my resistance and doubts of course, but I know in the deepest part of my being that I am meant to become a successful actress. I also had a lot of psychics confirm for me that this is my path and I have a soul contract with the arts world. So although I am not resistance free, it is something that feels so much a “part of me”, it feels natural, and like it will happen for sure. So in this case, is it still a “next level goal”?
Hi Indigo,
Yes I mean “big” for that person, not in general. “Big” or “small” as far as manifestations are concerned are purely a subjective judgment of the individual. I talk about this towards the end of yesterday’s support call.
Whether it’s a next level goal or not depends on the level of resistance. I’d like to add a third level to this discussion, for the purposes of helping understanding.
We’ll call it an ultimate goal. It’s a goal that’s so big that you really can’t wrap your head around it yet. If someone’s making $30,000 a year, having a million dollars might be an ultimate goal. It’s not a next level goal, because even for the next level goal, you still have to be able to feel good about it and make it a part of yourself.
So, for you, I’d say your goal is a next level goal. You know you’ll get there, but there’s also resistance. A next level goal is purely defined by the gap between where you are and where you want to be, and the resistance caused by that gap. You can “know” you’ll get there, but unless you are there already, you aren’t fully embodying it yet.
A current level goal is something I can manifest in a few hours or days. It might be $20, or a friendly interaction, or even a good parking space. It’s what feels normal and ordinary right now. I don’t think your goal is that to you, but correct me if I’m wrong.
Does this distinction make sense?
Makes perfect sense. Thanks!
I think getting a parking space is a next level goal for me, because I never seem to manifest it! lol
Haha. 🙂 It’s different for everyone.
KAT, if you see this, check out Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work. I’m currently reading his book “Breaking the habit of being yourself”. All of his work is built on healing within the parameters of understanding the LOA and he hammers at the point that life is literally infinite realities and possibilities (which has always resonated with me) and it’s so empowering to know that you get to choose any of those.
Two things I have noticed in the past couple of days and I’ve been watching a couple of Byron Katie videos as well and some realizations I have had.
I recently manifested some financial abundance which I shared in another blog post of Brandon’s, current level goal yes, no question, with little resistance, but still very awesome that it happened and hope others read this to know that this stuff with LOA is real ha. I literally manifested a part time gig and a lowering of my car insurance annually by a pretty significant amount (800 dollars annually) by putting the attention/intention into my visualizations of wanting financial freedom and abundance. It was a desire that recently came to me after almost losing my full time job. Again, it’s a small goal, but it’s worth sharing. And found some quarters on the ground (I remember Wayne Dyer saying, never to take that money on the ground for granted, look at it as a gift from the universe).
That aside, I’ve also been manifesting over the past year-two years,some wonderful, negative manifestations haha (notice my sarcasm).
I’ve had three floods in my apartment from pipes breaking, a terribly broken exhaust fan on the roof of my bedroom (I’m on the top floor of an apartment building), recently, my entire living room wall caved in out of no where to the point where they had to reconstruct the wall with sheet rock. My cell service went out for an entire day when everyone I knew in the area didn’t have a single issue with service. I had to stay on the phone with Verizon, while they re-started my network connections which has never happened ever before. I’ve had new next door neighbors move in who have been very loud. I finally realized it was my own fear based resistance manifesting outwardly, almost smacking me in the face saying…..”These are some of your beliefs. You are creating this!!!” This realization came to me over night when I was half asleep that the universe was simply manifesting, not only my desires, but also my resistance. The universe loves me so much that it’s literally letting me know as a mirror what I am experiencing on the inside. In this case it was trying to tell me survival mechanism to….LET GO of control” 🙂
Control issues have been a central theme my whole life and one of the larger reasons I developed chronic fatigue syndrome, and a central theme at what had kept me in a state of suffering for so long. These weren’t ‘new things’. They were the same old beliefs/emotional patterns I’ve had for years that came roaring to the surface more and more during this period of time. Understand, that you have complete control over your own inner state of being, but trying to control the outside by worrying, and staying in your comfort zone is just…..RESISTANCE. You can only control the outside by first coming in to the inside. When you hate your external circumstances so much that they are causing you suffering, you are ultimately a “victim of circumstances”. But, there are no real victims. Only a perception/belief that we’ve taken on from an old story which has dis-empowered us from realizing that we are the creators!
But, my first point is that, you can still manifest certain smaller things (as I did with the money) without necessarily killing off every limiting belief as Brandon has taught. But, larger manifestations/desires will absolutely bring these beliefs to the surface more and more and will feel likely, worse and worse the more you ignore them which is a them in what Brandon is teaching as well.
