What would you say is the most important step of the law of attraction?
Would you say visualization? Without visualization, you can’t get really clear on your goal.
Or perhaps you’d say feeling the emotion of it? Closer, since without the emotion, the Universe doesn’t know what to bring you.
But both of these are incorrect.
The most important step of the manifestation process, and the one I think the great majority of people have trouble actually executing, is letting go.
But why is it so important? And, how can you start doing it more effectively?
The Difficulty of Letting Go
Letting go is one of the most difficult steps for most people.
We usually find it relatively easy to visualize or affirm our goals, and even to feel good about them.
But to let them go? That just seems so counter-intuitive.
It seems like the more we do the other steps, the faster our goal will come. But, that’s not true.
I think it’s so hard because the ego wants to act. We’re used to having to put forth great effort to get what we want in life. That’s the normal approach, if you will.
The magical approach, as I’ll call it, is completely different. The magical approach to achieving what you want in life is all about effortlessness, not effort; ease, not difficulty; allowing, not forcing.
In other words, it’s completely at odds with what we were taught from childhood by our parents and society.
And so because of this, many people have somewhat accepted this new way of living, but try to keep part of the old, too.
It’s almost comforting, to think that you can just put forth more effort and get greater results. It seems logical: greater input equals greater output.
If you work X number of hours and get paid Y, then it seems logical that if you work 2X hours, you’ll get paid 2Y.
And so many people try to manifest abundance by just working 80 hours a week, and enjoying just about none of it.
Even when it comes to the law of attraction, most people try to put forth more effort in order to get their manifestation faster.
It’s great if you visualize for a minute, but imagine if you visualized for 30 minutes, or even an hour?
Would you get 30 or 60 times the results?
Well, look back at your own results. What has been the truth of the matter?
Have you gotten most of your best results when you’ve put forth great effort, or when you’ve simply let go?
I know that for me, things have worked out the most when I’ve simply given it over to the Universe. The greatest number of clients have come when I was least expecting it. My best and most profitable ideas have come when I was simply relaxed, not trying to do anything.
The Magical Approach
So, let’s abandon the old, outdated approach. It really hasn’t worked all that great for you. Even if you’ve gotten greater results, it’s likely at the expense of your enjoyment of life.
So what’s the magical approach?
As I said, it is characterized by letting go.
There is often some confusion when I talk about letting go, because it might seem like I’m saying to let go of your goals, or that your goals shouldn’t be important to you.
But that’s not the case at all. You have the goals you have, and they are important.
When I say letting go, I mean letting go of the process of achieving your goals.
If you hopped on an airplane to your favorite destination, would you try to do the pilots job? Would you try to handle all the controls, even though you didn’t know the first thing about flying?
Or, would you sit back in your seat and simply enjoy the flight?
I’m guessing the latter. If not, then I’d rather not fly with you. 😛
But in the law of attraction, it’s as though you’re trying to do the Universe’s job for it. You’re trying to go into the universal cockpit and take the controls, even though you haven’t the faintest idea of how to make everything work properly.
You chose your destination, you got your ticket and got on the airplane. Now you just need to let the Universe bring you there. It literally couldn’t be simpler.
This is the magical approach. It’s the knowledge that a little goes a very long way. It’s the knowledge that your life is a co-creation. It’s the knowledge that your job in life is to choose the destination, and hold the vision until you’re there, then repeat it all over again with a new, better destination.
It’s to stop putting the cart before the horse, by not allowing reality to manipulate your emotions and discourage you from your goal.
Holding the Vision
As I said, we’re generally good through the steps of choosing the goal, visualizing or affirming it, and feeling it as achieved, at least for a moment or two. 🙂
The difficult part is when you’ve set that goal to find a new job, but are met with yet another rejection. It’s when you’ve decided on a financial goal, but are hopelessly far from achieving it. It’s when you’d love to get into a good relationship, but no one seems interested in you.
Its that moment when reality seems to conflict so starkly with your vision of what you’d like it to be.
You’d like to be a successful business person, but are barely scraping by. You’d like to be happily married, but are spending another night alone.
These are the moments when it is hardest to let go.
I’ve asked the gods repeatedly whether there is any shortcut to make this easier. The answer I get every time is “no”.
There’s no shortcut. Just the dedication to make the vision more important than the current picture that outer reality is offering.
All the major inventors and scientists have done it.
It was the Wright brothers who had to hold the vision of a machine that could fly, despite nearly all scientists saying it was impossible.
The key is letting go of everything that contradicts that vision.
You never, not once, let go of the vision itself. But you let go of the need to see it right now in front of you, and the need to know exactly how it’s going to happen.
See, the magical approach is all about putting the vision before current reality. Most people allow current reality to dictate their vision, for good or bad.
But, the truly magical, the true creators, will put the vision first, and hold to it until it is reflected in outer reality, letting go of everything that contradicts that vision.
I’ve told this story before, but it fits. It took me several years to really, truly honor my vision of working for myself, helping people spiritually. I allowed outer reality to dictate my idea of what was possible, primarily by feeling guilty about my own desires.
Once I made a commitment to the vision, then things started to shift.
I won’t say it was immediately easy, but things certainly moved a lot faster once I dedicated myself to my vision, and let go of all the rest.
Let Go of All that Contradicts Your Vision
So, you desire abundance, but don’t know how you’ll pay the next bill. How do you hold on to the vision, and not become discouraged?
Do you visualize for an hour a day until you convince yourself that it’s possible?
No, that’s never worked.
Do you put in more and more overtime?
Not unless that really feels like the best option.
No, you let go. You surrender to the process of creation.
You look at the unpaid bill and say, “I don’t know how this will get paid, but I know that it will. I will hold the vision of abundance unwaveringly, and let the Universe do the rest.”
