Day 3

Well we are into day 3 already. I hope that the principles taught so far have been helping you.

Yesterday we discussed the nature of the two forces behind the law of attraction. Do you remember what those forces are?

The two forces behind the law of attraction are momentum and resistance.

And recall that momentum just tells you how strong your desire is, because the stronger the desire, the more universal energy is being called in response to that desire.

And resistance is telling you how open or closed that valve to universal energy is, which you can tell by whether the emotion is positive or negative. A positive emotion means that the valve is pretty open, and universal energy is flowing freely. A negative emotion means that the valve is more closed off, impeding the flow of that energy.

And so I said that the secret to releasing resistance is to stop disallowing the flow of universal energy. In other words, stop pushing against your own thoughts and feelings.

People often don’t understand that you can’t push against one thing, and allow another. Universal energy is universal energy.

Imagine that you’re in a boat floating down the river. Right now you may not like the scenery that’s around you, so you try to paddle upstream.

But the truth is that everything good and enjoyable is downstream. If you push against the river now, you’ll only get to more and more unwanted parts of the river.

However, if you let go and allowed yourself to go downstream, then the unwanted would turn into more and more wanted.

This is why even if you have a thought like, “Money is so hard to earn,”you shouldn’t push against that. That thought is only a reflection of where you are on the river.

But as you let go, then your natural thoughts about money start to get more and more positive, all on their own.

The reason is that a thought is just a manifestation of where you are in that metaphorical river. That is, in more literal terms, your thoughts are a manifestation of your vibration, which is the intersection between pure universal energy, and the degree of your allowing.

I know we discussed a lot of this yesterday, but I wanted to give an analogy that might be more understandable as well.

Releasing Resistance

Now we discussed yesterday that the first thing to do in order to release resistance is to make peace with where you are now.

Making peace with where you are now just means to stop pushing against present reality.

And now you should know why that’s so important. Pushing against anything just brings you more upstream, where reality is more unwanted.

When you make peace with what is, you are letting go, and so beginning to float downstream, to where reality is more wanted.

So again, I cannot emphasize too much the importance of making peace with where you are now. It is the very first step, before you can do anything else.

I know it feels counterintuitive, but so do many of these principles. We’re not used to life being effortless, so we think we have to push against what we don’t want.

However, this won’t take care of all resistance, and so I want to give some general tips, and then some specific techniques.

Following the Path of Relief

You can only have one of two reactions to a thought: allowing or disallowing.

If you are allowing, then you are moving towards what you want. And if you are disallowing, then you are moving away from it.

Now notice how I am strictly talking about allowing or disallowing your thoughts, not reality itself. That’s because we never have resistance about reality itself, only our thoughts about reality. It’s an important distinction, and one that deserves more coverage, but not in this particular challenge since we have so much to discuss.

So you are only ever allowing or disallowing. Disallowing is resistance, and so it follows that if you have resistance, the only way of releasing it is to start allowing.

How do you know if you are allowing? Well again, your emotions.

But there is one specific emotion to watch out for: relief. Relief is the indicator that you have just allowed a bit more, and are moving in the right direction.

If you feel relief, even just a little, it means you’re headed towards your desire.

And so when you make peace with what is, or simply start allowing more, or use the techniques I’ll discuss later, you should always feel relief.

If you follow that path of relief, you will unerringly walk right into your manifestation every time.

Worrying

Now in the area of money in particular, it seems to be easier to worry about what the future will bring.

The more dire your situation, the more you may tend to worry.

But ask yourself, is worry more on the side of allowing, or of disallowing?

Disallowing, of course. Worry is a huge form of resistance.

Now again, we are often attached to our worrying. It feels like we have to, or else our problems will sneak up on us.

But apply this to the principles we’ve discussed so far. Worrying is a form of disallowing, and so as long as you are worrying, you are moving upstream, more towards the things you don’t want.

I know how it is, because I’m a big worrier myself. But, I can say without a doubt that it has never resulted in anything good in my life.