And this has all happened during a period of my life where my spiritual practices has grown and grown and there is has been a greater desire of Self expression from myself to be who I am. And the larger this resistance has grown, (because resistance is scared to go out of its comfort zone). The more I intended for great health, and for the natural expression of ‘who I am”, the greater the resistance has pushed back…..just trying to protect me. If you look at what a ‘Dark night of the Soul” is, to de-mystify it, it’s really the larger desires of yourself finally being owned by you and the mighty mighty resistance of the ego fighting back because it’s scared. People can potentially go through immense discomfort when there is a stronger and stronger desire for something larger, and they often don’t understand why. You’re not actually killing off the ego as many think (which is utterly impossible anyway living in a body), it’s just that the ego is fighting so hard and resisting, out of a fear of letting go into…..uncertainty and out of its comfort zone, that all of these seemingly ‘new issues’ are being brought more and more to the surface. This is what happens I believe in what Brandon refers to manifesting larger level goals. Or next level goals. These old resistance patterns will rise more and more to the surface, and you can start to see a similarity in these emotions and beliefs that you’ve even had since childhood. But, they’ve laid dormant, until a stronger desire was needed to bring them to the surface.
I’m starting to get a greater grasp at what Brandon talks about here. Yeah, I might have a couple of quibbles here and there on certain thigns, but, it’s really profound when you grasp the utter simplicity of this whole thing that he’s teaching, which we all, as humans tend to complicate by over analyzing it.
LOA 101….the more attention you put on something (even by trying to distract yourself, you are putting attention on to the ‘unwanted’ by saying it’s not ok to be here), trying so hard to fix it, you keep re-enforcing there is something to uncover and fix. I’ve noticed this with myself. With anxiety (I get noise anxiety as part of the spectrum of chronic fatigue due to an over active amygdala), when you can see that it’s never, ever the noise itself which produces the anxiety, but always the meanings about it. The more you give life to beliefs in thinking they need to be understood and fixed, the more attention you put on the ‘unwanted’ in a sense and the more you life you give to that old story. It’s literally by realizing (while radically accepting it) that that story is not YOU, where you can finally realize you do have a choice.
Whatever your desire is, it will inevitably lead you towards a greater path of vulnerability and that is a very scary thing for your subconscious mind/survival mechanism.
If you can see that every time you get anxiety or fear or worry or doubt about a certain external situation (regardless of what it is), it is always that resistance that is trying to warn you of danger…..potentially the danger that something bad will happen, perhaps from a belief that life is scary and that you are NOT a creator. If you continue to buy into this, it will feel inevitably terrible. Powerless emotions, helpless, feeling trapped and dis-empowered. But, if you step out by radically accepting the thought and the emotion in the body, without giving any attention to the narrative, and just staying with the emotion, you come to see that you always have a choice. We can create ‘new beliefs’, but if they are not ‘believable’, then it won’t work. Meaning, I have found, when I step out of the thought pattern of worry, I have a choice to create a new story, but I can affirm a new story with meanings that I KNOW to be true such as (I am an empowered creator of the universe who can create anything). But, how do I know that this meaning is more true that another meaning? Well, all beliefs are equally valid like Bashar says, but THIS belief feels more right to me on a greater level. It’s a more expansive belief as opposed to a restrictive one that makes me feel dis-empowered. It all starts though from radical acceptance and surrender.
I also think there is a HUGE level of trust that is involved. Almost like, the minute you think a thought that is based in doubt, fear and worry, you are NOT trusting. But, when you are aligned with believing and flowing and feeling that inner peace around all experience, you are in that place of Trust, because Trust itself (stillness, peace) is an implication of connectedness with the Universe and who you truly are. The ego hates to trust, because it’s afraid to let go of control into the potential ‘unknown’, but what if that ‘unknown’ was never really ‘unknown’, because we always know that as long as we stay connected through getting constantly into the ‘zero state’, life in a way, always has your back. It’s really a re-training of subconscious.
Anyway, just some musings if anyone is interested. Sorry for the long post 🙂
Wonderful comments, Derek. And I appreciate your words.
I totally get what you mean about the dark night of the soul. That allowed something to click into place for me as well. The idea of the “dark night of the soul” always seemed to contradict with the feel-good message of the LOA, and yet so many mystics have gone through it. But you’re right: it’s because we have a desire for something greater, and the ego pushes back.