You might visualize and feel the feeling of abundance for a moment or two.
But then, you completely let go of it. You release that energy into the Universe. You let the pilot fly the plane to your destination.
You don’t keep asking, “Am I on the right plane?” “Are you sure I’m on the right plane?” “When will I get there?” “Will we arrive where I want to go?”
That’s not letting go.
Letting go is just to hold the vision effortlessly, and allow the Universe to take you there.
So, in our example, every time you think of that bill, you simply give it over to the Universe. You realize it’s not your concern.
You might have to do this 100 times a day at first. But, in time, your subconscious mind will get the hint that you’re just not interested in worrying about this, and it’ll stop bringing it up.
Yes, of course the other steps are important. But, the energy of your manifestation simply can’t be acted upon by the Universe as long as you are holding on to it.
Do your processes, then let it go.
Try to keep your mind completely off the topic of this goal for as long as possible. Otherwise, you risk obsessing over it.
Give up as much of the process as possible to the Universe. Your job is simply to feel good about it. That’s it. You need do nothing else.
If you do that, and let go of the rest, you’ll arrive at the goal very quickly.
How to Let Go
So, letting go is a great idea, but how do you actually do it?
There’s no simple answer besides, “just do it”.
But I’ll give some pointers that I hope can be helpful.
The first time when you really need to let go is in the manifestation process.
You sit down to do your particular technique. You have your goal in mind, you access the state of having it, and you’re feeling pretty good.
Now comes the most important part. You let go of the feeling.
You see, to simply go from the feeling of the goal, back into normal consciousness, would not quite allow that energy to go out to the Universe. You’d constantly be checking whether you were feeling “the right way” or not.
What you must do is to let go of the feeling, once you feel you’ve released most of the resistance in your vibration for now. You release that feeling and enter back into a very general peaceful state.
Then, you keep your mind off your goal as much as possible, for at least a while.
You don’t wonder whether you did it right, or whether you should do it again. You completely let go of the energy and trust the Universe to do its thing.
If your mind tries to worry about it, just remind yourself that your part is done. All you need to do now is to enjoy the journey.
Now, that doesn’t mean you never return to the goal. I generally suggest meditating on it once every day, to acclimate your subconscious mind to this new goal.
However, you don’t keep on it all day, either. You have to let go of the energy.
Later on, when it feels good to do so, you can fantasize about the goal and really have fun thinking about it. But even then, you want to let go of that feeling and return to your everyday life.
As it becomes easier and easier to think about the goal and feel truly good about it, then you can start thinking about it more and more often. It’s just especially at first that you try to be careful, because thinking about it excessively can trigger major resistance.
Now the second time is when you’re just going about your day, and something reminds you of current reality, and how different it is from what you want.
Here, you have to let go of the temptation to become discouraged. You must remind yourself that your vision is already set, and the Universe is responding to it.
This current reality is only here because it’s a reminder of your past focus. But, you don’t need to allow it to set your present focus, too, and thereby create your future reality.
So, when you’re met with some conflict to your inner vision, simply don’t take it seriously. Realize that this is where you were in the past, but now you can create a new future. Then, let it go.
I promise that once you learn the importance of letting go, your manifestations will come much more quickly. They cannot come to you when you haven’t let go of everything that is blocking its way. So, once you have truly let go, you’ll see things shift drastically around you.
How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Have you learned the importance of letting go? Are you able to apply it to your own life? Let me know in the comments.
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I don’t know how to quote text on the blog post, there’s no option, but anyway:
“You see, to simply go from the feeling of the goal, back into normal consciousness, would not quite allow that energy to go out to the Universe. You’d constantly be checking whether you were feeling “the right way” or not.
What you must do is to let go of the feeling, once you feel you’ve released most of the resistance in your vibration for now. You release that feeling and enter back into a very general peaceful state.”
By this, you mean that right after I decide that I’ve been in the feeling of my goal long enough, I don’t just go back to my everyday life, but first I have to actively apply mindfulness until the positive feeling dissolves completely? Is this what you meant?
Hi Z,
Yes, exactly correct. That is the most important part of it, and I’ve been getting far better results by doing this.
By the way, to quote, you just put the text in the middle of: <blockquote></blockquote>
Oh, this is very helpful! I’ve been convinced that keeping the good feeling after intending was good, because the longer it was “activated”, the better the whole thing would work. You’ve given me a very important missing piece! It does make sense.
I just wanna check something, because I’m not sure I understood you. In the middle of the day, while I’m not thinking about my goal, and then something enters my reality, that reminds me of the lack of my goal, do I:
a) mindfully release resistance, while reminding myself that the Universe is taking care of it, and then go back to the peace state, or
b) mindfully release resistance, regenerate the positive feeling of having my goal, and then going back to the peace state?
Also, thanks for the information about quoting text!
Hi Z,
That’s correct. It is a common misunderstanding. The good feeling about the goal is really only necessary for a few minutes while you are actually doing the manifestation techniques. For the rest of the day, it’s best if you forget about it.
Again, once there is very little resistance, its’ quite okay to think about it more often. You just want to watch out that you’re not trying to always keep an eye on the goal throughout the day. I’ve fallen into this trap and it really delays the manifestation.
And of course, if something positive happens that is on the path to your goal, then definitely celebrate it and feel really good about it.
To your question, I’d say A, most frequently. It won’t hurt if you do B, as long as you can completely let it go again. But again, you want to let go of any need to get it just right, or hang on to that feeling all day.
Hope this makes sense.
Yes, I understand. Thank you!