So how do you stop worrying?

Making peace with what is may help a little, especially if there are elements of guilt or shame about where you are now.

But most worry is about the future, not the present.

If you can feel how you are disallowing, and lighten up on that so you begin allowing more, then that would certainly do it.

But, that is hard for some, so I will give more specific suggestions.

Before I continue to more specific suggestions, I just want to give one suggestion that helped me immensely in times of worry: don’t panic.

When I’ve been in the most dire of situations, reminding myself not to panic, and just to stay calm about everything, has been the most helpful and effective way of allowing things to shift for me.

Shifting Your Focus

One vital truth in life is that every single situation contains elements of both wanted and unwanted.

When we’re worrying, we are laser focused on the unwanted aspects of reality, or even of imagined reality, since worry is so often about some fabricated situation we’ve made up in our head.

However, nothing contains 100% unwanted.

In fact if 99% of things in your life were unwanted, and only 1% were wanted, if you would just focus on that 1%, all the rest would follow.

So we have to find those aspects of life that are already wanted, or tell a new story about what is in a way that it brings relief.

The first way of doing this is by finding an aspect that is wanted.

So let’s take an example where you don’t know if you’ll be able to afford the electric bill.

Now your situation could be more or less dire. It could be as simple as not being able to afford something you really want, and you feel frustrated about that. But I’m intentionally choosing a more dire situation to point out how this works.

So let’s say you don’t know if you will be able to pay the electric bill. That is certainly an unwanted aspect about your financial situation, right?

But now, what could be a wanted aspect?

Well let’s think of a few:

• Were you able to eat today?
• Did you successfully pay the phone bill?
• Did you pay rent this month?
• Do you have running water?
• Do you have a roof over your head?
• Do you have an internet connection?

All the above are likely to be true, and also definitely wanted aspects.

Again it’s easier to focus on that one unwanted thing, because it’s so scary. But with a bit of thought, you can find lots of wanted aspects about where you are now.

Now this has to be authentic. When you think of these other things, it should bring a genuine feeling of relief, as I discussed above. You don’t want to fake it.

But an example might be this kind of train of thought:

• “Oh the electric bill is due next week. What if I can’t pay it?”
• “Well yeah that’s kind of scary, but at least I was able to pay all the other bills.”
• “And it’s kind of nice that I have so much food available to me to eat.”

Etc, etc.

The second thing you can do is to tell a different story about the unwanted aspect. I’ll just give an example to show what I mean.

• “Oh the electric bill is due next week. What if I can’t pay it?”
• “Well, the electric company has been understanding with me in the past. I’m sure we can work out something.”

Doesn’t the second thought feel better than the first?

The third thing you can do is just to go very general about everything.

• “Oh the electric bill is due next week. What if I can’t pay it?”
• “Well, you know, things usually work out for me.”
• “I’ve been seeing so much more recently how the Universe is supporting me.”

The fourth and final thing you can do is just to distract yourself. Go read a good book, or do anything else that you enjoy.

If you can genuinely get the unwanted situation out of your head for a while, then you will feel better.

This one is often hard with money, because money is so much at the core of everything we do, that it is hard to forget about it.

So, do this only if you really can get your mind off of the situation. But if you find yourself being nagged by the worry about this situation, then do one of the first three methods.

All of the above can be categorized simply as, finding a better feeling thought.

To summarize, you can:

1. Find the wanted aspects of the situation
2. Tell a different story about the situation.
3. Go general.
4. Distract yourself.

Homework for Day 3

I know we covered a lot today, but hopefully it was helpful to you.

All I want you to do for today is to apply the above techniques to any resistance that comes up.

Don’t go looking for resistance, but if you find your mind turning towards the negative, then try out these techniques, until you feel relief.

And still continue day 1’s exercise, of focusing on the goal seed.

As always, if you have any questions, feel free to ask them in the Facebook group.

I’ll see you tomorrow for day 4!