And you’re right about your negative manifestations. They’re wonderful indicators, aren’t they? In the support call Tuesday, I called them “blessings”. I had been getting some minor negative manifestations over the last few days, which fortunately served to remind me of the fact I was allowing myself to worry about a few issues. But that’s why we need to always remember to be aware of our inner state. When we ignore it, then these helpful negative manifestations will pop up to slap us in the face a bit.
Brandon, I strongly believe (no pun intended) that therapy of the future will be based on the understanding of why negative emotions are there in the first place. Rather than seeing them as a problem, somewhere down the line in the future evolution of consciousness of this planet, we will all come to see negative emotions as a GOOD thing initially, because it represents that is strong desire underneath it. Rather than years of trying to fix ourselves or even ‘integrate emotions” (which is another popular one in some spiritual practices, which is more in line with how it is at least as far as radically accepting the negative emotion, but still missing the point on why it’s there. ). It would take a thorough understanding that life or what we call ‘reality’ is simply a mirror. I’m sure you can appreciate that yourself as a coach who works with therapy components.
Hi Derek,
I think that’d be great if therapy would head in that direction. There have been major changes in recent years, but IMO it has a lot further to go.
It doesn’t help the DSM is adding more and more “disorders”. Therapy is so disorder-centered…and I know most of that is because of how insurance works. But largely, it seems like they have to slap a label on each “patient” coming in, and then “fix” them somehow. It’s inherently a problem-oriented approach.
So, Brandon, is that how you solve your problems, or at least part of they way you solve them?
You teach a lot about creating, but how about when you are having problems and you’d like to get out of them? I do not wish to meditate on the problem and I also do not know or realize all the solutions yet, but I know the Universe does, so all I could do it proceed with whatever feels right and just keep going. How do you go about it?
Hi Kat,
I’d say the first thing is to realize that there are no problems. I know that sounds trite, but it’s true. The Universe doesn’t see problems, and as long as you think there’s a problem, you’re not aligned with the Universe’s understanding.
But secondly, I just allow the energy through, as I say here. I enter the zero state, and bask in that while the limiting thoughts and negative emotions are coming up. I look at the situations that have manifested, and see what they are trying to teach me. More in a humorous way than in a dig-down-deep kind of way.
For example, I recently was double-charged for a service. When I contacted them, they didn’t seem to believe me. That was pretty frustrating. I got pretty stressed out about it at first. It’s not about the amount of money, but just the fact of being overcharged.
That’s still working itself out, but I know it’ll work. I keep away from worrying about how it’ll happen, or making plans for what I’ll do if they give me more trouble, etc. I know the gods will help me, as they always do.
And I see it was just a manifestation of some of my own fears. I’ve worked on those now and it’s more or less resolved.
Like I said, the Universe will let us know when we’re veering off-track towards things that don’t benefit us. It always will.
Thanks Derek. Nice, informative post!
Brandon, are you familiar with the movie Forrest Gump? He was on the zen path wasn’t he? Was there any resistance other than his love life, i.e. with the girl he loved? Everything pretty much just came to him without him specifying anything in particular except with his girl.
Thanks Derek. Nice, informative post!
Whatever you summarized here makes a lot of sense. I read this post quite a few times. You explained lots of things very well and they made me think.
What I understood and experienced is feeling better or happy is important because when you are feeling good you think productive. You want to create something and it excites you. Ideas flood in your mind which leads you to search few things and bring piecses together. If you are sad or depressed then you might have an idea but no drive to do something about it.
Resistance works like a feedback. It tells what needs to be changed in order to reach to your goal. I like your ‘breaking down steps ‘ approach towards big goals. One step at a time will be easy to complete than taking 10 steps and going nowhere. That way your mind can handle little discomfort comfortably at a time and can progress fast.
And you are right ‘universe will give you what you want’. I read somewhere that everything comes from formless things. That’s how world has progressed and evolved. Human mind get an idea first then universe lead them to all those pieces which will bring that idea in reality. But mind only knows how the final picture should look and universe’s job is to provide necessary things to form that picture.
It’s like universe living though us. We are here as a universe’s representatives in human forms. Unless we will take inspired action nothing will move and there won’t be any creativity. It’s like everything is stored in potential energy and the moment we will take inspired action it will change into kinetic energy.
Thanks for the great post Brandon. I think everything comes down to those three points which you mentioned many times
Focus
Will
Emotions
There is no shortcut to anything. Journey is important because it shapes you and makes you the person who is ready to receive what your mind chooses to create.