Also I forgot to ask you something. (I ask too much lol)
First, I mentioned that 10 to 15 minutes before I go to choose what I’m gonna eat and actually eat, I get into the feeling of great health, energy, strength, etc. Should I neutralize this feeling before I actually choose and eat, or should I keep the positive feeling active? This is different than intending that you wrote about in this blog post, because after intending, I necessarily take action: choose and eat.
Second, is it a good idea to intend passing the exam and learning efficiently, right before I start studying? If yes, then again the same question as above, do I neutralize the good feeling before actually starting to study, or do I keep it active? Again, here’s a direct action. Or, should I avoid intending easy study and passing the exam right before studying?
Hi Z,
This one’s a little more complicated.
To get the answer, you have to understand the nature of feelings.
Feelings are just energy. Energy is meant to flow, not to be held on to. All throughout your day, you should aim for a light, positive feeling.
But to specifically get the feeling of abundance, or health, or doing well on an exam… to try to hold on to it might cause it to stagnate.
You can feel the difference. Enjoy the feeling, and let it do its thing. But if you try to cling to it, because you think you need to keep that feeling as it is, that’s probably not going to work out for the best. It’s a form of attachment.
You can certainly enjoy the food, celebrate how good it tastes, etc. But don’t overthink the manifestation thing, and try to keep a certain feeling throughout the process.
Same for studying. Set your manifestation, then let it go. Certainly stay in a light, positive state while studying, and congratulate yourself on your progress. But don’t try to hold on to a specific feeling.
Does this make sense? I know it’s a little nuanced.
Yeah, I think I got it. A stronger feeling I generate when intending is simply a guide for the Universal energy, right? And only after a bit of this stronger feeling, a light positive feeling throughout the day is enough to keep the energy flowing. It reminds me of something I learned at college. There’s a furnace for melting solid metal. At first, the solid metal is cold, and there is no electric current running through the electrodes. So, we briefly touch the metal with the electrodes, and thus create a short circuit. Strong current suddenly starts running (similar to intending), and then we detach the electrodes from the metal. Short circuit is not needed anymore, because the current is flowing from one electrode to the other, via the warmed up air (similar to the light positive feeling), and with just that, the metal is being melted (similar to the manifestation coming to the physical). xD
I love that. It’s a great analogy.
I agree. The intense emotion is only needed for a moment, then you simply feel generally good throughout the day. You still want to be mindful of your state, but you don’t, nor really could you, stay in a state of heightened emotion all day. It’d get tiring, honestly. 🙂
Hi B,
Thanks for this post..
I finally have some goals.
1- to feel good almost all the time (because I have stopped negative thoughts).
2- to find my true calling (work).
It’s hard to feel good about number 2 because I don’t know what it is. Letting go is easier because I’m already doing it with number 1 goal.
Brandon, why do some people have extremely strong emotions? Is it a flaw related to ego strength? ie. greater the ego, greater the emotions?
You want strong emotions. It’s not a flaw. Emotions are what get Universal Energy moving. Without that, the momentum would be incredibly slow.
I think what you mean is why people have strong negative emotions. And the reason is, of course, resistance.
I think my emotions were severely blunted because I didn’t know what to do with the strong negatives. So I had no idea whatsoever about what I wanted – it’s still extremely vague, but I feel some relief in having a goal.
Thanks for the encouragement.
If anyone out there reading is in the same, stunted position of “I have no idea what I want – I feel totally lost”, may I suggest adopting the goal “to feel good most of the time”. It’s probably the only goal I could have generated from this low point.
Hey CJ,
That’s great that you have goals! For #2, just feel the feeling of knowing your purpose, and that will draw it to you. 🙂
This post was beautifully clear. The part about thinking if you visualized longer, your results would be better really hit home for me. I think I was making visualization into a “should” rather than just letting myself do it whenever it happened to feel good to do it. I really did think if I visualized 60 minutes instead of 30, the manifestation must come twice as fast! haha But remembering what you said in another post, about how the sun rises every day and that’s a manifestation for us even though we spend almost no time thinking about it, helps. It’s not really the time spent focusing or even the intensity of focus. It really does seem to be more about letting go (which we don’t even have to try to do in the case of sunrises; we’re so used to it we let go naturally).
I appreciate that you acknowledge that there aren’t really “steps” or methods to letting go. It seems to be a sort of internal choice. Maybe it’s kind of like trying to calm down a child. You can do things that set a nice atmosphere for calming down (like turning out the lights, or playing soft music, or telling them soothing things), but in the end, they still choose whether to stay mad or to calm down. Making those changes doesn’t guarantee they’ll feel calmer, and they can choose to feel calm even when they are in a bright noisy place ( although that might take more skill or practice to get good at). The atmosphere doesn’t guarantee the calm feeling, and the atmosphere isn’t necessary for the calm feeling, but it does help sometimes. Would you say that this is true for letting go? It sounds like some of the tips might be construed that way (e.g. reminding yourself that you’ve done your job and the rest is the Universe’s). Do some people let go more easily in certain environments or under certain conditions, like being in nature, or listening to soothing music, etc.?
Very well put, Lisa, and thanks for your comment.
We can definitely fall into the trap of thinking the more time we visualize, the faster things happen. But, one of my favorite authors once wrote something to the effect of, “The reason your manifestation isn’t here yet is almost never because you didn’t put in enough work to manifest it.”
In other words, it’s almost always because you didn’t let go sufficiently.
To answer your question, I think you’re exactly correct. Letting go is a choice. It gets easier with spiritual development, especially with meditation. But some people are just great at letting go from the start, and others have to develop that. I think it has a lot to do with the kind of circumstances you were born into and how you were raised.
It’s really the crux of the matter. Most people are doing the other steps properly. The major problems I see with people trying to practice the LOA are (1) not feeling the way they want to feel, and (2) not letting go of the goal. And really, the two are related. Let go, and it’s easier to focus on the way you want to feel more of the time.