Hi Rhea,
Thanks so much for your comments.
I like what you said about our mind has the final picture in mind, and the Universe has to fill in the gap. That is absolutely true. And the ego, as Derek so wonderfully stated in his recent comment, will push against us to make sure we really want that picture more than the status quo we currently have. But if we hold the picture, it’ll generate the momentum to bring us there so quickly.
Thank you :).
Yes holding picture in mind and going through the process is real fun. Getting picture directly won’t make it that adventurous.
Exactly…..going through the journey is the whole point of why we are here. You already are unlimited, but how much fun would it be to experience yourself as LIMITED for this temporary human life? After all, you can’t really create when everything already exists simultaneously when we are not in body, but you CAN create when you ‘don’t have’ something from the appearance of ‘linear time’. Physical life is an exploration in creation and gaining a greater appreciation for the term ‘abundance’. Abundance is already an attribute of what we are. You already have everything, because everything already exists as potential.
But, in order to fully experience that, and enjoy the journey and fun of experiencing what it is like to first “not have abundance” aka experience ‘lack’ and lack can come in countless forms, you need a physical life to do so. Then when you create in body, how much more of a thrill is it now, after going through some ‘uncomfortable experiences’ to now express your desire fully, whatever it may be?
I think it’s a beautiful process. And yes, it is an expansive process in the greater aspect, because there is always something new to explore. If you consider a child who creates a game in her mind, is there not always a new game of sorts or a new ‘something’ to explore? By exploring these perspectives in creation, we are giving life to greater expansion. It’s infinite and there will never be an end to what we can potentially explore or experience. The entire structure of the manifestation we call reality is really like a giant amusement park with some more challenging rides than the other. There are no lessons, we already are perfect, but it’s fun to create 🙂
KAT, if you see this, check out Dr. Joe Dispenza’s work. I’m currently reading his book “Breaking the habit of being yourself”. All of his work is built on healing within the parameters of understanding the LOA and he hammers at the point that life is literally infinite realities and possibilities (which has always resonated with me) and it’s so empowering to know that you get to choose any of those.
Two things I have noticed in the past couple of days and I’ve been watching a couple of Byron Katie videos as well and some realizations I have had.
I recently manifested some financial abundance which I shared in another blog post of Brandon’s, current level goal yes, no question, with little resistance, but still very awesome that it happened and hope others read this to know that this stuff with LOA is real ha. I literally manifested a part time gig and a lowering of my car insurance annually by a pretty significant amount (800 dollars annually) by putting the attention/intention into my visualizations of wanting financial freedom and abundance. It was a desire that recently came to me after almost losing my full time job. Again, it’s a small goal, but it’s worth sharing. And found some quarters on the ground (I remember Wayne Dyer saying, never to take that money on the ground for granted, look at it as a gift from the universe).
That aside, I’ve also been manifesting over the past year-two years,some wonderful, negative manifestations haha (notice my sarcasm).
I’ve had three floods in my apartment from pipes breaking, a terribly broken exhaust fan on the roof of my bedroom (I’m on the top floor of an apartment building), recently, my entire living room wall caved in out of no where to the point where they had to reconstruct the wall with sheet rock. My cell service went out for an entire day when everyone I knew in the area didn’t have a single issue with service. I had to stay on the phone with Verizon, while they re-started my network connections which has never happened ever before. I’ve had new next door neighbors move in who have been very loud. I finally realized it was my own fear based resistance manifesting outwardly, almost smacking me in the face saying…..”These are some of your beliefs. You are creating this!!!” This realization came to me over night when I was half asleep that the universe was simply manifesting, not only my desires, but also my resistance. The universe loves me so much that it’s literally letting me know as a mirror what I am experiencing on the inside. In this case it was trying to tell me survival mechanism to….LET GO of control” 🙂
Control issues have been a central theme my whole life and one of the larger reasons I developed chronic fatigue syndrome, and a central theme at what had kept me in a state of suffering for so long. These weren’t ‘new things’. They were the same old beliefs/emotional patterns I’ve had for years that came roaring to the surface more and more during this period of time. Understand, that you have complete control over your own inner state of being, but trying to control the outside by worrying, and staying in your comfort zone is just…..RESISTANCE. You can only control the outside by first coming in to the inside. When you hate your external circumstances so much that they are causing you suffering, you are ultimately a “victim of circumstances”. But, there are no real victims. Only a perception/belief that we’ve taken on from an old story which has dis-empowered us from realizing that we are the creators!
But, my first point is that, you can still manifest certain smaller things (as I did with the money) without necessarily killing off every limiting belief as Brandon has taught. But, larger manifestations/desires will absolutely bring these beliefs to the surface more and more and will feel likely, worse and worse the more you ignore them which is a them in what Brandon is teaching as well.
And this has all happened during a period of my life where my spiritual practices has grown and grown and there is has been a greater desire of Self expression from myself to be who I am. And the larger this resistance has grown, (because resistance is scared to go out of its comfort zone). The more I intended for great health, and for the natural expression of ‘who I am”, the greater the resistance has pushed back…..just trying to protect me. If you look at what a ‘Dark night of the Soul” is, to de-mystify it, it’s really the larger desires of yourself finally being owned by you and the mighty mighty resistance of the ego fighting back because it’s scared. People can potentially go through immense discomfort when there is a stronger and stronger desire for something larger, and they often don’t understand why. You’re not actually killing off the ego as many think (which is utterly impossible anyway living in a body), it’s just that the ego is fighting so hard and resisting, out of a fear of letting go into…..uncertainty and out of its comfort zone, that all of these seemingly ‘new issues’ are being brought more and more to the surface. This is what happens I believe in what Brandon refers to manifesting larger level goals. Or next level goals. These old resistance patterns will rise more and more to the surface, and you can start to see a similarity in these emotions and beliefs that you’ve even had since childhood. But, they’ve laid dormant, until a stronger desire was needed to bring them to the surface.
I’m starting to get a greater grasp at what Brandon talks about here. Yeah, I might have a couple of quibbles here and there on certain thigns, but, it’s really profound when you grasp the utter simplicity of this whole thing that he’s teaching, which we all, as humans tend to complicate by over analyzing it.
LOA 101….the more attention you put on something (even by trying to distract yourself, you are putting attention on to the ‘unwanted’ by saying it’s not ok to be here), trying so hard to fix it, you keep re-enforcing there is something to uncover and fix. I’ve noticed this with myself. With anxiety (I get noise anxiety as part of the spectrum of chronic fatigue due to an over active amygdala), when you can see that it’s never, ever the noise itself which produces the anxiety, but always the meanings about it. The more you give life to beliefs in thinking they need to be understood and fixed, the more attention you put on the ‘unwanted’ in a sense and the more you life you give to that old story. It’s literally by realizing (while radically accepting it) that that story is not YOU, where you can finally realize you do have a choice.
Whatever your desire is, it will inevitably lead you towards a greater path of vulnerability and that is a very scary thing for your subconscious mind/survival mechanism.
If you can see that every time you get anxiety or fear or worry or doubt about a certain external situation (regardless of what it is), it is always that resistance that is trying to warn you of danger…..potentially the danger that something bad will happen, perhaps from a belief that life is scary and that you are NOT a creator. If you continue to buy into this, it will feel inevitably terrible. Powerless emotions, helpless, feeling trapped and dis-empowered. But, if you step out by radically accepting the thought and the emotion in the body, without giving any attention to the narrative, and just staying with the emotion, you come to see that you always have a choice. We can create ‘new beliefs’, but if they are not ‘believable’, then it won’t work. Meaning, I have found, when I step out of the thought pattern of worry, I have a choice to create a new story, but I can affirm a new story with meanings that I KNOW to be true such as (I am an empowered creator of the universe who can create anything). But, how do I know that this meaning is more true that another meaning? Well, all beliefs are equally valid like Bashar says, but THIS belief feels more right to me on a greater level. It’s a more expansive belief as opposed to a restrictive one that makes me feel dis-empowered. It all starts though from radical acceptance and surrender.
I also think there is a HUGE level of trust that is involved. Almost like, the minute you think a thought that is based in doubt, fear and worry, you are NOT trusting. But, when you are aligned with believing and flowing and feeling that inner peace around all experience, you are in that place of Trust, because Trust itself (stillness, peace) is an implication of connectedness with the Universe and who you truly are. The ego hates to trust, because it’s afraid to let go of control into the potential ‘unknown’, but what if that ‘unknown’ was never really ‘unknown’, because we always know that as long as we stay connected through getting constantly into the ‘zero state’, life in a way, always has your back. It’s really a re-training of subconscious.
Anyway, just some musings if anyone is interested. Sorry for the long post 🙂
Wonderful comments, Derek. And I appreciate your words.