I don’t know how to quote text on the blog post, there’s no option, but anyway:
“You see, to simply go from the feeling of the goal, back into normal consciousness, would not quite allow that energy to go out to the Universe. You’d constantly be checking whether you were feeling “the right way” or not.
What you must do is to let go of the feeling, once you feel you’ve released most of the resistance in your vibration for now. You release that feeling and enter back into a very general peaceful state.”
By this, you mean that right after I decide that I’ve been in the feeling of my goal long enough, I don’t just go back to my everyday life, but first I have to actively apply mindfulness until the positive feeling dissolves completely? Is this what you meant?
Hi Z,
Yes, exactly correct. That is the most important part of it, and I’ve been getting far better results by doing this.
By the way, to quote, you just put the text in the middle of: <blockquote></blockquote>
Oh, this is very helpful! I’ve been convinced that keeping the good feeling after intending was good, because the longer it was “activated”, the better the whole thing would work. You’ve given me a very important missing piece! It does make sense.
I just wanna check something, because I’m not sure I understood you. In the middle of the day, while I’m not thinking about my goal, and then something enters my reality, that reminds me of the lack of my goal, do I:
a) mindfully release resistance, while reminding myself that the Universe is taking care of it, and then go back to the peace state, or
b) mindfully release resistance, regenerate the positive feeling of having my goal, and then going back to the peace state?
Also, thanks for the information about quoting text!
Hi Z,
That’s correct. It is a common misunderstanding. The good feeling about the goal is really only necessary for a few minutes while you are actually doing the manifestation techniques. For the rest of the day, it’s best if you forget about it.
Again, once there is very little resistance, its’ quite okay to think about it more often. You just want to watch out that you’re not trying to always keep an eye on the goal throughout the day. I’ve fallen into this trap and it really delays the manifestation.
And of course, if something positive happens that is on the path to your goal, then definitely celebrate it and feel really good about it.
To your question, I’d say A, most frequently. It won’t hurt if you do B, as long as you can completely let it go again. But again, you want to let go of any need to get it just right, or hang on to that feeling all day.
Hope this makes sense.
Yes, I understand. Thank you!
Also I forgot to ask you something. (I ask too much lol)
First, I mentioned that 10 to 15 minutes before I go to choose what I’m gonna eat and actually eat, I get into the feeling of great health, energy, strength, etc. Should I neutralize this feeling before I actually choose and eat, or should I keep the positive feeling active? This is different than intending that you wrote about in this blog post, because after intending, I necessarily take action: choose and eat.
Second, is it a good idea to intend passing the exam and learning efficiently, right before I start studying? If yes, then again the same question as above, do I neutralize the good feeling before actually starting to study, or do I keep it active? Again, here’s a direct action. Or, should I avoid intending easy study and passing the exam right before studying?
Hi Z,
This one’s a little more complicated.
To get the answer, you have to understand the nature of feelings.
Feelings are just energy. Energy is meant to flow, not to be held on to. All throughout your day, you should aim for a light, positive feeling.
But to specifically get the feeling of abundance, or health, or doing well on an exam… to try to hold on to it might cause it to stagnate.
You can feel the difference. Enjoy the feeling, and let it do its thing. But if you try to cling to it, because you think you need to keep that feeling as it is, that’s probably not going to work out for the best. It’s a form of attachment.
You can certainly enjoy the food, celebrate how good it tastes, etc. But don’t overthink the manifestation thing, and try to keep a certain feeling throughout the process.
Same for studying. Set your manifestation, then let it go. Certainly stay in a light, positive state while studying, and congratulate yourself on your progress. But don’t try to hold on to a specific feeling.
Does this make sense? I know it’s a little nuanced.
Yeah, I think I got it. A stronger feeling I generate when intending is simply a guide for the Universal energy, right? And only after a bit of this stronger feeling, a light positive feeling throughout the day is enough to keep the energy flowing. It reminds me of something I learned at college. There’s a furnace for melting solid metal. At first, the solid metal is cold, and there is no electric current running through the electrodes. So, we briefly touch the metal with the electrodes, and thus create a short circuit. Strong current suddenly starts running (similar to intending), and then we detach the electrodes from the metal. Short circuit is not needed anymore, because the current is flowing from one electrode to the other, via the warmed up air (similar to the light positive feeling), and with just that, the metal is being melted (similar to the manifestation coming to the physical). xD
I love that. It’s a great analogy.
I agree. The intense emotion is only needed for a moment, then you simply feel generally good throughout the day. You still want to be mindful of your state, but you don’t, nor really could you, stay in a state of heightened emotion all day. It’d get tiring, honestly. 🙂
Hi B,
Thanks for this post..
I finally have some goals.
1- to feel good almost all the time (because I have stopped negative thoughts).
2- to find my true calling (work).
It’s hard to feel good about number 2 because I don’t know what it is. Letting go is easier because I’m already doing it with number 1 goal.
Brandon, why do some people have extremely strong emotions? Is it a flaw related to ego strength? ie. greater the ego, greater the emotions?
You want strong emotions. It’s not a flaw. Emotions are what get Universal Energy moving. Without that, the momentum would be incredibly slow.
I think what you mean is why people have strong negative emotions. And the reason is, of course, resistance.
I think my emotions were severely blunted because I didn’t know what to do with the strong negatives. So I had no idea whatsoever about what I wanted – it’s still extremely vague, but I feel some relief in having a goal.
Thanks for the encouragement.
If anyone out there reading is in the same, stunted position of “I have no idea what I want – I feel totally lost”, may I suggest adopting the goal “to feel good most of the time”. It’s probably the only goal I could have generated from this low point.