I totally get what you mean about the dark night of the soul. That allowed something to click into place for me as well. The idea of the “dark night of the soul” always seemed to contradict with the feel-good message of the LOA, and yet so many mystics have gone through it. But you’re right: it’s because we have a desire for something greater, and the ego pushes back.
And you’re right about your negative manifestations. They’re wonderful indicators, aren’t they? In the support call Tuesday, I called them “blessings”. I had been getting some minor negative manifestations over the last few days, which fortunately served to remind me of the fact I was allowing myself to worry about a few issues. But that’s why we need to always remember to be aware of our inner state. When we ignore it, then these helpful negative manifestations will pop up to slap us in the face a bit.
Brandon, I strongly believe (no pun intended) that therapy of the future will be based on the understanding of why negative emotions are there in the first place. Rather than seeing them as a problem, somewhere down the line in the future evolution of consciousness of this planet, we will all come to see negative emotions as a GOOD thing initially, because it represents that is strong desire underneath it. Rather than years of trying to fix ourselves or even ‘integrate emotions” (which is another popular one in some spiritual practices, which is more in line with how it is at least as far as radically accepting the negative emotion, but still missing the point on why it’s there. ). It would take a thorough understanding that life or what we call ‘reality’ is simply a mirror. I’m sure you can appreciate that yourself as a coach who works with therapy components.
Hi Derek,
I think that’d be great if therapy would head in that direction. There have been major changes in recent years, but IMO it has a lot further to go.
It doesn’t help the DSM is adding more and more “disorders”. Therapy is so disorder-centered…and I know most of that is because of how insurance works. But largely, it seems like they have to slap a label on each “patient” coming in, and then “fix” them somehow. It’s inherently a problem-oriented approach.
So, Brandon, is that how you solve your problems, or at least part of they way you solve them?
You teach a lot about creating, but how about when you are having problems and you’d like to get out of them? I do not wish to meditate on the problem and I also do not know or realize all the solutions yet, but I know the Universe does, so all I could do it proceed with whatever feels right and just keep going. How do you go about it?
Hi Kat,
I’d say the first thing is to realize that there are no problems. I know that sounds trite, but it’s true. The Universe doesn’t see problems, and as long as you think there’s a problem, you’re not aligned with the Universe’s understanding.
But secondly, I just allow the energy through, as I say here. I enter the zero state, and bask in that while the limiting thoughts and negative emotions are coming up. I look at the situations that have manifested, and see what they are trying to teach me. More in a humorous way than in a dig-down-deep kind of way.
For example, I recently was double-charged for a service. When I contacted them, they didn’t seem to believe me. That was pretty frustrating. I got pretty stressed out about it at first. It’s not about the amount of money, but just the fact of being overcharged.
That’s still working itself out, but I know it’ll work. I keep away from worrying about how it’ll happen, or making plans for what I’ll do if they give me more trouble, etc. I know the gods will help me, as they always do.
And I see it was just a manifestation of some of my own fears. I’ve worked on those now and it’s more or less resolved.
Like I said, the Universe will let us know when we’re veering off-track towards things that don’t benefit us. It always will.
Thanks Derek. Nice, informative post!
Brandon, are you familiar with the movie Forrest Gump? He was on the zen path wasn’t he? Was there any resistance other than his love life, i.e. with the girl he loved? Everything pretty much just came to him without him specifying anything in particular except with his girl.
Thanks Derek. Nice, informative post!
I feel compelled to step in here after reading Z’s comments, and mention a few things. We’ve talked about difficulty and how it can be helpful. We’ve talked about figuring out the “How” in this thread. Brandon and I have talked at length about making goals happen etc. and he knew of my intentions to leave my job and start my own venture. However, I hesitated because each time I thought of this, something else came up, like vacation, or that I needed a little more time to save up before I felt that it would be okay for me to do this. The entire time, I still had my eye on the goal I wanted, without giving it up. Even though Brandon protested at me that I was being too hesitant and I needed to just make a decision. The week that I put my resignation in, I also got hit by a car. Well, if that is not the Universe telling me something I don’t know what it is…. I will tell you that I have never given up on my goal, and in fact, my goal was written on paper before Brandon and I even discussed it. The result of the way these steps unfolded were that I was able to go on a wonderful vacation with my family because I stayed, and even though getting hit by a car is not ideal, because of the way that things have panned out, I have had more time to plan, I am organized, and I am networked with some awesome people that feel like my tribe. I could not be more excited for what is to come for me. However, I do need time to heal, and get some things I am struggling with resolved. The last two weeks have been amazing in regard to that process getting underway. I have a lot of personal healing to get through yet. The last part I will leave you with is that I believe It is not on my idea of time and steps, or Brandon’s idea of time and steps, we are just guides, but if you leave it up to the Universe, or Higher Power whatever you lend yourself to, it will get you where you want to be. Trust in it, and you will also begin to trust more in yourself. You will surely see successes, even if they are not packaged the way that you thought they would be.