Hey CJ,
That’s great that you have goals! For #2, just feel the feeling of knowing your purpose, and that will draw it to you. 🙂
This post was beautifully clear. The part about thinking if you visualized longer, your results would be better really hit home for me. I think I was making visualization into a “should” rather than just letting myself do it whenever it happened to feel good to do it. I really did think if I visualized 60 minutes instead of 30, the manifestation must come twice as fast! haha But remembering what you said in another post, about how the sun rises every day and that’s a manifestation for us even though we spend almost no time thinking about it, helps. It’s not really the time spent focusing or even the intensity of focus. It really does seem to be more about letting go (which we don’t even have to try to do in the case of sunrises; we’re so used to it we let go naturally).
I appreciate that you acknowledge that there aren’t really “steps” or methods to letting go. It seems to be a sort of internal choice. Maybe it’s kind of like trying to calm down a child. You can do things that set a nice atmosphere for calming down (like turning out the lights, or playing soft music, or telling them soothing things), but in the end, they still choose whether to stay mad or to calm down. Making those changes doesn’t guarantee they’ll feel calmer, and they can choose to feel calm even when they are in a bright noisy place ( although that might take more skill or practice to get good at). The atmosphere doesn’t guarantee the calm feeling, and the atmosphere isn’t necessary for the calm feeling, but it does help sometimes. Would you say that this is true for letting go? It sounds like some of the tips might be construed that way (e.g. reminding yourself that you’ve done your job and the rest is the Universe’s). Do some people let go more easily in certain environments or under certain conditions, like being in nature, or listening to soothing music, etc.?
Very well put, Lisa, and thanks for your comment.
We can definitely fall into the trap of thinking the more time we visualize, the faster things happen. But, one of my favorite authors once wrote something to the effect of, “The reason your manifestation isn’t here yet is almost never because you didn’t put in enough work to manifest it.”
In other words, it’s almost always because you didn’t let go sufficiently.
To answer your question, I think you’re exactly correct. Letting go is a choice. It gets easier with spiritual development, especially with meditation. But some people are just great at letting go from the start, and others have to develop that. I think it has a lot to do with the kind of circumstances you were born into and how you were raised.
It’s really the crux of the matter. Most people are doing the other steps properly. The major problems I see with people trying to practice the LOA are (1) not feeling the way they want to feel, and (2) not letting go of the goal. And really, the two are related. Let go, and it’s easier to focus on the way you want to feel more of the time.
Awesome ????. This is exactly how journey goes on. You explained all the things in exact points. Human mind plays games. Keep doubting and worrying. I loved the exact questions you mentioned about how our mind worries
“Am I on the right plane?” “Are you sure I’m on the right plane?” “When will I get there?” “Will we arrive where I want to go?”
This is exactly what happens. It’s like we sow a seed and dig it everyday to see how long it has grown ☺️. We just want something where we can check our progress and see if we are really doing it right. Patience and over thinking are the biggest challenges sometimes. Especially for people like me because I don’t work. I am a housewife and sometimes afternoons are crazy. But you always have the answers and I loved this one.
“Now the second time is when you’re just going about your day, and something reminds you of current reality, and how different it is from what you want.
Here, you have to let go of the temptation to become discouraged. You must remind yourself that your vision is already set, and the Universe is responding to it”.
Thank for wonderful post and helping me to find missing pieces and to understand how to work with them.
Thanks so much for your comment, Rhea. 🙂
Yes, I agree with the analogy of digging up the seed. Patience is difficult. Overthinking is easy to do. But it’s so important to let go.
I’m glad you found value in the post.
Awesome ????. This is exactly how journey goes on. You explained all the things in exact points. Human mind plays games. Keep doubting and worrying. I loved the exact questions you mentioned about how our mind worries
“Am I on the right plane?” “Are you sure I’m on the right plane?” “When will I get there?” “Will we arrive where I want to go?”
This is exactly what happens. It’s like we sow a seed and dig it everyday to see how long it has grown ☺️. We just want something where we can check our progress and see if we are really doing it right. Patience and over thinking are the biggest challenges sometimes. Especially for people like me because I don’t work. I am a housewife and sometimes afternoons are crazy. But you always have the answers and I loved this one.
“Now the second time is when you’re just going about your day, and something reminds you of current reality, and how different it is from what you want.
Here, you have to let go of the temptation to become discouraged. You must remind yourself that your vision is already set, and the Universe is responding to it”.
Thank for wonderful post and helping me to find missing pieces and to understand how to work with them.
Thanks so much for your comment, Rhea. 🙂
Yes, I agree with the analogy of digging up the seed. Patience is difficult. Overthinking is easy to do. But it’s so important to let go.
I’m glad you found value in the post.
I was just thinking about meditation.
When meditation teachers say “just allow whatever you feel to be there”, that’s actually a fatal error of technique. When you allow negative feelings, they just fester, they don’t exhaust themselves or dissolve into awareness. The reason they don’t dissolve into awareness is because they represent something that is antithetical to awareness.
Allowing negativity = allowing resistance. What do you think Brandon/?
Hi CJ,
Could not disagree more, actually.
There is nothing antithetical to awareness. Awareness is who and what you are. Awareness is all things, and all things have their source in awareness.
If you allow negativity and it doesn’t leave, then you’re not fully allowing it. You might be trying to allow it with an eye to getting rid of it. That’s just a sneaky way of pushing against it. It’s like, “Fine, I’ll allow you, but only so you’ll leave.”
Yes, you do allow resistance. That’s why Abraham-Hicks calls it now the art of allowing. You don’t push away resistance, or fight with resistance. You allow resistance, and then it dissolves.
Arghhhhh!
Lately I’ve been simply saying “no” to negativity and blanking my mind, and I’ve started to feel better. That’s not the way to go?