Hi Jen,
The Universe will always make the best of what we give it. 🙂 In many situations, I believe many hardships could be circumvented. But if they’re not, they’ll still turn out to our benefit.
You getting hit by a car… if that doesn’t speak of major, major resistance, I don’t know what does. I don’t want to go into detail of your situation on a public forum obviously, though you shared a bit yourself so I’ll give my perspective. It was, and still is, my opinion that there was a lot of energy blocked up and stagnating in your situation. Big releases like, being hit by a car, is usually an indication of that… and a release of all that stuck energy. It’s like the Universe saying, “You need a big change, so… here you go!”
It will still make the best of it all. But, hopefully we can make its job a bit easier sometimes. 😀
Definitely! There are a million things we could question, and somewhere in the midst of that decisions we make to get to our goals will either benefit us or they won’t. I do appreciate that staying gave me a chance to be with my family, an opportunity that I manifested for myself, I wanted it so badly the year before and low and behold here it was, one more time in front of me to have. I felt like that was the Universe saying hold on just a bit… but after that, because I was broke and I had a lot piled up as you said, I stayed a little longer and look what happened. Sometimes we all think what we are doing is for the right reasons, and there can be a lot of tug and pull. If the Universe is trying to tell you something, listen! I do feel like good things are coming. It just took me a bit to get there. Now I can start a different path.
Whatever you summarized here makes a lot of sense. I read this post quite a few times. You explained lots of things very well and they made me think.
What I understood and experienced is feeling better or happy is important because when you are feeling good you think productive. You want to create something and it excites you. Ideas flood in your mind which leads you to search few things and bring piecses together. If you are sad or depressed then you might have an idea but no drive to do something about it.
Resistance works like a feedback. It tells what needs to be changed in order to reach to your goal. I like your ‘breaking down steps ‘ approach towards big goals. One step at a time will be easy to complete than taking 10 steps and going nowhere. That way your mind can handle little discomfort comfortably at a time and can progress fast.
And you are right ‘universe will give you what you want’. I read somewhere that everything comes from formless things. That’s how world has progressed and evolved. Human mind get an idea first then universe lead them to all those pieces which will bring that idea in reality. But mind only knows how the final picture should look and universe’s job is to provide necessary things to form that picture.
It’s like universe living though us. We are here as a universe’s representatives in human forms. Unless we will take inspired action nothing will move and there won’t be any creativity. It’s like everything is stored in potential energy and the moment we will take inspired action it will change into kinetic energy.
Thanks for the great post Brandon. I think everything comes down to those three points which you mentioned many times
Focus
Will
Emotions
There is no shortcut to anything. Journey is important because it shapes you and makes you the person who is ready to receive what your mind chooses to create.
Hi Rhea,
Thanks so much for your comments.
I like what you said about our mind has the final picture in mind, and the Universe has to fill in the gap. That is absolutely true. And the ego, as Derek so wonderfully stated in his recent comment, will push against us to make sure we really want that picture more than the status quo we currently have. But if we hold the picture, it’ll generate the momentum to bring us there so quickly.
Thank you :).
Yes holding picture in mind and going through the process is real fun. Getting picture directly won’t make it that adventurous.
Exactly…..going through the journey is the whole point of why we are here. You already are unlimited, but how much fun would it be to experience yourself as LIMITED for this temporary human life? After all, you can’t really create when everything already exists simultaneously when we are not in body, but you CAN create when you ‘don’t have’ something from the appearance of ‘linear time’. Physical life is an exploration in creation and gaining a greater appreciation for the term ‘abundance’. Abundance is already an attribute of what we are. You already have everything, because everything already exists as potential.
But, in order to fully experience that, and enjoy the journey and fun of experiencing what it is like to first “not have abundance” aka experience ‘lack’ and lack can come in countless forms, you need a physical life to do so. Then when you create in body, how much more of a thrill is it now, after going through some ‘uncomfortable experiences’ to now express your desire fully, whatever it may be?