It depends what your “no” means. Saying “no” can be helpful if it means, “No, I won’t believe in these thoughts.” You are taking control and setting your focus in a different direction. You’ll be interested in Thursday’s post for this reason.
But, it only helps for a moment. Continuously saying “no” to something only makes it grow in your life. Say “no” to it, then redirect your focus.
But, generally I recommend saying “yes” to the negativity and resistance. This does not mean “Yes, I believe these thoughts,” but instead more like, “Yes, you can be here if you like, but you have no power unless I give it to you. I accept you for what you are.”
Does that make sense? It’s acceptance, but not giving in to believing in the thoughts.
Well going by results, I’d say I must be doing it in a way which isn’t adding resistance to resistance. I don’t tend to refocus elsewhere, I just go blank. It’s more like a repeated “nah… nope” than a forceful “no”. When I try to focus on positives, that makes me feel worse.
I have tried dropping right into the pain but it overwhelms.
Then you do what works for you. Going into “blankness” is also a form of allowing, IMO.
That’s good, thanks. Someone else hinted that in ‘going blank’ I might be dissociating, but it doesn’t feel like that.
I appreciate what you’re saying about allowing the negatives (and I’ve observed the power of this in others), and I might do that later when the pain is less intense.
Interesting points thanks. I hadn’t thought of dissociation as adaptive, but you’re quite right – NLP has used that for a long time.
Maybe we could take a fresh look at all the traditionally labelled “ego defense mechanisms” and find some new techniques there.
Btw, I’ve been wondering… You said that you’ve talked to some masters and spirits already, but I wonder if you have talked to Abraham, the master that Esther is channeling? I don’t recall you did, maybe I’m wrong. I really wonder how you’d compare the information you get from them, vs the information Esther has been teaching.
Hi Z,
It’s an interesting thought. Abraham, according to Esther, is more of a group of entities. I do believe the core of the message is truthful, and comes from a higher source, but I also believe there is a lot of corruption of the message.
Most of the resources I’ve seen out there share the same kernel of truth. I can generally tell when someone has truly connected to something higher and is sharing their realizations, vs. when someone is simply parroting what another teacher has said.
More than anything, it annoys me when I realize I’ve come across a source that is simply parroting Abraham / Esther. There’s no essence there. It’s just surface-level understanding.
But the core of the message is true:
But, as with anything, there’s so much more that can be said. Even in my first class, The Art of Reality Creation, I could have easily filled another 6 hours of material, or even more. There’s no end to how deep the rabbit hole goes, if you will.
As for your actual question, I don’t really feel led to specifically communicate with the Abraham entity group. I mostly now communicate with my patron deities, as well as my own spirit guides.
I see. Thank you for the explanation. 🙂
I was just thinking about meditation.
When meditation teachers say “just allow whatever you feel to be there”, that’s actually a fatal error of technique. When you allow negative feelings, they just fester, they don’t exhaust themselves or dissolve into awareness. The reason they don’t dissolve into awareness is because they represent something that is antithetical to awareness.
Allowing negativity = allowing resistance. What do you think Brandon/?
Hi CJ,
Could not disagree more, actually.
There is nothing antithetical to awareness. Awareness is who and what you are. Awareness is all things, and all things have their source in awareness.
If you allow negativity and it doesn’t leave, then you’re not fully allowing it. You might be trying to allow it with an eye to getting rid of it. That’s just a sneaky way of pushing against it. It’s like, “Fine, I’ll allow you, but only so you’ll leave.”
Yes, you do allow resistance. That’s why Abraham-Hicks calls it now the art of allowing. You don’t push away resistance, or fight with resistance. You allow resistance, and then it dissolves.
Arghhhhh!
Lately I’ve been simply saying “no” to negativity and blanking my mind, and I’ve started to feel better. That’s not the way to go?
It depends what your “no” means. Saying “no” can be helpful if it means, “No, I won’t believe in these thoughts.” You are taking control and setting your focus in a different direction. You’ll be interested in Thursday’s post for this reason.
But, it only helps for a moment. Continuously saying “no” to something only makes it grow in your life. Say “no” to it, then redirect your focus.
But, generally I recommend saying “yes” to the negativity and resistance. This does not mean “Yes, I believe these thoughts,” but instead more like, “Yes, you can be here if you like, but you have no power unless I give it to you. I accept you for what you are.”
Does that make sense? It’s acceptance, but not giving in to believing in the thoughts.
Well going by results, I’d say I must be doing it in a way which isn’t adding resistance to resistance. I don’t tend to refocus elsewhere, I just go blank. It’s more like a repeated “nah… nope” than a forceful “no”. When I try to focus on positives, that makes me feel worse.
I have tried dropping right into the pain but it overwhelms.
Then you do what works for you. Going into “blankness” is also a form of allowing, IMO.
That’s good, thanks. Someone else hinted that in ‘going blank’ I might be dissociating, but it doesn’t feel like that.
I appreciate what you’re saying about allowing the negatives (and I’ve observed the power of this in others), and I might do that later when the pain is less intense.
Dissociating isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s a common technique I utilize with my clients quite frequently, to step out of the powerful emotions of a situation.
To me there’s a difference between dissociation and repression of emotions.
In the context of NLP, dissociation is a healthy technique for changing the way you see and experience a situation. Repression is more where you push away that image or internal experience, so that you can’t deal with the emotional content of it.
There’s certainly a fine line, but it’s not necessarily bad if you aren’t dealing with all of it right now.
Interesting points thanks. I hadn’t thought of dissociation as adaptive, but you’re quite right – NLP has used that for a long time.
Maybe we could take a fresh look at all the traditionally labelled “ego defense mechanisms” and find some new techniques there.
Btw, I’ve been wondering… You said that you’ve talked to some masters and spirits already, but I wonder if you have talked to Abraham, the master that Esther is channeling? I don’t recall you did, maybe I’m wrong. I really wonder how you’d compare the information you get from them, vs the information Esther has been teaching.
Hi Z,
It’s an interesting thought. Abraham, according to Esther, is more of a group of entities. I do believe the core of the message is truthful, and comes from a higher source, but I also believe there is a lot of corruption of the message.
Most of the resources I’ve seen out there share the same kernel of truth. I can generally tell when someone has truly connected to something higher and is sharing their realizations, vs. when someone is simply parroting what another teacher has said.
More than anything, it annoys me when I realize I’ve come across a source that is simply parroting Abraham / Esther. There’s no essence there. It’s just surface-level understanding.
But the core of the message is true:
But, as with anything, there’s so much more that can be said. Even in my first class, The Art of Reality Creation, I could have easily filled another 6 hours of material, or even more. There’s no end to how deep the rabbit hole goes, if you will.
As for your actual question, I don’t really feel led to specifically communicate with the Abraham entity group. I mostly now communicate with my patron deities, as well as my own spirit guides.
I see. Thank you for the explanation. 🙂
I’m such an ardent question asker, somebody stop me! lol
Anyway, remember how Abraham mentions momentum, and that it takes 17 seconds for another thought to join the first one, and they mention 68 seconds as well.
Above, in a response to CJ, you wrote:
How does that fit in with the duration of our intending? If I’d like something (a goal), but don’t intend at all, the universal energy will be slow on that goal, right? If I intend for like 20 seconds, then the energy will start moving faster? And if I intend for 2 minutes, even faster? How can I know for how long to intend? The logic is saying, the longer I intend, the faster momentum will get, and the faster the resistance will get brought up to surface, and if released correctly, the faster the manifestation will come. Something’s off here, isn’t it? What am I missing here? Is there a time threshold that when reached, the additional duration of intending won’t have significant effect on the speed of momentum?
Hi Z,
I believe Abraham is incorrect on this point, or at least that Esther has mistranslated it. Duration has nothing to do with momentum, or at least very little. I’ve intended for 5 seconds before, and gotten fast results.
It is emotion that moves Universal Energy. If you have a short burst of pure, positive emotion, it can be 2 seconds and you’ll get that manifestation very quickly, if unopposed by resistance.
Where duration might come in is that it might be easier to build up a pure vibration with longer focus. But it’s certainly not required.
Thank you for your explanation. I’ll admit that this area is still somewhat vague in my understanding, but I suppose that I should practice what I know more, and it’ll get clearer.
I’m such an ardent question asker, somebody stop me! lol
Anyway, remember how Abraham mentions momentum, and that it takes 17 seconds for another thought to join the first one, and they mention 68 seconds as well.
Above, in a response to CJ, you wrote:
How does that fit in with the duration of our intending? If I’d like something (a goal), but don’t intend at all, the universal energy will be slow on that goal, right? If I intend for like 20 seconds, then the energy will start moving faster? And if I intend for 2 minutes, even faster? How can I know for how long to intend? The logic is saying, the longer I intend, the faster momentum will get, and the faster the resistance will get brought up to surface, and if released correctly, the faster the manifestation will come. Something’s off here, isn’t it? What am I missing here? Is there a time threshold that when reached, the additional duration of intending won’t have significant effect on the speed of momentum?
Hi Z,
I believe Abraham is incorrect on this point, or at least that Esther has mistranslated it. Duration has nothing to do with momentum, or at least very little. I’ve intended for 5 seconds before, and gotten fast results.
It is emotion that moves Universal Energy. If you have a short burst of pure, positive emotion, it can be 2 seconds and you’ll get that manifestation very quickly, if unopposed by resistance.
Where duration might come in is that it might be easier to build up a pure vibration with longer focus. But it’s certainly not required.
Thank you for your explanation. I’ll admit that this area is still somewhat vague in my understanding, but I suppose that I should practice what I know more, and it’ll get clearer.
Brandon,
I tried allowing the negative (sadness and fear), and I can get a spontaneous sigh happening after about 30 seconds or so. Then the pain just reappears very soon after. I think it’s a never ending well of emotion. Are you sure it gets less with repeated releasing?
Thanks again.
Hi CJ,
It definitely becomes less, when you don’t resist it. I’ve definitely experienced lessening of resistance when allowing. 🙂
Brandon,
I tried allowing the negative (sadness and fear), and I can get a spontaneous sigh happening after about 30 seconds or so. Then the pain just reappears very soon after. I think it’s a never ending well of emotion. Are you sure it gets less with repeated releasing?
Thanks again.
Hi CJ,
It definitely becomes less, when you don’t resist it. I’ve definitely experienced lessening of resistance when allowing. 🙂
Positive thinking isn’t really the way to go, is it? It gets you trapped in the ego the way that negative thinking does… correct?
Just release the negatives and be peaceful and happy. Yes? And then if something pleasant occurs to you, you can daydream about it for a while, without getting attached.
Well, to me, that is positive thinking. Yes, how most people talk about it is a bit unhealthy. But, if you celebrate the good, and ignore the bad, that will take you towards your goals. When I say ignore, of course I mean allow, but don’t react emotionally.
Positive thinking isn’t really the way to go, is it? It gets you trapped in the ego the way that negative thinking does… correct?
Just release the negatives and be peaceful and happy. Yes? And then if something pleasant occurs to you, you can daydream about it for a while, without getting attached.
Well, to me, that is positive thinking. Yes, how most people talk about it is a bit unhealthy. But, if you celebrate the good, and ignore the bad, that will take you towards your goals. When I say ignore, of course I mean allow, but don’t react emotionally.