I think it’s a beautiful process. And yes, it is an expansive process in the greater aspect, because there is always something new to explore. If you consider a child who creates a game in her mind, is there not always a new game of sorts or a new ‘something’ to explore? By exploring these perspectives in creation, we are giving life to greater expansion. It’s infinite and there will never be an end to what we can potentially explore or experience. The entire structure of the manifestation we call reality is really like a giant amusement park with some more challenging rides than the other. There are no lessons, we already are perfect, but it’s fun to create 🙂
I feel compelled to step in here after reading Z’s comments, and mention a few things. We’ve talked about difficulty and how it can be helpful. We’ve talked about figuring out the “How” in this thread. Brandon and I have talked at length about making goals happen etc. and he knew of my intentions to leave my job and start my own venture. However, I hesitated because each time I thought of this, something else came up, like vacation, or that I needed a little more time to save up before I felt that it would be okay for me to do this. The entire time, I still had my eye on the goal I wanted, without giving it up. Even though Brandon protested at me that I was being too hesitant and I needed to just make a decision. The week that I put my resignation in, I also got hit by a car. Well, if that is not the Universe telling me something I don’t know what it is…. I will tell you that I have never given up on my goal, and in fact, my goal was written on paper before Brandon and I even discussed it. The result of the way these steps unfolded were that I was able to go on a wonderful vacation with my family because I stayed, and even though getting hit by a car is not ideal, because of the way that things have panned out, I have had more time to plan, I am organized, and I am networked with some awesome people that feel like my tribe. I could not be more excited for what is to come for me. However, I do need time to heal, and get some things I am struggling with resolved. The last two weeks have been amazing in regard to that process getting underway. I have a lot of personal healing to get through yet. The last part I will leave you with is that I believe It is not on my idea of time and steps, or Brandon’s idea of time and steps, we are just guides, but if you leave it up to the Universe, or Higher Power whatever you lend yourself to, it will get you where you want to be. Trust in it, and you will also begin to trust more in yourself. You will surely see successes, even if they are not packaged the way that you thought they would be.
Hi Jen,
The Universe will always make the best of what we give it. 🙂 In many situations, I believe many hardships could be circumvented. But if they’re not, they’ll still turn out to our benefit.
You getting hit by a car… if that doesn’t speak of major, major resistance, I don’t know what does. I don’t want to go into detail of your situation on a public forum obviously, though you shared a bit yourself so I’ll give my perspective. It was, and still is, my opinion that there was a lot of energy blocked up and stagnating in your situation. Big releases like, being hit by a car, is usually an indication of that… and a release of all that stuck energy. It’s like the Universe saying, “You need a big change, so… here you go!”
It will still make the best of it all. But, hopefully we can make its job a bit easier sometimes. 😀
Definitely! There are a million things we could question, and somewhere in the midst of that decisions we make to get to our goals will either benefit us or they won’t. I do appreciate that staying gave me a chance to be with my family, an opportunity that I manifested for myself, I wanted it so badly the year before and low and behold here it was, one more time in front of me to have. I felt like that was the Universe saying hold on just a bit… but after that, because I was broke and I had a lot piled up as you said, I stayed a little longer and look what happened. Sometimes we all think what we are doing is for the right reasons, and there can be a lot of tug and pull. If the Universe is trying to tell you something, listen! I do feel like good things are coming. It just took me a bit to get there. Now I can start a different path.
Brandon, I’ve been reading all of your articles nonstop and I fully feel and see how creative tension and zero state is necessary. What I can’t grasp is if I should purposely generate creative tension in order to manifest and how. I always notice reality and choose again and again. Is that enough tension?
Hi @rhonda__truong, I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed my blog posts. Yes you should generate creative tension.
Choosing the goal might be enough, but it just depends. You’ll be interested in my podcast coming out Monday, which will cover this topic more. Also you should check out The Art of Reality Creation 2.0, which discusses all of this in a lot greater detail. 🙂
But in brief, yes you should generate creative tension, and the best way to do that is to be unyielding with your pursuit of your goal.
Brandon, I’ve been reading all of your articles nonstop and I fully feel and see how creative tension and zero state is necessary. What I can’t grasp is if I should purposely generate creative tension in order to manifest and how. I always notice reality and choose again and again. Is that enough tension?
Hi @rhonda__truong, I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed my blog posts. Yes you should generate creative tension.
Choosing the goal might be enough, but it just depends. You’ll be interested in my podcast coming out Monday, which will cover this topic more. Also you should check out The Art of Reality Creation 2.0, which discusses all of this in a lot greater detail. 🙂
But in brief, yes you should generate creative tension, and the best way to do that is to be unyielding with your pursuit of your goal.