Today I had a class, which was very boring and just awful, but I did my best to allow my emotions, and kept reminding myself that it was the result of my past focus, and that the Universe is taking care of everything. Nonetheless, after the class ended, I was very energetically drained. I went home to relax, but I kept getting more energetically drained, physically and emotionally. Is it simply that since the resistance is huge, it’s expected to drain me like this? I guess that its ability to drain me energetically will decrease as I release more and more of it? I got so sleepy lol.
Hi Z,
Yes, it sounds like you just had a pretty big piece of resistance, which drained you of energy. Practice fully releasing it and focusing on something better.
Alright, thank you 🙂
Today I had a class, which was very boring and just awful, but I did my best to allow my emotions, and kept reminding myself that it was the result of my past focus, and that the Universe is taking care of everything. Nonetheless, after the class ended, I was very energetically drained. I went home to relax, but I kept getting more energetically drained, physically and emotionally. Is it simply that since the resistance is huge, it’s expected to drain me like this? I guess that its ability to drain me energetically will decrease as I release more and more of it? I got so sleepy lol.
Hi Z,
Yes, it sounds like you just had a pretty big piece of resistance, which drained you of energy. Practice fully releasing it and focusing on something better.
Alright, thank you 🙂
Great post. I find myself focusing on releasing the attachment for every goal I’ve set. I recently purchased a highly sought after pair of sneakers by using this approach; saying I want those, feeling that I have them, and then moving on to telling myself “but if I don’t get them, it’s alright and it’s the universe providing what’s best”. I’ve used this “set it and forget it” method for many other things including hard to find apartments, jobs, and other wins.
What’s your take on thinking about being ok not having it?
Hi John,
Thanks for the comment.
I think that’s a perfect approach. It’s still holding the vision, but knowing that the Universe will bring what is the best match right now. Everyone does it a bit differently. My preferred way is to have the confidence to know it is coming, so much so that I don’t need to be attached to it. But I’ve also had success with saying it is okay if it doesn’t come. It’s really the feeling of security and confidence that you’re after, so it’s the same either way. 🙂
Hi Brandon,
Thanks for the response! I’ll be sure to give that a try as well. Keep posting, this is great stuff!
Best,
John
Brabdon, what do you make of Trump’s vibe/energy?
Brandon, what do you make of Trump’s vibe/energy?
Hi CJ,
Honestly, I don’t know if I want to say. It is extremely hard to be unbiased with politics, and I know others who get a different sense about him than I do. Personally he makes me nervous. He seems very fear-based and focused on what we don’t want, which generally won’t succeed. But our country is fearful and I’m not surprised it manifested an expression of that fear.
Again this is my opinion and I know others who think he is very positive. I just don’t see it myself.
He makes me nervous too, but I think with such a strong wealth vibe he will make the US prosperous.
Yes, that at least is good. 🙂
Great post. I find myself focusing on releasing the attachment for every goal I’ve set. I recently purchased a highly sought after pair of sneakers by using this approach; saying I want those, feeling that I have them, and then moving on to telling myself “but if I don’t get them, it’s alright and it’s the universe providing what’s best”. I’ve used this “set it and forget it” method for many other things including hard to find apartments, jobs, and other wins.
What’s your take on thinking about being ok not having it?
Hi John,
Thanks for the comment.
I think that’s a perfect approach. It’s still holding the vision, but knowing that the Universe will bring what is the best match right now. Everyone does it a bit differently. My preferred way is to have the confidence to know it is coming, so much so that I don’t need to be attached to it. But I’ve also had success with saying it is okay if it doesn’t come. It’s really the feeling of security and confidence that you’re after, so it’s the same either way. 🙂
Hi Brandon,
Thanks for the response! I’ll be sure to give that a try as well. Keep posting, this is great stuff!
Best,
John
Brabdon, what do you make of Trump’s vibe/energy?
Brandon, what do you make of Trump’s vibe/energy?
Hi CJ,
Honestly, I don’t know if I want to say. It is extremely hard to be unbiased with politics, and I know others who get a different sense about him than I do. Personally he makes me nervous. He seems very fear-based and focused on what we don’t want, which generally won’t succeed. But our country is fearful and I’m not surprised it manifested an expression of that fear.
Again this is my opinion and I know others who think he is very positive. I just don’t see it myself.
He makes me nervous too, but I think with such a strong wealth vibe he will make the US prosperous.
Yes, that at least is good. 🙂
This was a great post and it really helped me to understand what can I do better. I am intresting in how you make contact/communicate with your patron deities, and spirit guides. Can you please tell us more about that? I have been receiving some signs , often it comes when I am down and it shows up as a heart symbol and make me feel good instantly . Also somethimes when I a meditate I am asking questions and hearing answers however I don’t know if my mind is trick me or this is or real my higher self or spirit guide .
Is it the way to know ?
Hi Visnja,
It takes time to really be able to hear the gods, your spirit guides, etc. But I don’t do anything special to communicate. I just talk to them, and try to listen out for the answer. 🙂 You’ll get better in time.
This was a great post and it really helped me to understand what can I do better. I am intresting in how you make contact/communicate with your patron deities, and spirit guides. Can you please tell us more about that? I have been receiving some signs , often it comes when I am down and it shows up as a heart symbol and make me feel good instantly . Also somethimes when I a meditate I am asking questions and hearing answers however I don’t know if my mind is trick me or this is or real my higher self or spirit guide .
Is it the way to know ?
Hi Visnja,
It takes time to really be able to hear the gods, your spirit guides, etc. But I don’t do anything special to communicate. I just talk to them, and try to listen out for the answer. 🙂 You’ll get better in time.